Why do men swipe on women who say "no hookups" and "long term relationship, " yet match and pressure these relationship-seeking-women for sex anyway, especially when a man has the entire internet of p0rn, OF, AND women who clearly have 'here for a good time not a long time' on their profile--- at the tips of his fingers?

Ans: It isn't the sex that he wants, it's the control and 'winning' something that was off limits to him before. The lack of consent to be used just for sex is what he gets off on. Coercion is not consent, it's rape. Swiping on a woman's profile who is seeking a relationship yet using her for sex anyway is rape by deception.

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______CONTINUED LIST OF REASONS TO USE THIS WEEKEND FOR YOURSELF AND NOT OLD______

  1. Do you really want to spend time with someone who swipped you while he was not wiping on the toilet? 
  2. Do you really want to be a therapist for men who have a list of qualifiers as to why they are “”ready”” to date?
  3. Do you want to entertain men who do not realize or have basic empathy for what it means to carry the birth control burden but expect their penis to be top priority?
  4. Do you want men who use coffee or park ‘dates’ as actively investing as little money as possible because he is trying to be the community dick?
  5. Do you want to fall for the fallacy of the princess charming who is going to make him want to be an adult or settle down?
  6. Do you realize that men who complain of ‘not getting any matches’ are just flat-out lying. Men who receive more messages, send more messages, even if they are actually dating someone in their queue…..the problem is that they do NOT value the matches they do get. These men want dozens of women they find intellectually and physically attractive lying naked on a bed, just waiting for their low effort ‘U up?’ text.
  7. Do you realize that constant texting creates a false sense of intimacy, it’s a pick up artist trait so they can advance the relationship and increase the chances of fucking on the first date. This goes with the ‘good morning’ and ‘good night’ text.
    1. This goes hand-in-hand with making a date last 6 or 8 hours and stacking dates on back-to-back days just to get to that famous 3rd date mile stone.
    2. Keep an eye out for reservation change: Makes one at a nice, appropriate restaurant but changes last minute to 'hole-in-wall, mom-and-pop' place that 'you'll love.'
  8. Lastly, 'see where it goes’ only serves to alleviate men of the emotional labor of a relationship and becomes a catch-all-bag to excuse shitty behavior that any rational woman would be hurt by.

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Not all of these reasons are mine. I have been keeping this list from the comments I've read here and wanted a concise way to share with others who might be tempted into what men laughingly define as 'decency' and 'dates' these days.

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Happy Weekend!!

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edit: added 7.2./7.b.

edit 2: did it on desktop, not mobile for once and mark down language is just habit. LOL

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edit 3: I have been off OLD for over a year now and I'll never go back. Life is so much more rewarding without it!!