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Wife’s message to husband on Tinder

smittydoodle

December 14, 2021
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Title Wife’s message to husband on Tinder
Author

smittydoodle

Upvotes 694
Comments 48
Date December 14, 2021 6:13 AM UTC
(4 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/rg0zaj/wifes_message_to_husband_on_tinder/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wifes-message-to-husband-on-tinder.1092533
https://theredarchive.com/post/1092533
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Comments

[–]Commercial_Place9807FDS Newbie 427 points428 points429 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

That wedding picture is giving me the “she’s beautiful and he’s…there” TikTok meme sound clip, if you know what I mean you know. Like she legit looks like Carry Underwood and there he is looking like Michael Cera at 15.

It looks like a teen romcom where the popular girl is dancing with the geek for a bet.

[–]AmeliaEmiliaEmmaFDS Newbie 47 points48 points49 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Nothing makes me laugh more than comments on this sub lol Michael Cera 💀

[–]oi_oi_oinkFDS Apprentice 129 points130 points131 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

he is looking like Michael Cera at 15

I was literally gonna say this! How do these men look the way they do and still have the audacity to cheat?

[–]devwitchFDS Newbie 127 points128 points129 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Not sure why I’m having such a visceral reaction to his “Yeah I’ll stupid slow dance with you for this stupid wedding photo” expression.

[–]aburke626FDS Newbie 65 points66 points67 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

If your newlywed husband looks like he’s being forced to dance with great aunt myrtle who pinches his cheeks … you should run.

[–]DeterminedblondeFDS Newbie 525 points526 points527 points 4 years ago (30 children) | Copy Link

He has no chin and the audacity to look for another woman when his wife is the best he’s ever gonna get.

[–]Some-Air9442FDS Newbie 180 points181 points182 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

She’s way too attractive for him.

Men overestimate themselves.

[–]Equal-Ear2312FDS Apprentice 83 points84 points85 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

men overestimate themselves and the attention from a beautiful women makes them overconfident. this is why we should never go for under-looks.

​

my ex was by all standards below average. sure, he had an ok body, but NOTHING special. if you ask me, he had a tendency to grow a gut. he was of average height and if I wore my platform heels, I would be slightly taller than him. he broke his nose numerous times and he had a deviated septum. in the looks department, his face SUCKED ass. he even wondered what did I see in him. I wondered that myself! hahaha! maybe it was the hormones in the beginning or maybe he lovebombed me just enough to make me get in relationship with him but the moment I told others that I thought he was handsome (he was also present), I think this piece of trash began thinking he was hot shit. proves he was just shit.

[–]Inspection-CriticalFDS Newbie 257 points258 points259 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

That's the thing that really gets me. Men overestimate their own greatness and think they can do better, even as they whine constantly on the internet about how hard it is to get women. Make it make sense.

[–]IchBinPlatzEinsJa 34 points35 points36 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This. You see it every day in real life, men constantly checking out other women despite the beautiful woman next to them.

You see it online too, men putting down women’s looks and talents anywhere and everywhere, in OLD that ghost because they’re going for the fake profiles/catfishers/kittenfishers (or just think oh she liked me back what else is out there).

They then come back around with a new account trying to talk to you again. Hahah nope!

Bad enough, all of that mess, but it adds something special to it when many of these men are lazing around looking like Teletubbies.

[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist 33 points34 points35 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

It’s part of their toxic game plan

The ‘poor me I’m so lonely , I hate hookup culture, wahhh women so superficial’

They want to falsely convince us they’re all struggling for women in the easiest generation for casual sex ever known to mankind

The bar has NEVER been lower ffs - that makes you a supreme loser if you actually are struggling as a man

It’s so they can secretly add more Pickmeisha’s to their haram b4 they panic buy wives

Funny these lonesome struggling men have no problem finding women to cheat with once they get in relationships - they will even cheat on women they got supremely lucky with

They know the dating field isn’t staying like this forever - so they want to trick us now b4 it dries up

[–]slayeroftruthFDS Apprentice 60 points61 points62 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

They listen to manosphere bullshit.

[–]purasangriaFDS Disciple 138 points139 points140 points 4 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link

Came here to say this.

What is it with that hybrid chin/neck thing that most men got going on? I rarely see that in all but the most obese women...

[–]Gambit12345FDS Newbie 66 points67 points68 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

One of my exes had what they call a “beta” chin. Very weak chin projection on top of genetic propensity to gain fat in his neck/gullet. He also ate out all the time and put no effort in exercise. Nowadays he has a thick beard to hide it lol

[–]purasangriaFDS Disciple 43 points44 points45 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

My ex-husband totally had a beta chin. Never again.

[–]DeterminedblondeFDS Newbie 43 points44 points45 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I had a skinny ex with no chin. It didn’t bother me. He hated it, but guess what? Poor diet, alcoholism and no gym = no desire to improve on this flaw. I don’t understand when a man is insecure but won’t work on it 🤔

[–]purasangriaFDS Disciple 18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

TBH, not really much that one can do about a weak chin, absent surgery. My ex couldn't grow a beard, so he couldn't even hide the weak chin....

[–]Keepers12345FDS Newbie 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

The good news is that, albeit not permanent, at least men have options:

-Jawline fillers - calcium hydroxylapatite or hyaluronic acid types

-CoolSculpting or WarmSculpting for neck fat removal

... Why don't most men take the initiative to invest in their faces? ...

[–]purasangriaFDS Disciple 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Because they're lazy. They put in ZERO effort, while demanding that we be hairless and made-up all the time...

