here we go. yadda, yadda. he's been awesome. buying me dinner, bringing a very thoughtful gift on our first date, wrote me a song (he's in a punk band), always brings me tea to bed in the mornings, gave me his jacket... this could go on and on, but that's not the point.

his ex is "crazy". usually, men saying this is a huge red flag and i'm seriously not sure about this one.

according to him, she lied about tons of horrible things over the course of the relationship. like about having lung cancer for example. when he wanted to leave her eventually because she cheated (for which he did offer me proof), she secretly stopped taking the pill to "trap" him. she's also officially diagnosed with borderline.

they ended up splitting anyway, she kept the baby and he's definitely the father. they now appear to be on somewhat neutral terms - he was very open about this and gave me his phone to read through their messages myself. he doesn't want to be involved with the kiddo, but pays for him and helps with stuff he might need.

so normally i would've run immediately. however, i'm not sure in this case as he was very open about it and completely understanding if i want out. and as i said he's veeeery sweet to me and hasn't pressured me about anything at all.

what do you think? is it worth the risk? i know it's ultimately my decision, but a few opinions would be great.