If you’re writing a post asking for advice on your relationship, feel the need to google his bad behavior or have endless talks with friends and family analyzing him, it’s a clear sign that you should leave.

AverageToHot · 2020-09-05T21:55:19+00:00

Exactly. If you feel the need to google his behavior, he’s doing something wrong and don’t gaslight yourself into believing otherwise.

feast_or_famine1 · 2020-09-05T22:44:25+00:00

I remember when I was in the thick of a relationship like this, I came across a meme that said something along the lines of, "you know it's bad if you have to Google someone's behavior in order to understand them", and I was like, right I knew this wasn't normal, lol.

yfunk3 · 2020-09-06T01:43:52+00:00

Seriously. If you're questioning it so badly that you're seeking advice from strangers, just realize something is deeply broken somewhere. The very least you should do is get some outside professional help. If your SO doesn't want to be a part of that in a sincere, honesy way to get the both of you to a bettet place, you have your final answer.

It reminds me so much of the idiots on the "Ask a mechanic" subreddits who post pics of their absolutely trashed tires. I'm talking gaping holes, full-on bent rims, etc. And the post titles are always along the lines of "Do I have to get new tires?" YES! Holy crap, YES! Why are you wasting time posting on the internet?!

MissVvvvv · 2020-09-05T22:11:54+00:00

Very true. Do not feel ashamed to come to FDS for advice. We are all at different stages of our journey. At least you're taking a step in the right direction 😊

Verysoftbun · 2020-09-05T23:08:29+00:00

This.

Also if you start relating to Taylor Swift songs.

(No shade. I love her and I think she's leveling up herself. But it still stands.)

feast_or_famine1 · 2020-09-05T23:43:04+00:00

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poulette12 · 2020-09-05T23:23:38+00:00

I’ve been there. My whole relationship with my emotionally abusive gaslighting asshole of an ex involved me complaining to friends, complaining to my therapist, googling shit, finding this sub... I knew even before I dated the fucker that something was really wrong with him. But when I tried to end it at the beginning, dude got really sick and spent a week in the hospital, so I thought that like he had said, I had “misunderstood” him.

At least I always had my doubts and never just accepted his version of reality, even when I’d pretend to accept 50% of the blame but shit he was close to 100% responsible for or pretend to agree.

Hahane · 2020-09-06T08:39:35+00:00

How do you think I've discovered both Reddit and Quora? 😁 At least one good thing out of that relationship lol

yourscreennamesucks · 2020-09-06T00:11:16+00:00

Yeah when I started keeping a list of his behaviors and pulling out my phone to record his ass during arguments, it was time.

mfashnik-mmmcookies · 2020-09-06T02:55:22+00:00

Absolutely true!

Stankypanky1 · 2020-09-06T03:06:44+00:00

Deadass☝🏾😔

CDNblondie · 2020-09-08T05:25:03+00:00

Oh fuck. I'm 6.5 years in on my relationship and it's teetering hard. I've never been able to have good respectful communication with him and it's something I've been trying to fix since the beginning. I'm terrified of the feeling I'll have when I'm alone, living in the house that was our home and reminiscing on all the good aspects of the relationship... ugh it's so stressful.

chimerari · 2020-09-05T23:18:11+00:00

THIS! I can't upvote this enough!

slothsomesauce · 2020-09-05T23:27:23+00:00

🙌🙌🙌 truth

Rediecoration · 2020-09-06T08:17:10+00:00

Periodttttt

pozzalovah · 2020-09-06T09:30:35+00:00

If this isn't truth idk what is.

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