Don't reward the bare minimum.

Villanelloh · 2021-01-17T11:47:06+00:00

Men = praised for bare minimum

Women = berated for not meeting ever increasing unrealistic standards

CassieGreen85 · 2021-01-16T23:17:47+00:00

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Mcccy · 2021-01-16T23:29:55+00:00

Fr. Whenever a girl says "He actually listens to me when I talk!" I want to hug her

smitty4728 · 2021-01-17T15:04:24+00:00

This reminds me of a great scene in the great movie "Made in Dagenham" (about the women workers of a Ford plant in London UK who go on strike for equal pay to the male employees in the 60s). The main character, Rita, who is leading the workers' charge, has an argument with her husband Eddie:

Eddie: Christ, I like a drink, but I ain't out on the beer every night or screwin' other women, or... 'Ere, I've never once raised me hand to you. Ever. Or the kids.

Rita: Christ.

Eddie: What? Why are you looking like that?

Rita: Right. You're a saint now, is that what you're tellin' me, Eddie? You're a bleedin' saint? 'Cause you give us an even break?

Eddie: What are you saying?

Rita: That is as it should be. Jesus, Eddie! What do you think this strike's all been about, eh? Oh yeah. Actually you're right. You don't go on the drink, do ya? You don't gamble, you join in with the kids, you don't knock us about. Oh, lucky me. For Christ's sake, Eddie, that's as it should be! You try and understand that. Rights, not privileges. It's that easy. It really bloody is.

khaleesiqwn · 2021-01-17T12:52:25+00:00

It’s sad that the patriarchy/men have basically trained us to be grateful for the bare minimum... so many men are abusive (whether emotionally, verbally, physically, sexually..), manipulative, gaslighting, narcissistic, etc... that when we finally meet a normal man, it can seem great and shocking even. (It’s also sad that I’ve heard a few family members say “well, at least he doesn’t hit me”). The bar is so low.

TheSuspiciousChard · 2021-01-17T15:59:15+00:00

Like imagine as a woman you would be considered extremely special for knowing how to crack an egg, of because you ever had a job once. Or because you did one load of laundry!

Men have been praised for much less! Example: drinking water.

Sewud · 2021-01-16T23:47:03+00:00

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2021-01-17T04:20:03+00:00

No one is special, but not everyone is decent.

breadandbunny · 2021-01-17T17:41:43+00:00

It is true. And sad that these things are looked at that way. Simply put, a decent person behaves as they should towards the people they encounter.

Title	Don't reward the bare minimum.
Author	azureangel35
Upvotes	4099
Comments	32
Date	January 16, 2021 11:01 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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