Hello ladies,

I'm a recovering pickmeisha, with a terrible romantic ("sob") history of choosing narcissistic NVMs for the last 5 years, putting up with too much shit from scrotes, approaching the dudes with too much "hope", "tolerance", "love", and "optimism", always sacrificing my sense of worth and respect. Cue my abusive family history, neglectful parents, and Disney-inspired fantasies.

Oh, how WRONG I was about the male animal and how my pickmeisha's ways played a part in allowing these idiots to live in my space.

I decided to take responsibility last week because I was freaking creating total chaos in my life by tolerating a total NVM with whom I was for 1.5 yrs and who was verbally and emotionally abusive. I dumped his ass over the phone and decided I needed to find like-minded women. And, I gotta say to find FDS is like a gift from the Goddess, this thread is seriously LIT !!! So much material here has helped me make the right decision to GTFO!

I feel like I get to know better now. Loving reading the wiki and the handbook! It's Goddess-sent. I gotta keep my boundaries iron-clad, dump anyone who disrespects me from the first time, level up in all areas of life, focus on MOI, pay for therapy, become that best version of myself, make my own money, and raise those standards to the fucking skyscraper level. So much work remains to be done, but thanks to FDS content I feel like it is so damn possible to level up for real.

I wanna know, from all ladies who DID end up with a HVM after a series of scrotes, how did you do it? What did you choose to stop doing and what did you start doing more of? What was your successful strategy for healing yourself from pickmeishism and becoming a QUEEN?