Soo settle-y and depressing. Yikes.

pissed_af · 2020-02-24T00:01:28+00:00

Why not both?!

Nearby-Armadillo · 2020-02-24T00:09:56+00:00

FDS does state that you're better off with a man who loves you more than you love him. In my anecdotal observations I have found this to be true.

curlygirl507 · 2020-02-24T00:55:19+00:00

Hmm... The guy that supposedly loved me during college - who I started dating years later and was in a relationship with for 6 years - wanted me to be his mommy. He also stole over $10k from me.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-02-24T00:13:49+00:00

If he loves you he better damn well be showing it. I dated a man who loved me and wanted me more than anyone else, but he had alexythemia (I figured) and it ruined us. We need ACTIONS not words.

ReignRain95 · 2020-02-24T03:51:49+00:00

im convinced men only love what women do for them (cook, sex, status, take care of him, clean up after him) and not them as individuals. i genuinely think men even HVM who treat women right dont see women as people like women see men.

pinkdietcoke · 2020-02-24T04:41:40+00:00

Y’all don’t take any advice from this girl (although I’m sure she steals a ton of her tweets) but she is the biggest pickme I’ve ever seen. I used to follow her a couple of years ago and recently came across her profile again. She’s still screwing her ex that cheated on her with multiple women and married the one he got pregnant. Constantly posts stuff directed at his wife like “stop stalking my page your husband was eating me out last night” and it’s just a mess

Her Twitter

7_0f_9 · 2020-02-24T00:15:19+00:00

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hellau1234 · 2020-02-24T01:30:25+00:00

I know for some women this worked out quite well.

2020-02-24T02:57:46+00:00

I'm not saying that he shouldn't love you more. I'm saying you shouldn't settle for someone you don't love hoping it'll grow later just because he's around.

Karolin99_Ger · 2020-02-24T12:46:58+00:00

i would rather have someone who i Love who also Loves me. i couldn't Deal with not having both

rinabean · 2020-02-24T11:21:57+00:00

Telling women to fuck and care for men they don't love is the ultimate patriarchal bullshit and I can't believe women are defending it, pretending it's FDS?

Always the false options. This says "go for a man who you don't love as long as he loves you", it doesn't say "he should love you more than you love him". The choices are not "go for a man you don't love" or "throw yourself at a man you're crazy about who doesn't care about you"... you can love a man who loves you!

Just like it's not "have standards & die alone and miserable" or "go with the first man who'll have you".

Balkanka · 2020-02-24T17:24:47+00:00

I’d rather be alone than just tolerate someone bc the “love me” - there has to be mutual love there.

Title	Soo settle-y and depressing. Yikes.
Author	VeganRatGod
Upvotes	212
Comments	37
Date	February 23, 2020 8:46 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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