The only competition

FI-REfox · 2021-10-17T03:34:40+00:00

This is one if the biggest epiphanies a woman can have. Don't compare him to the last walking trashbag you wasted your precious time on, compare him to YOU.

Isn't it shocking how terrible most men are compared to almost every woman you know?? Once you see it, you can't unsee it.

Platipus6 · 2021-10-17T03:09:11+00:00

Men refuse to comprehend or believe this. Being happy alone is a mindblowing concept, and they always accuse us of cheating.

I'm cheating on you with my hot water bottle, numbnuts.

sikulet · 2021-10-17T05:16:38+00:00

When you’re alone You can eat at wherever expensive / hip / fun / cute place You can without wondering if it’s “too much”..

You can go out and buy the things you liked without being nagged for being spendthrifts; when in reality it’s not because of saving, they just cannot afford you and the lifestyle you’re accustomed so you have to scale it down to not make them feel small…

You’re not scrolling social media wondering why they are online but they haven’t replied to you yet for the past 6 hours or so…

There’s peace.

FineDeliciousSnakes · 2021-10-17T02:58:36+00:00

These are the real questions. Is this person making my life better? More enriched? Am I at my best with them? Do they love to see me succeed, glow, and grow?

Ninja_Flower_Lady · 2021-10-17T08:09:12+00:00

This is why fds is great, lots of groundbreaking ways of thinking that reexamines old accepted norms, and often flipping them upside down to reveal the greater truth.

This is one of the biggest takeaway: either a hvm or single. No third option.

musicalistic · 2021-10-17T07:56:08+00:00

Most of my friends get confused on why I look so happy, vibrant and radiant while I am being single to the point that they said I look "shiny af".

Being single means I can focus on myself and get to know about myself more. These things definitely cultivate self-love within me, this turns positive and hopeful attitudes that I have about life.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-10-17T11:05:00+00:00

Unhealthy people do not understand this. When you're too blinded by toxicity, you cannot comprehend that no relationship is better than a bad or meh relationship.

They are the types that have a list of things they hate about the other and the ones that betray that "relationship" constantly by being abusive, cheating, lying, gaslighting etc.

They would rather dump shit on the other on Reddit, abuse them, call them names, complain, denying all the time that their methods tell on themselves...It's all a weakling's mode of justifying the unjustifiable. They will use that to justify their cheating, lying, funneling of funds into addictions like alcohol, drugs, prostitutes, pornography, gambling. Because just leaving/dumping/ divorcing/abandoning a person they never loved, respected or had any empathy for (but they have in general zero empathy) does not offer them the possibility of feeding off the other's anguish.

They are psychephiles, they love witnessing the slow destruction of their partner while blaming it all on them. It's their excuse to never take responsibility for their acts. That's how usually, women in these types of relationships become the proverbial ball & chain about which the men will start complaining on Reddit or anonymously on other platforms. The types of men that hit up on teenage girls while talking shit that their girlfriend/ wife who had given birth to their 3 kids is not attractive anymore or didn't put out anymore or that he's looking for methods to cheat on her without her finding out.

Why would these men want the cake and to eat it too?

Why not just leave? Hm? Why not just go get that sexy rich supermodel, hm? What is stopping you, LVM?

desertedstreets · 2021-10-17T10:02:03+00:00

This is why it's so important to have a great relationship with yourself first and foremost. This includes being content and happy by yourself. Only then can you have a superior baseline for comparison.

Alisonwundrlnd · 2021-10-17T11:51:39+00:00

I miss being single so effing much

Title	The only competition
Author	PinkestMango
Upvotes	1284
Comments	22
Date	October 17, 2021 2:45 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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