Remember this

AyemHerself · 2020-05-25T03:53:41+00:00

"At LeAsT I hAvE a MaN!"

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-05-25T04:05:34+00:00

You can't win as a pickmeisha. When you work to build a man up he'll either leave you after he's become what he wanted to be or he'll stick around and treat you like shit while not being shit. PERIODT.

Lavender_flow · 2020-05-25T09:19:49+00:00

I hate how we have been raised from little girls to be pickme's. We got all this "prince charming" bullshit drilled into us from childhood and how relationships are hard work. I agree relationships arent easy, but that DOESNT MEAN the woman should be the one doing 90% of the WORK, while a lazy pornsick guy sits on his ass all day doing the BARE MINIMUM. Fuck that.

mywhitevalentinobag · 2020-05-25T05:59:37+00:00

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HoneyNJ2000 · 2020-05-25T12:07:12+00:00

Hell, for a lot of women even if they DON'T do the 'pick me' dance, they still end up living a life of indentured servitude to some jerk-off. They work full time, they're stuck with all the domestic chores at home and they're usually also the one doing 90% of the parenting as well.

All while some worthless scrote lays his lazy, worthless ass on the couch or plays his video games.

Why on EARTH women find value in this and put up with this shit is beyond me.

vraimentaleatoire · 2020-05-25T05:52:43+00:00

Preach! I’m in my mid-thirties. Single going on 2 years now from a 7 year LTR. He was my best friend, my comfy place, we never bickered and we truly loved each other. And it was the hardest decision I had to make to end it. But I knew if in 7 years he wasn’t working on himself or putting as much effort into building our relationship as I was, that a ring would not change that (let’s not even get into 7 years and no ring- I see it as a win).

It’s just absolutely not true that you need to “just work through it!” And “love conquers all!” Cause no, it doesn’t. Now I’m single and happy and will never settle for someone who doesn’t provide me with the overall love and companionship I felt with my ltr AS WELL AS the things I know I need from a relationship/partner.

If a partnership isn’t giving growth and a better life experience to both people, wtf is it for? Why why why let yourself not have what you deserve?

I learned to love myself. And I love singledom. And it can happen for anyone.

lluuni · 2020-05-25T07:46:13+00:00

I love how mainstream the term pickme is becoming

2020-05-25T13:53:26+00:00

I would reverse this. Being alone is honestly great! A lifetime of indentured servitude to a terrible man is the worst. It is nowhere near the best case scenario!!

I dodged a NVM years ago. Seriously, total narcissistic sociopath who loved to hurt women. Very dangerous. He went on to marry one of his victims.

This woman was a total doormat. I only met her twice, but I can't recall what her voice sounded like because she never spoke. She ran around catering to his every whim like a servant. It was unreal. This woman had a damn PhD and was acting like a servant for a lazy asshole! I couldn't believe it.

She was gorgeous too, and an athlete. I never figured out how he landed her, because he was an insufferable, arrogant piece of shit who dropped out of school, was not cute at all, and kissed like a fish.

She also found a job for his unemployed ass at her company. No surprise, he didn't move up the chain at all while she's now at the director level. I'm sure she pays all the bills for them.

VivaLaSea · 2020-05-25T10:53:22+00:00

I would say that being an indentured servant to an unappreciative man is the worst case scenario.

Bovvsette · 2020-05-25T10:22:35+00:00

I think best case and worst case scenarios should be switched in this scenario. It's far better for your short and long term health and happiness to be alone than to be involved with a scrote, who will abuse you or push your boundaries.

azngirl7689 · 2020-05-25T11:09:02+00:00

The man will also never respect them. Men don’t respect women who beg for love.

noturdishwasher · 2020-05-25T13:19:35+00:00

As a former pickme, this is the hard truth that we all need to realise. Don't think you're the exception to the rule, don't waste your time.

Hating_Alison_Ashley · 2020-05-25T06:53:36+00:00

Except she has it backwards - ending up alone is a much better option than being with a guy who is going to treat you like a servant. Ending up along is dodging the bullet when you've tried to shoot yourself in the foot.

Title	Remember this
Author	mywhitevalentinobag
Upvotes	1753
Comments	43
Date	May 25, 2020 3:24 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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