Can any one here help?

StormOfHoney · 2019-12-09T12:20:30+00:00

The red pill is a tough one to swallow, mate. Most people resist it because it breaks everything you've learned to be true... but it's a journey well worth it.

Stay with us. You can talk however you like here as long as you are going your own way and being true to yourself.

The more serious posts offer some very enlightening advice in their comment sections and nobody on this sub is going to abuse you for making a mistake on a girl.

We look after guys here.

RussianChimiChanga · 2019-12-09T12:49:18+00:00

Pay no attention to army of cucks on reddit.

You do you and be thankful you never married her officially. Now you can become a full mgtow or you can try and find another girl who's not a fucking whore.

Regardless you will be stronger because of this bullshit and you will emerge on the other side.

The best revenge is you becoming financially successful beyond your wildest dreams. In other words build yourself up. Then in 10 years when you run into her at the grocery store and she's got three kids from three different dads you can laugh in her face.

If you need someone to talk to you message me. I'm here.

leftfulrhys · 2019-12-09T13:45:06+00:00

SIDEBAR REPOST. MGTOW HOSPITAL ADVISORY - "There are tremendous success stories here, great bits of advice, positive affirmations of MGTOW to other MGTOW, and good news of success. All through this subreddit. But in order to find these things, you have to first understand what this subreddit is about, and how we go about getting you to where you want to be.

This sub, r/MGTOW, isn't some phony, PR-designed sales pitch to show you the wonderful life you will have if you just take the redpill and go your own way. If that's what you are looking for, a sales pitch to convince you that we hold the secret to your unlocked potential, a perfectly polished façade that shares stories about bungie jumping, selfie moments, loads of cash, bikini-clad pumps and dumps on beaches, retirements by 40, and all of that crap, go to the PUAs on r/TheRedPill. They'll give you all the "positivity" you want, and it's just as easy as "up your game bro," with a rote list of things you need to do ("lift bro," "STEM bro," "neg, bro," "antifragile bro," etc.). In fact, they are so into positivity there, if you even daresuggest--even hint--that something is wrong, you'll get called out ("That's not how an alpha talks, bro," "read Gorilla Mindset bro," "that's how betas talk, bro").

If you are a man who needs to be sold on an idea by the number of happy, successful, testimonials made on the idea's behalf, then I am sorry to say that r/MGTOW might not be the sub for you, and that going your own way might not be what you are looking for. Full stop. If you don't like the "negativity" or the "hate about women" or the "bitterness" or "bitching about dating and marriage," then I don't think you realize what is going on in here, and why it's necessary here.

When you say "I don't understand how MGTOW is good for men, because all I see are negative threads and complaints about women," you are saying something akin to "I don't understand how this hospital is good for health, because all I see are diseases and injuries here."

This is a hospital for the male spirit. It is NOT a hospice for the male spirit, designed to make you comfortable, like r/ForeverAlone. Nor is it a plastic surgeon for the male spirit, designed to form you into the shape that you aren't, to get you the things you think you ought to be getting, like r/TheRedPill.

This is a hospital, a place to heal you and send you on your way. As such, it is a place where you will see ugly things. You will see savage illnesses here. You will see disgusting things here. And you will see painful things here. And if you go through the treatment, you too might become one of those disgusting things, those savage things, those ugly things.

But those of us who have been around the hospital for awhile, and even some bright young interns who are studying hard, we becamephysicians of the male soul, and you can see the work we do in the threads. Some of our methods of healing you are, themselves, sickening, disgusting, cruel, and perhaps sad; they involve toxic substances and are unfit to do in environments outside of here. But they are necessary if we are to get you on your way, your own way, so you can live your male life in good health from here on forward. Perhaps you will want to practice here as well, but it is often an unrewarding experience, to be honest.

It's unrewarding for the same reasons psychiatry is unrewarding, or law is unrewarding: we only ever see our patients when they are at their lowest point. When we get them to a state where they can be these positive, successful, life affirming and adventuresome people, they aren't here. They are out in the world going their own ways, without the illness of gynocentric-induced disease weighing them down. They are free to be the men they are, which may differ significantly from the man they thought they wanted to be.

See, we aren't in the business of selling you on why you should go your own way. We can't do it, because it is about going your own way, not the way of whatever you think your own way ought to go. We can't promise you success, or popularity, or loads of pussy, or any of that. We can't, because we don't know you, and not only that, we aren't even sure if you know yourself.