[–]McccyFDS Disciple 46 points47 points48 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I notice that as well lately, maybe its from constand mouth breathing now with the masks? Or maybe it's since their childhood since no one told them it's wrong to do so?

[–]TikiTikiTata-chalalaFDS Newbie 39 points40 points41 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I think this is the cousin of the pot beer belly but it's a combination of drinking and untreated allergies.

Also I think so many men have allergies and they never treat them through medication or seeing an ENT, and then they just sleep, live, eat CONSTANTLY breathe with their mouths open. It ruins their lower third facial structure and causes weak jaws and then drinking immediately turns a weak jaw into a jowl

[–]purasangriaFDS Disciple 20 points21 points22 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

OMG. It's because they are literally mouth breathers. Unreal...

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

It's the insecure ones, they do it because they literally need to the female attention to feel better about themselves. No consideration for their partner who actually loves them for who they are.

This is the reason why I'll never go on a dating app again. Majority of the guys aren't even single in the first place and the rest are sleazy dudes who keep a roster of their matches on their instagram account.

[–]rocky24683FDS Newbie 190 points191 points192 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This is just sad

[+][deleted] 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

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[–]smittydoodleFDS Newbie[S] 136 points137 points138 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I agree. I’m surprised by the critical comments. I’m sure she just also wanted other women to know he’s a cheating scumbag.

[–]BlueSkiesOverLondonFDS Newbie 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly! I generally try to make a totally clean, surprise break for safety, but a woman is the best judge of her own situation—if she believes it’s safe to do this with this guy, it probably is. And come on, this is a hilarious way to make fun of him if he sees it, that takes her like 10 min max.

[–]ItsFreezenFDS Newbie[🍰] 172 points173 points174 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

He should be grateful he even got a wife.

[–]hanjaporfavorFDS Newbie 134 points135 points136 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Why are they always so ugly. He looks like a foot with a beer gut 😐

[–]The_Cat_EmpressFDS Newbie 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

😂

[–]PicoPicoMioFDS Newbie 21 points22 points23 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Oof she’s gorgeous. This dumbass probably thinks that just because he got someone out of his league. He can get someone even better. This is what my ex did. Tried to replace me with a downgrade pickmeisha.

[–]fireforestfairyFDS Apprentice 175 points176 points177 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

If the guy is cheating, she should just leave him.

[–]WhoDatSayDatFDS Newbie 165 points166 points167 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

He should leave. She should keep the house.

[–]BlueSkiesOverLondonFDS Newbie 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Pretty sure she’s making him leave her (“pack your bags”).

[–]Forsaken_Software394 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

He looks so boring how do men like this get married to gorgeous women pls

[–]katiekat0214FDS Newbie 88 points89 points90 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

One year, hell six months from now, not to say five or 10 years down the road, what do you bet any/all of the following happen?

HER: leveled up, financially comfortable or busting butt to get there, made strides in her career, back to favorite hobbies, loves having the remote control all to herself, lost weight, back to working out, much lighter workload at home.

HIM: beer gut, mouth breather all the time from untreated allergies or deviated septum or who knows, same position at work, lives in a bachelor pad that's filthy and/or has a mattress on the floor, dates 20something women, is "scared" of commitment, has an increasing beer, OnlyFans, porn habit, and goes on a lot of first dates.

This is a very, very common story. What I'd like to hear about instead is man looks within, sees where he went wrong, offers apology to his ex (and realizes she's not obligated to forgive, but he wanted to make the effort), works on his issues that he's been neglecting from childhood, starts really listening to women, asking questions, having long conversations with women he knows, thinks about his own behavior, begins to dismantle and look down on toxic masculinity, and just BECOMES A BETTER HUMAN. Dammit, why is any of that sooooo hard?

[–]mashibeansFDS Apprentice 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't forget maybe try to grow a pube-beard to hide his already nonexistent chin.

[–]The_Cat_EmpressFDS Newbie 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

These "no chin" comments are sending me...😂

The wife is stunning and deserves better!

[–]warinmymind94FDS Disciple 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

My heart hurts for her. She's a beautiful and he is never gonna find anyone like her. I hope she's already in contact with a good divorce attorney and finds healing.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I've dealt with this but I wasn't even married. I cant imagine how it must feel to realize the person you married would do this to you. I sympathize with her even if some people are saying she shouldn't have done this

[–]Superb-Cancel9071FDS Newbie 141 points142 points143 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Just leave him, this is embarrassing.

[–]Thestral-glow6FDS Newbie 69 points70 points71 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Yikes honey no. Also, where’s his damn chin in that photo😂

[–]Biracial_tooth_fairyFDS Newbie 25 points26 points27 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Ew their facial expressions don't even match up with his smile sliding down his weak chin. Poor woman was probably blindsided by this asshole.

[–]herbivorouscarnivoreFDS Newbie 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I hope she consulted with a divorce attorney first, and that she gets everything due to her!

[–]extraodiFDS Newbie 46 points47 points48 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

This is embarrassing. Yeah, he’d be served divorce papers and I’d be on my way out.

[–]Inspection-CriticalFDS Newbie 41 points42 points43 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, for anyone reading, let your divorce papers be your final word.

This isn't just about protecting your sanity, it's about your safety (physical and financial) and assuring your future. The best leverage you have in this situation is the cheater not knowing you know. Once he knows you're leaving, expect histrionics, sabotage, even violence.

Don't give him the opportunity to pull anything. Talk to a lawyer, line up your ducks, and drop divorce papers on him - preferably while he's at work or his girlfriend's house. Go read Chump Lady's blog for more.

[–]DiosaCordiliaFDS Newbie 26 points27 points28 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

She's making a fool out of herself. Cmon now. Throw him out.

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