Strategy for scheduling dates

Junior-Lion7893 · 2022-01-10T14:33:07+00:00

That’s totally fine!

I don’t go home until 6pm most weekdays too. To me, staying out past 6pm is overkill. By the end of the day, I just want to take off my stockings, take a bubble bath, light some candles, and meditate in my pyjamas afterwards.

If I were you, I’d take it a step further and only meet on weekend afternoons, so I can have more time to myself lol

Maingurl · 2022-01-10T14:53:24+00:00

That's a reasonable request.

I'm on the same boat. Weekends only.

AmeliaEmiliaEmma · 2022-01-10T17:03:52+00:00

I (subconsciously) do the same! I will not go out of my way to shift around my work, home, sleep schedule to have dinner date on weekdays/Sunday nights. Saturday is the best option. It’s a rad flag anyway if a guy won’t do dates on Saturday- it mostly means that’s his “party time” or he is in a committed relationship already and can’t ditch his wife/gf/fiancé.

Determinedblonde · 2022-01-10T19:02:33+00:00

I agree with everyone. If a guy you’re seeing refuses to see you on the weekend, especially a Saturday, he’s a cheater.

SupremeDearLeader · 2022-01-10T15:08:29+00:00

It also helps weed out the married/ in a LT cheaters who can lie " I'm working late tonight hunny " to their partner , I love it !!!

melympia · 2022-01-10T14:34:23+00:00

It sounds reasonable.

Let's be honest, the weekend is prime time for everything not job-related. And if to him you aren't worth said prime time, then he shouldn't pursue you. Because that implies he's busy with someone else during the best time - be it his other girlfriend(s), his scrote friends (going out drinking to get "lucky") or whatever else. Something that will always be more important to him than you.

hopeful_flounder93 · 2022-01-10T14:35:12+00:00

Agreed! I'm just not going through the hassle of rushing through my workday and haphazardly getting ready to meet someone I barely know on a weeknight. I've also had a guy show up late & pathetically underdressed because he "just came from work" the one time I did this.

No thanks 🙄

It's a proper date or I'm not interested.

ButterfliesHurricane · 2022-01-10T14:32:12+00:00

I agree, it’s important to find someone who respects your time and your schedule in early interactions (part of the honeymoon period) should really not make you feel frustrated that going on a date is an inconvenience. I’m with you on a no date during the week (work, childcare etc, it’s too busy, as you say it can change when the other person is part of your life). I actually quite like the idea of a pub lunch on a Sunday, I think it can be nice.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2022-01-10T23:13:01+00:00

Yes, you MUST stick to the dating schedule that isn't disruptive, allows you to have a stress-free date, and to still have time to relax and unwind from other obligations. No, the first date is not considered as time off because it's way more stressful for women than for men.

When I was still dating, I'd only go on first dates during the week, right after work, so I wouldn't waste my time on getting dressed/putting on make up. I dress nicely for work in business casual, so I was pretty much always looking great and ready. If I was too tired or wasn't feeling like meeting that day, I'd just politely reschedule.

Weekends were my only time, reserved for time with friends and other activities which I wouldn't sacrifice for a date with a stranger. Only after a few dates with a prospective partner I'd start scheduling something with him on weekends.

It worked great without being exhausting, and looking rather professional than ready for a night out (some men even said intimidating) helped me to maintain a certain level of an emotional distance and set the tone of the date.

bioqueen53 · 2022-01-10T19:55:52+00:00

Weeknight dates are exhausting. Not to mention I like to shower, get dressed, do hair and makeup. When does anyone have time for all that getting home from work?

BedazzledSwashbuckle · 2022-01-10T18:00:48+00:00

I always did this back in my single days. Sometimes a casual, early Thursday night if Friday would be slow.

And it all needs to be scheduled before Thursday morning. My schedule was always pretty full, so it wasn't mind games - if they scheduled at least 48 hours prior and I really wanted to see them, I'd try to fit them in. Any closer and I'd be busy and suggest a time further out.

JadeBaby2211 · 2022-01-10T17:33:11+00:00

I agree with this, and will use this strategy myself. A date during the week does feel a bit like forcing intimacy, like a weeknight date is what I would do in a relationship. Plus I won't be at my best to look for red flags, I just worked all day and need rest!

xfelugirlx · 2022-01-10T21:45:50+00:00

It’s totally fine, I’m really tired during the week because i work and train so there isn’t many time out there

Specific-Composer300 · 2022-01-10T21:09:04+00:00

100% agreed. Weeks are busy and are for work and exercise until a man has proven himself and is worth giving up some of my limited free time during the week. Weekend are for fun, like dating. And if a man can't find the time for a weekend date then he doesn't have time for a relationship and I'm not interested. He shouldn't even be dating if he's soOoO busy he can't spend 2 hours out of the entire weekend on a date.

katiekat0214 · 2022-01-10T14:39:16+00:00

This is one of the main reasons I didn't date after Jack died: I was a teacher, working more than full-time, in Los Angeles, with a commute. Most days I'd wake up between 4-5am, and get home between 4-5pm or later. Weekends were for resting, shopping, cooking. I realized I just could not at all have any relationship from August to June! Laughing just thinking about that now.

These days, I'm retired for now, but do want to work again; I'm waiting to see what the deal is with omicron. I suspect it's more contagious but less deadly, and more like the "flu-rona".

I've had more time to think about what I'd want, but yes, overall, this sounds right. Friday or Saturday night dates work; Sunday is when people rest and catch up and get ready for the coming week ahead.

Constant-Wanderer · 2022-01-11T07:02:53+00:00

In the film industry, you get what you get. That might be nothing but wrap party night, lol

Title	Strategy for scheduling dates
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Date	January 10, 2022 2:16 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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