We were making plans and he invited me to stay the night at his place then spend the following couple of days together.

He was going to be home late and casually asked if I would catch the train or drive to him.

My response “I won’t catch the train by myself at that hour. You can come pick me up if you like or I’ll just see you in the morning 😊”

He quickly agreed to pick me up, a 30 minute round-trip.

The next day our topic of conversation happened to relate to this and he told me he wouldn’t want to be with someone that doesn’t show common sense to stay safe ie. avoid catching public transport late at night alone.

He would have lost all respect for me if I had agreed to put myself in harms way for his convenience.

I would have when I was younger and naive but older and somewhat wiser me knows it’s not worth the risk. If a man really cares about you he should want to take care of you and make sure you’re safe.

All men have the audacity to test us to see what our standards are and what they can get away with. In theory when they recognise a HVW, a HVM will then see her as worthy of his full effort/protection.

I’d like to think a HVM would treat ALL women well but they are men after all, LVW do exist, and the vetting process goes both ways right?

Edit to add:

**I THINK ** he would have diminished respect for me if I had agreed to put myself in harms way for his convenience.

I thought HVM were just as picky as HVW. I’m learning how to be more HV and recognise HVM but I still do some pickmeisha/LVM things, so I thought it was some kind of test and I thought I did well 🤷🏻‍♀️