This is why we don't send long paragraphs to men who've wronged us

TheOGJammies · 2020-11-17T22:14:35+00:00

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BasieSkanks · 2020-11-17T07:25:29+00:00

The moment you feel the need to send paragraph/have a long conversation about what he’s done wrong, is the moment you need to pack your self-respect and dignity and leave.

oneheadlight312 · 2020-11-17T09:09:09+00:00

I have almost no regrets in life, except this one. Each time I ever did that, it never did any good, it fed their egos. If I could go back in time and redo it, I'd instead act like I didn't give a shit. And then i'd quietly run off to ask myself why, in fact, im giving a shit about this moron and how did I get here in the first place.

cantsextihavebills · 2020-11-17T07:29:57+00:00

People get paid to write novels and advice columns. Don't waste your energy on someone that's already checked out. Besides, most LVM have the reading comprehension of a 3rd grader. He probably wanted to know what she said but was too afraid to admit he couldn't comprehend 5-letter words.

Elegant-Stop · 2020-11-17T08:59:32+00:00

Most men do not have the empathy required to read more than 4-5 lines of text max.

Have the conversation in person if it’s a serious partner, otherwise block and delete.

potaytotomahto · 2020-11-17T09:57:00+00:00

Another reason why self love is an important foundation. If there’s one lesson I continuously learn, it’s to never over explain yourself to anybody. Odds are, they know exactly all the things they’ve done wrong. If they aren’t self-aware enough to acknowledge them, then that’s their deep rooted narcissism and you’re still better off walking away.

AnniaT · 2020-11-17T11:37:50+00:00

Been there and done that when I was pickmeisha maximus. They don't care and they won't read your paragraphs lol

oricuri · 2020-11-17T12:35:53+00:00

It only happened once that I wanted to do this. I took a very deep breath and focused on all the worst things he ever did to me. He really really wronged me on a major fucked-up level.

And then I thought... "he would like to know what I'm doing and how I'm feeling. He wants to keep that door open. He doesn't deserve to know even one thing about me!"And it worked. Blocked and deleted him.

I am still struggling from trust issues out of this whole situation, but I am so incredibly proud of myself for that moment.

complex_answer_22 · 2020-11-17T17:58:43+00:00

I've been guilty of this a couple times when I was really hurt, and it did nothing but make me look bad. I've felt so much freedom being able to just walk away. If it's not a block and delete, I just say I'm moving on and that's that. They usually never respond, but if they do, I just don't reply.

If I ever feel the need to do this now, I open up notepad and just write/voice text everything I want to say to them. Then I've gotten it out while keeping my dignity. Game changer!

runawayfast999 · 2020-11-17T13:44:49+00:00

Thank you for this reminder. This was all of us. When we want to write paragraphs, better to stay silent.

RipleyxStarling · 2020-11-17T12:40:41+00:00

I’ve been guilty of this even recently. My messages weren’t to rehash his wrongs but to ask him to do right by the girl he has currently PREGNANT and to leave me alone. Begging him to be a decent man and leave me to move on and find someone who will respect and love me. He had his chance. He still pops up every few days to send me snaps of his day and tell me he wants to see me. When I say no, he’ll delete me, go silent and then pop up agaik a few days later. Rinse and repeat. I love him and definitely want him to get his shit together for his kids. His girls deserve a father to show them how to treat women correctly. But that isn’t my burden to bare. His family all love me and miss me and I speak to them regularly. It’s unfortunate because I believe he realizes what he lost but it’s too late. I’m not his fool anymore and he’s still playing the same dusty ass game with me expecting me to jump through his hoops for crumbs of affection. It’s really really sad.

buzzkillyall · 2020-11-17T17:55:55+00:00

I STILL feel the urge to call him out, and it's been almost a year since I left him. After 10 years of emotional abuse cycling, I went through a painful withdrawal from the trauma bond. I no longer "love" him, but I honestly don't think our dynamic was ever "love". More like obsession, perhaps.

Every time I think about it (which is far too often in these COVID-restricted times) I want to say all the things that I was too intimidated to say to his face. But I won't. He does not rate the honor of my attention. I have fed his insatiable ego long enough.

When the compulsion to paragraph gets strong, I picture myself dancing on his grave. I look forward to complete indifference. I can see it, far off on the horizon, attainable someday.

bpoloana · 2020-11-17T18:49:29+00:00

I am so THANKFUL that I have never done this. One of my biggest failures is my pride, and while in some instances it has been my downfall in my romantic life it has saved me a world of embarrassment. I literally get triggered just by watching those pictures

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43rdaccount · 2020-11-17T21:05:36+00:00

the disrespect 😩😩

Risoa · 2020-11-17T21:30:36+00:00

Oh my god what a asshole response. Poor girl.

Title	This is why we don't send long paragraphs to men who've wronged us
Author	bengthread
Upvotes	127
Comments	28
Date	November 17, 2020 7:18 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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