Are you ever disappointed when a prospect shows he’s LV?

DivineHag · 2020-05-04T22:46:09+00:00

Yes but it doesn't compare to the constant heart-aching, gut-sinking disappointment you'd be living if you settled and got into a relationship with them.

devoushka · 2020-05-05T00:13:28+00:00

Yes I've been talking to a guy throughout lockdown that I went out with twice before it started and we clicked incredibly well. We talked almost every day since our first date which was almost 2 months ago now. 3 days ago we are sending each other snapchats back and forth and he leaves me on read. Still haven't heard from him.

I know I shouldn't message him but I am very disappointed, we video chatted dozens of times, he set up "dates" for us to watch movies and TV shows at the same time while video chatting, we even played online games with my friends. Idk, I thought we had a connection. I don't know why I even try to build something with anyone anymore.

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-05-04T23:06:09+00:00

I’m so jaded at this point, I just expect they all secretly suck and I’m pleasantly surprised if I’m wrong 😂

StupidHappyPancakes · 2020-05-05T07:54:21+00:00

I was really disappointed with the first guy I got exclusive with after my divorce. He was very intelligent and kind, and he was genuinely really into me sexually and as a person. Because my marriage had been nothing but abuse, I was giving the new guy an awful lot of extra credit just for liking me and not being mean to me, but I started to realize that even though we were the same age, it was like he was twelve years younger than me in terms of life experience and responsibility. And my life was HARD after that divorce, let me tell you, so I had little patience for immaturity.

Dude was in his early 30s, taking a class here and there towards his associate's degree, rooming with like three other dudes in their 30s, and only working delivering newspapers a few hours a day. In the beginning, he always took me out and paid for everything, but in retrospect I wonder if he was begging his parents for money for dates. His car was about 20 years at all, which I don't care about as far as "he must have a nice car," but I became petrified that his car would break down and I'd get stuck putting it on my credit card because he had no credit either. He started hanging around my townhouse constantly and just eating all my food, and I was resenting the hell out of it.

I got fed up all at once when he came over one day not wearing socks, and it's below zero and his job is outside, and when I asked him why he had no socks, he said he left most of his socks at his parents' house when he moved out. Well, he had moved out many months prior to that and had never bothered to either pick up his damn socks or buy a few new pairs! I was like, ugh, do I have to fucking buy him socks because he's my boyfriend and I don't want him to get frostbite?

I just suddenly got filled with rage at that point, and I knew I'd never be attracted to him again. And it was weird because he had a really little dick, which I somehow had barely even noticed before, but all of a sudden I just felt disgusted by that too.

I ended up dumping him via text message, which I do still feel some guilt about today because I'm sure he felt like it came out of nowhere, but here's the thing: I did talk to him about him needing to do better and pitch in more multiple times, but he was too much of an oblivious child to make a real effort.

I never spoke to him again after I broke up with him. A few years ago, I noticed on Facebook that he had a baby with some other woman, and I felt so sad for her because I can practically guarantee he's still in the exact same living situation with an equally shitty cash flow.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-05-05T01:12:04+00:00

This is a big part of the reason that I just don't date anymore. It got tiring always getting my hopes up and then being let down.

mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-05-04T22:13:32+00:00

Yes. When that happens it’s disappointing because I thought he was different, but in reality he’s just another LVM. And depending on how long you’ve known him you might already wasted time on him as well.

Sunken cost fallacy is a bitch, but we just have to leave when they reveal their LV selves

Amy3e13 · 2020-05-04T23:28:09+00:00

If you date multiple people at once you will care less. That way you won't get emotionally attached too fast.

JesusisKingisLord · 2020-05-05T02:54:00+00:00

Honestly at this point in my life, most men who approach me are LV. When I was in my early 20s and late teens I was over the moon every time I got asked out. Now I'm in my late 20s, and when I go out with people who don't immediately present blaring red flags I'm shocked.

gogetawaythrowitaway · 2020-05-05T02:36:06+00:00

Their loss sis, just remember you'll have saved yourself time and effort. I know it can be disappointing when they seemed really nice, but better you find out they're no good earlier than later, their loss.

You've seen the true colours of them now and can move on so it's a blessing really.

pallta · 2020-05-05T03:29:31+00:00

Yes, I sometimes get invested too early and am disappointed. However, it’s gotten better with time and experience,

Title	Are you ever disappointed when a prospect shows he’s LV?
Author	savagecarebear2
Upvotes	71
Comments	25
Date	May 4, 2020 10:00 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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