for my fellow childfree women, the burden of birth control should not fall on your shoulders. i refuse to use any contraception which could affect my health. if a man wants the privilege of having sex with me, he will be the one under contraception. your childfree HVM should understand that expecting you to ruin your health by using contraception that has not been studied, researched or improved throughout the years, is asking you to tolerate medical misogyny. male contraception exists, and one of my requirements for a partner is a vasectomy. a childfree man who is not willing to get a vasectomy is a man who is not taking action aligned with his decision to be childfree and instead, expects the woman to bear the burden. a CF man who has had the procedure shows responsibility, maturity and commitment. furthermore, it suggests he does not struggle with toxic masculinity (although beware of the woke men). this is my personal view on the subject, and an absolute dealbreaker of mine and i am sharing it for other CF women to consider setting this standard/boundary. if you need more convincing, browse the childfree subreddit. there are many men (sometimes LV) getting vasectomies, so it should be a given a CF HVM would have one.

edit: he should share with you his medical record for proof of the surgery, never trust a man’s word alone.