BREAK-UP PSA: CHANGE YOUR LOCKS 🔐

AC7878 · 2021-06-01T20:12:33+00:00

Oh yeah please do this. I had an ex walk into my house after months of the break up. Thank goodness I was home with my dad. While my dad was taking care of him, I went ahead and changed our entire security system.

PenneyPence · 2021-06-01T21:41:00+00:00

And don’t give a man you are not married to copies of your keys! I made that mistake with my ex. Thankfully, he gave me his copy back during the breakup and the landlord had to get the door repaired and changed the locks a few months later, but in hindsight, I should have changed the locks immediately.

laffytaggy · 2021-06-01T18:27:16+00:00

Wow. This reminds me that a couple days before my ex and I broke up he went out and ran some errands for me and I gave him my keys so he can get back into my secured building on his own (I didn’t want to have to go down to the lobby in my pajamas). When he returned he joked that he made a copy of my keys..

moon-drag0n · 2021-06-02T00:10:21+00:00

I should have changed that stupid lock, I should have made you leave your key

If I'd known for just one second you'd be back to bother me

autumnbabyxo · 2021-06-01T22:49:51+00:00

This is great advice. I also recommend changing any account/internet passwords, even if you think your ex doesn’t know them. I had an ex hack into one of my accounts because he secretly watched/memorized me typing in my password.

MadamePotpourri · 2021-06-01T21:37:12+00:00

This is great advice and I'm glad you kept yourself safe OP!

I would also recommend that if you don't live with your boyfriend, do not let him have the keys to your place. Its too much of a liability and could be a safety issue if things do not work out. Instead give your extra set of keys to a good female friend or family member for safekeeping

Lala00luna · 2021-06-02T02:37:47+00:00

Just watched a YouTube video on Jon Koppenhaver aka war machine, who did this to his ex girlfriend - he ended up beating her and raping her and she had to jump off of a balcony to escape. He was a sick man from the start but you never know what a person is willing to do when you end a relationship.

vbych76 · 2021-06-01T19:21:21+00:00

Definitely agree on this . An ex of mine tried to withold a spare key for my place during our break up, even though he had zero belongings at that place at the time. It appeared that he has hid it even before the break up and I had to look for it during the fight and before I leave. But the peace afterwards was totally worth it. You have to be paranoid in order to be safe.

finance_lady · 2021-06-02T02:23:21+00:00

I have a smart lock and my ex boyfriend had a code for it. I deleted his code IMMEDIATELY. My model of smart lock also has a keyhole but I never gave him a physical key.

This was over a year ago - no issues with him since.

MissDesignDiva · 2021-06-01T20:06:55+00:00

On the topic of keys, in my opinion a required watch for every woman should be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rnmcRTnTNC8 this talk by Deviant Ollam (Yes, I know a guy, but he has some seriously great information) his job is to go and break into buildings and teach companies how to secure their buildings better. While what he's talking about relates to businesses, a lot of the advice he gives can be used for residential too like early on in the video when he talks about security hinges for doors. He's done other talks but this is one of my favourites. They also talk about the control panels a lot of apartment/condo buildings use where someone can punch in a specific number for your place and be all "hey can you let me in" those are often keyed alike, and not nearly as secure as people think they are.

fingernmuzzle · 2021-06-02T02:23:35+00:00

When I changed my locks I bought the exact same brand and style so they were really easy to change- no door modifications or anything.

eveloe · 2021-06-01T18:22:21+00:00

Damn

Fit_Juice · 2021-06-01T19:42:14+00:00

Tbh dating seems like too much effort, who has the time to hire a lock smith because your significant other's fe fees were hurt?

Title	BREAK-UP PSA: CHANGE YOUR LOCKS 🔐
Author	w0rmsongs
Upvotes	458
Comments	35
Date	June 1, 2021 6:03 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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