But if it's one thing I know about this sub,r/MGTOW, we have little patience for PR, positivity cults, idealistic notions, or BS. We are into thereality of the situation, knee deep in the bones and guts of it all, and it ain't pretty. It doesn't always even have a good outcome.

But at the end of the day, we save lives. And if we get called a bunch of bad names, and cast as a bunch of negative people, posting negative things, so be it. Because the work we do here is work that needs to be done."

DangZagnut · 2019-12-09T12:05:45+00:00

Define misogynistic. Then reread what you think is “hate”.

Welcome. Sorry for your situation. And cuckolding is “the new way”. Didn’t you get the memo?

NathanHollister · 2019-12-09T13:05:04+00:00

Moving into MGTOW, some guys experience a "rage" period where they are mad at women and the world. This wears off after awhile. It isn't "misogyny", it's just frustration coming out.

It's normal to dump a bitch for cheating, but a majority of men are so desperate for pussy that they will never leave a girl no matter how bad she is to him. We call them cucks. You a better than that, having enough self-respect to bail on a toxic relationship is the first step.

90% of men are like this. I know guys at work whose wives cheat and they just pretend they don't know, or they stay because they don't want to lose half their shit by leaving her.

You've taken your first redpill. Thank goodness you learned the easy way rather than the hard way. Today was your first lesson: She's not yours; it's just your turn. AWALT.

Be cautious with going out with women. They will all cheat eventually, biology has determined it.

You did the right thing, the fact that a majority of men are cucks and women think you should allow her to cheat doesn't make it true.

BTW she blew and fucked the stripper too, just FYI. Remember that if you're tempted to get back with her. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Nathaniel66 · 2019-12-09T12:42:43+00:00

> This is completely unnatural. Male animals in nature kill other males that try to have sex with their females.

Key wod: "males". Those are simps, white knights, not much in common with the males our fathers and grands used to be.

Crovex250 · 2019-12-09T12:41:51+00:00

Both men and women deserve a spouse who is going to remain faithful. You did nothing wrong by standing up for yourself. At the end of the day you have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and respect what you see, not tolerating being cheated on is part of that self respect. I'm sorry you had to learn about the red pill the hard way, but better now then when you were actually married.

You are getting all the hate because the people running our society have a vested interest in promoting all kinds of sexual degeneracy, as it is a form of political control they can exploit. Make no mistake, it will be exploited at your expense.

What you do from here on out is up to you. You can become one of us, or try and go back to your old ways, but you will never be able go forget the truths you learned here.

DaddyAF1989 · 2019-12-09T12:39:55+00:00

Please don’t feel bad for doing what you did, leave her in the past forever and don’t let the many cucks and trolls get to you. You did the right thing.

GrisBosque · 2019-12-09T12:33:30+00:00

Humans are mostly insane these days...

"Whom God destroys, he first makes insane."

Appreciate the sanity inherent in flyover culture.

YungSlungandHung · 2019-12-09T12:40:42+00:00

There’s some misogynistic stuff here but there’s a lot more positive male empowerment that is construed to be viewed as misogyny because men are not used to empowering each other and that idea gives people on reddit sudden rage and call people incels and it’s so ironic because those idiots are either being used or are blind to the trends of women these days.

Shimakaze4 · 2019-12-09T12:10:27+00:00

White knights are the most dangerous person. Feminists you can see coming, a cheating bitch of a wife will hurt you but a white knight will sucker punch you with your back turned if they think it will get them a sniff of pussy. These guys are so programmed, they are so deep in the plantation that they are lost. You 100% did the right thing cos that woman would have cheated on you again, maybe not tomorrow or a year into the marriage, but sooner or later she would have and then you'd be fucked royally.

