How do I interpret this Tinder message?

ThicThighzSavesLivez · 2020-01-05T19:23:52+00:00

“Stop asking and start jumping” seems an apt response.

Seriously though, I kind of appreciate the directness. So I might say “minimally a proper date with a meal” and let him figure out the rest. Then you can see if he’s full of shit or not.

H_Mercury · 2020-01-05T18:58:24+00:00

Tbh this does seem passive -aggressive but it’s hard to tell from one sentence. Just be on the lookout for more of that, and watch for yourself feeling defensive as you’re talking to him.

9penguin · 2020-01-05T21:04:49+00:00

It's negging, he implies you're a bitch so you'll be self conscious and sell yourself short for him. Block.

redbirdflies · 2020-01-05T19:28:22+00:00

He’s throwing out an assumption you’re difficult. Looking for a pickmeisha. Swipe left.

2020-01-05T19:13:35+00:00

If he really like, he'd just ask you out. It's not hard.

I'd just leave him on read. Guy on tinder have such a victim complex

MelatoninNightmares · 2020-01-06T00:43:09+00:00

This is negging, it implies that you're high-maintenance, so you bend over backwards trying to prove to him that you're actually a Cool Girl. And, as an added bonus, you offer up the standards so he can pretend to meet them, use them to manipulate you, or begin trying to whittle them down. This would probably be pretty effective on a Pickmeisha who thinks that being high-maintenance is a character flaw.

It's high-level negging and I'm actually almost impressed by the strategy. This guy is smart, and dangerously manipulative - or is taking cues from someone who is.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-01-05T19:52:20+00:00

I experienced this once. Some guy opened with "what do I have to do to get you to go on a date with me?" And I replied "make me want to go on a date with you". It was a wasted reply. He never responded lol.

This guy seems to be negging. I wouldn't bother responding.

extraacct1234 · 2020-01-05T20:00:47+00:00

Lvm cringe

smittydoodle · 2020-01-05T19:15:50+00:00

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take1990 · 2020-01-05T19:53:17+00:00

Sounds like he sends this to everyone since its one paragraph.

Its too soon to judge. I’d just say thanks and not really answer that question.

Parking-Act · 2020-01-05T22:01:13+00:00

It sounds entitled to me. Like he wants you to admit to being difficult for having standards. A HVM wouldn't say this.

DrMcFoxyMD · 2020-01-05T18:37:26+00:00

He cut to the chase. Either a direct communicator by nature, jaded, confident, or trying to fake confidence.

riseaboveagain · 2020-01-05T22:46:28+00:00

He didn’t mention anything from the profile. He probably didn’t even read it.

I’d be suspicious that he’s fired off this same copypasta to every woman he finds attractive, just to see who’ll bite his weak bait. That’s a “nope” from me.

wowthispostissad · 2020-01-05T18:51:49+00:00

Hard to tell. Need more context.

ThatsWhat__I__Said · 2020-01-05T22:27:51+00:00

When I would get those types of questions, I would just say "Inspire me."

If they can't figure that out then they have no business asking. Most of the time there was no follow-up. It was as if they wanted me to do the work for them. Fuck that.

Title	How do I interpret this Tinder message?
Author	smittydoodle
Upvotes	58
Comments	22
Date	January 5, 2020 6:34 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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