Can't believe this 🤦‍♀️

TheOGJammies · 2020-03-07T13:43:23+00:00

The audacity of this scrote. Wow. I bet Emily was steady needling his girlfriend too. Two low value losers who deserve each other.

CuriousCatNYC777 · 2020-03-07T13:58:09+00:00

Sharing your earnings / income information with LVM / NVM is one of the DEADLIEST mistakes a woman can ever make in her life.

This goes for boyfriends, husbands, baby daddies, uncles, cousins, friends, brothers and fathers.

DON’T EVER MAKE THIS DETRIMENTAL ERROR.

STFU about your finances, or watch it reduce before your eyes.

LVM/ NVM are there to TAKE, not give.

They will gladly take from you, and give it to another woman in order to flex, as was done in this post, and others that I’ve seen.

Stealing is an LVM trait.

Pay attention ladies!

SeaFocus4 · 2020-03-07T14:35:47+00:00

Together for TWO YEARS and they never buy each other anything other than for birthdays? That’s a dead end relationship. And he humiliates her in front of their friends? And he repeatedly pays for another woman? Girl #dumphim2020

drownthemout · 2020-03-07T15:59:19+00:00

And one of the comments...

NTA. From the above comments it seems I'm in the minority, but reading through your story, I didn't thinking you were the asshole, honestly.

I'm female, I have a boyfriend, we pay 50/50 on shared experiences (from a joint account, which we pay equally into, life is easier). If he wanted to personally pay for a shared female friend, I wouldn't stop him, or be annoyed. It's his money. His decision. His kindness. I would probably share this too, and offer to either pay myself or from our shared money.

All this hate on Emily, you don't know anything about her, what is she is sick, depressed, out of work, being investigated financially, we don't know. Maybe going out with her friends is keeping her sane. She's lucky to have someone like you helping her.

You need to talk this over with your GF. Find out why it upsets her, since she can afford to pay for herself. Prehaps, as others suggested, she is jealous, and is wanting something else from you. Or maybe she is selfish. I don't know her. You do.

I hope hearing this helps, there's a lot of YTA here, so maybe I'm wrong from a generalist pov, but I know not every relationship follows the stereotypical roles people expect.

Good luck.

Not only does this pickmeisha agree with him, but she would pay half herself! Nah, sis.

Uglyoldncranky1982 · 2020-03-07T14:44:54+00:00

He's banging Emily for sure.

aclumsygirl · 2020-03-07T15:11:29+00:00

And Emily knows exactly what she's doing, too.

2020-03-07T15:25:50+00:00

Funny how he finds the money to pay for his broke lady friend every week but he never finds the time or effort to buy his own girlfriend a damn dinner.

pissed_af · 2020-03-07T15:10:32+00:00

They're going to break up sooner or later and this asshole will start dating Emily, he'll pick up every tab, i just know this will happen

Davina33 · 2020-03-07T16:11:40+00:00

I was waiting to see this on here! What on earth is she doing with a friend like that? I went out with my friend and her boyfriend once. He paid for both of us to go bowling and a nice dinner. Paying for a woman and not your own girlfriend is out of order. He probably fancies the friend.

darkhorse8419 · 2020-03-07T15:13:17+00:00

Wow, the level of disrespect, and the complete stupidity. Men only think with their dicks. What would he tell a guy friend who had “fallen on hard times”. He’s say, “ Guess you’re staying home. Broke ass bitch”

gigi_chi · 2020-03-07T13:53:05+00:00

This is why we don’t do 50/50 relationships 🗣 generous men ONLY.

Milobear27 · 2020-03-07T16:28:06+00:00

Men make me sick. When I think they’ve reached the bottom they just keep on digging. I pray she broke up with him!!

Radiant_Success · 2020-03-07T13:50:36+00:00

And I bet his girlfriend is giving him "morning blow jobs" and free sex, while he is making it rain on this other woman during their friend dates 😂😂😂

Smh. I wonder what lesson the "girlfriend" will take out of this "relationship".

2020-03-07T18:21:42+00:00

Even worse, the OP returned to try and justify himself and admitted that Emily is a new friend from his evening class and he introduced her to the friendship group. He thinks his girlfriend is jealous because she's not the only girl anymore. What a tool.

90sCosmoEnergy · 2020-03-07T20:20:57+00:00

Emily is a textbook low value woman. LVWs like to play manipulative games to hold power over other girls because it makes them feel powerful. Emily undoubtedly hates herself and plays this game with OP's girlfriend to try to get a little crumb of validation and self-empowerment. OP's girlfriend needs to walk away from both of them and let Emily finally have this LVM, only to be treated in the same shitty way and get the comeuppance she deserves.

EDIT: I actually have one long-time platonic heterosexual male friend. I originally know him through my brother, and despite every goddamn rule I know about male-female interaction, our friendship really breaks the mold and feels very healthy. It's been over 15 years and he's never pulled any "I'M ACKSHUALLY IN LOVE WITH YOU" bullshit and I know he's a very HVM.

I back the fuck off when he has a girlfriend. I let her set the ground rules. I go out of my way to be respectful, aware of boundaries and kind. Emily is the kind of girl who ruins it for the rest of us.

grimreapersdtr · 2020-03-07T18:31:52+00:00

AITA for not paying for my girlfriend's dinner? My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We both pay for our own food and expenses unless it's for a gift or birthday. We have a large circle of friends, one of them (Emily) has been falling on hard times and doesn't have much money.

I've often picked up the tab for Emily when we go out with friends, because I make a good amount and can afford it. My girlfriend started getting angry that I was paying for another woman and it seemed suspicious.

I reassured her that I'm just being generous and Emily won't always need help. My girlfriend said that if Emily is struggling so much, she shouldn't be going out. Since when should having fun be exclusive to those who are well off?

Well, last weekend we went out again. My girlfriend was being weird about ordering, waiting for everyone else to finish before she did. I offered to pay for Emily again. My girlfriend then ordered something and asked if I could pay for her.

My girlfriend makes about as much as me. She's not strapped for money. Our agreement was to pretty much always split things 50/50, and now she was going back on that in front of our friends to try and teach me a lesson or something.

The way I saw it, she was using the public setting to corner me into giving in. Well, I didn't fall for it, and called her out. I told her she makes just about as much money as me, she can pay for herself.

After blowing up and telling Emily to "stop smirking" (she wasn't) she ran out. My friends think I should've just paid for her but she didn't need it.

And, of course, his name is "my money and my rules". In other words, he thinks he should be paying for other women's dinners and drinks right in front of his girlfriend, while expecting her to pay for her own, and she has no right to complain. I mean, unless this girl was his indigent little sister, I would be pissed, too.

ilikesoy_ · 2020-03-07T20:20:48+00:00

SO glad theres no "NTA, ESH, OR NAH"

everyone sees how much of a lowlife op is

naenita_ · 2020-03-08T03:04:59+00:00

Fun isn't reserved for the well off, just buying things. Like dinner. 🤦‍♀️

They could plan free activities for Emily to join them. 🤷‍♀️

Title	Can't believe this 🤦‍♀️
Author	drownthemout
Upvotes	69
Comments	27
Date	March 7, 2020 1:36 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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