As for the cucks and white knights, they are just NPC's man. Just ignore their bullshit. When you see through them, all you will see is a desperately pathetic individual who's so consumed, so obsessed with pussy that he will do anything to get it. They are sad individuals. Look, we've all been there, back when we thought women were so nice and great, back when we thought that getting married was the objective in life. Look back at that person now and all you will see is a pathetically naive individual. Look at those who send you these bad messages like that and you will realise they are nothing to be depressed about.

debanked · 2019-12-09T12:15:17+00:00

Nah man we can't help; AWALT is biological, we can't fix it. You need to work around it, that comes from within, not from us

johnRambo13 · 2019-12-09T12:43:09+00:00

I read your story. And yes you are doing the right thing. These women are never held accountable for their actions like men. And when someone does hold them accountable it’s like the world stops spinning. The only thing I would have done differently is I would have told everyone, friends and family, what she did. She should have to live with that shame. I once was dating a girl and I came home to my place and found her banging her “friend” in my kitchen. I told everyone what happened and she was horrified and angry at me for telling people. I’m like “ how bout don’t engage in fucked up behavior and i won’t have anything fucked up to say”. So I kicked her to the curb and been loving for myself ever since. And it’s been great. She’s tried to get back in my life and I get to say no every time. Fuck that bitch, gonna do me dirty AND expect me to cover for you? I think not. Anyways, you dodged a bullet. Marriage is for idiots. At least she did what she did before you got married and not after. And don’t think that was her first indescretion. It never is with these women. You should go it alone for a while. Go on a trip with a buddy. Have some fun.

Iaculor · 2019-12-09T13:52:27+00:00

Just saw a few comments to your story on relationship advise. Forget the: "you are an immature moron, kid, whatever" - posts. If you don't want to marry that woman, it's absolutely fine. It's your life and you decide who you wanna share it with. I had a similar experience ten years ago with my fiance. I did stand above it ... i did marry her ... guess what happend and why i'm here writing you today? Cause i made the biggest mistake in my life. Good luck for your future and stay calm mate.

Atreides265 · 2019-12-09T13:09:02+00:00

There is a Golden Rule to apply to this kind of situation: think about it whit exchanged genders.

Or try post the same story with another account, pretending to be a woman who break up with her bf for a similar reason, and see what happens…

There is no excuse for what she did. Be glad that you discovered who she really is before being legally bound to her, or even worst, with a child or two.

2019-12-09T13:54:05+00:00

First you post in Relationshipadvice, then you post in divorcerape, then a little in wherehaveallthegoodmengone, and finally you end up here.

And trust me, now you are at home. You are waking up, and your life will never be the same. But just for the better. It will take a little time to accept that this will be for the better, because you are surrounded by simps and cuckholds and you still have pain and are hurt. This is normal, you are human. Now you are a marginal, you are not mainstream anymore. And you know what ? It will fit you really well.

Welcome in your new life. Stop feeling sad for other people being cucks and brainwashed. The most important is you take care of you and find your own power.

You are not struggling, you just discovered the hidden gem you are. It will take you some time don't worry. Trust yourself. You are a man. And it's beautiful to be a man. You made yourself respected by not buying into an unfaithful marriage. You made yourself respected ! I have lots of respect for men who never surrender to the respect they have for themselves. Good job !

darkmanilluminate · 2019-12-09T12:44:31+00:00

If the relationship means so much that you’re willing to live in delusion, so be it, but who do you expect to suffer the consequences? If you choose not to live in delusion but to see clearly & to act out of clarity, it can be a lonely path, but again, who receives the rewards from that clarity of vision?

stliceman · 2019-12-09T12:29:34+00:00

Hang tough, man. You're doing what you know is right.

holddadoorhodor · 2019-12-09T12:49:15+00:00

First of all, I’m sorry for what you went through.

If your situation doesn’t make you want to go your own way I don’t know what would.

I still can’t fathom how anyone could think or justify what she did as being okay. It’s times like this I wish we lived in 1900.

You dodged a major bullet.

DarthCallidous · 2019-12-09T14:34:37+00:00

Jacking off anyone is cheating. Anyone that does that needs to be dropped like a sack of rocks.

MisanthropeArtichoke · 2019-12-09T13:38:19+00:00

The misogyny is just the effects of the red pill rage. You can't really expect men to find out everything they've been taught is a lie and not received badly to it. With time and self-reflection, the anger tends to fade into a sort of disapproving disinterest.

Mate, you've been through the ringer, but just thank your lucky stars this all came out before you signed the papers and put the ring on it. After that, your ass is grass. You've gotten off with only a knife wound to the heart... It could have been a lot worse.

