Such a shame

lagomlagume · 2020-08-04T10:26:51+00:00

Being a wlw can also be embarrassing...

The FDS handbook popped into the back of my mind when I was making a handmade gift for a woman I haven't even met yet and I just 🤦 maaaybe I should cool it.

It's so easy to keep men at arm's length, (at least for me, they're rarely that interesting) But imagine if he was a teacher's aide for special needs kids AND ran a successful handmade birdhouse Etsy page on the side while also going to therapy and meditating regularly? 🥺 The compassion, the talent, the growth

loudest_gusset · 2020-08-04T13:05:27+00:00

Reminds me of a tiktok posted here where a woman was speaking absolute nonsense to her boyfriend over facetime and he just kept replying with generic, "Oh?" "Okay," "Right, right," clearly not listening to a single word she said.

Lady_Schmoobleydong · 2020-08-04T15:31:46+00:00

“We laugh all the time.”

sisterofnarcissus · 2020-08-04T09:16:31+00:00

Or „oh he’s faithful”

daisy_0720 · 2020-08-04T13:08:36+00:00

"He showers every day and everything."

Yeah, the bar is in Antarctica at this point.

biscuitbutt11 · 2020-08-04T16:01:02+00:00

Haha I was just talking to my friend about this. How rare it is for guys to ask us questions or listen to us. Even if we are having sex with them. Pathetic. Seriously I just want to date a girl right now.

Teenie34 · 2020-08-04T09:53:04+00:00

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bootyandthebeet · 2020-08-04T10:07:10+00:00

Lol the shame when your LVM-ex didnt even do that😅 🤦🏻‍♀️

divination__ · 2020-08-04T11:22:21+00:00

highly recommend following bolu (@beebabs) in general not just for this tweet, her whole vibe is so deeply fds naturally, she is amazing

lival42 · 2020-08-04T14:34:59+00:00

In all honesty, it is the beginning step of demonstrating value: hearing your words. Now, this is not to say we can jump to subsequent assumptions that your words are being “acknowledged” or “followed” or “respected”. But, it’s a start.

I had a null-value-man (ie one that was too new to ascribe any value to) in his first phone conversations with me demonstrate NO evidence of listening to me. Want to take a guess as to his final value assessment? 🙄

suspended_animation_ · 2020-08-04T14:27:35+00:00

I just keep my reaction to attractiom to myself. I leave a room where a good looking man is. He doesn't need to know

2020-08-05T04:36:52+00:00

i sometimes wish a was a male not so i would feel safer in the world and not having to worry about periods or pregnancy, but so i can be a major dick to everyone and still have a loving partner who worships me 🥰

mierduh · 2020-08-04T17:36:22+00:00

It’s not though - as long as you have standards. Friend pointed this out to me recently when I said something akin to this. We aren’t attracted to all men anyway so when we say shit like this we just mean men we’re attracted to. If you have no standards and keep the bar on the floor, then sure, but if you have standards and are only attracted to those men then there’s nothing to be ashamed of. Otherwise this kinda rhetoric just lets men get away with it imo and makes it seem like a genetic issue as opposed to a societal one. Like we can just all demand better

AdOther4593 · 2020-08-04T17:43:25+00:00

So true

michelle27519 · 2020-08-05T01:01:34+00:00

Sadly I’ve actually said this about online dates because most of them just talk about themselves.

Title	Such a shame
Author	booboodoughnut
Upvotes	1845
Comments	33
Date	August 4, 2020 9:15 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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