Cuckolding seems to be the new normal in our society, so I'm not surprised you got the reaction you did. Just know that you'll never get that reaction here. We know what you're going through; most of us have been there too. We're all in this together; keep your stick on the ice.

death_ray_mx · 2019-12-09T15:02:10+00:00

OMFG dude you became a legend, I think I reposted your story here, it was totally screwed up, but you acted like a man and handled things like a boss, there is not much else to be said about that but keep your standards high dont let anyone fuck around specially women. Feel welcome to read our modest subredit, This is not a mysoginist sub however we tend to be very wary of women because most of us either are married or divorced. IF there is any women pretending to be a man is easily spotted as soon as we see a cuck / simp comment , we don't tolerate White knights, SJW, Feminists or Cucks. Most of the guys around here are really cool and they have their shit together so feel free to comment or post anything going on in your head. We understand that due to your shocking experience things are going to be rough during these days but trust me that you dodged a bullet and are lucky.

_FullCourtPress · 2019-12-09T12:14:07+00:00

I agree with you. Part of the natural reaction to a situation like yours is an impulse to violence. There is a reason "crimes of passion" are so common.

I know you have gotten thousands of messages, and this is just one more. But, what happened to you is inexcusable. Anyone telling you to let it go is a dumbass.

nickvanewijk · 2019-12-09T12:55:08+00:00

We live in the Age of Cucks don't you know?

tw-1234a · 2019-12-09T14:07:56+00:00

I remember you.

As for the mysogynism you see, just ignore it. Men here are at different levels, some still in the anger phase. They can express that anger here and gradually it disappears.

CognPsycNeurScie · 2019-12-09T14:19:16+00:00

I can feel with you: Yes, it sucks!

But hey: You dodged the bullet like almost no one else! In this sense you can almost grateful to your wife for having shown her true face during her bachelorette party.

Don't worry. You rose to instant fame here! We gonna keep your back covered. Don't let you put down by random idiots. Stay strong!

maskedfailure · 2019-12-09T15:26:45+00:00

I feel like there are two factions in this group. The immature, sexist children, and the nature, educated men looking going or looking to go their own way.

I ignore all the sexist BS. They give this sub a bad name. It’s not about hating women. It’s about realizing that we don’t NEED women to be happy.

Best of luck to you man. It’ll take time but it’ll get better.

2019-12-09T12:41:37+00:00

Some resources for you:

Read: "The Rational Male" (Rollo Tomassi)

Listen to:

Stardusk https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCo1qRcO1OehgkOD_fHsu_uQ

huMAN https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCT2dUsMtd08RfaH12O9DCDg/videos

Colttaine https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCX1GkAJdz_WF5Vyc2xUxZZw/videos

Barbarossa https://m.youtube.com/user/barbarossaaaa/videos

InvincibleV · 2019-12-09T14:22:14+00:00

I remember you. I did read your post. At least most of the comments were positive and told you that leaving her was the right thing to do. Anyway, pay no attention to the cuck army of reddit. I do not know why but there is an unbelievably big number of men willing to put up with all kinds of shit a woman does to them. And if you are not at least BOTHERED and DISTURBED after finding out that your to be wife jacked off a stripper at her party then something has gone terribly wrong with you.

Now about the stuff you said you dont agree with. Well, you dont have to. Being MGTOW has a different meaning for each and every one of us. For me it means to pursue the life I want. Becoming MGTOW was also a way for me to deal with toxic relationships. For me it has nothing to do with hating women. I do agree that sometimes the posts here are a bit extreme but as I said you dont have to agree with everything. The trick is to keep the information that is right for your own life and discard everything you find unworthy of your time.

Wish you get better and that you finally move past that shitstorm you endured. Good luck.

Stahlboden · 2019-12-09T14:48:24+00:00

You don't have to sit there and participate in what you called misogyny, but I'd recommend you to run cost-benefit analysis on marriage and LTR anyway.

Dahcpmis · 2019-12-09T14:53:03+00:00

About the part you didn't like, the outright misogynistic stuff. Alot of incels hang around this subreddit because they dont want to face the truth. Mgtow sounds alot classier then incel, and it is. We do not hate women in general.

CeleritySteam · 2019-12-09T17:01:31+00:00

...The great mass was to be saved but only after the heaviest sacrifices of time and patience. Never, however, was a Thot to be freed from her viewpoint.

I was still childlike enough at that time to want to make the madness of their doctrine clear to them; I talked my tongue sore and my throat hoarse and thought that I must succeed in convincing them of the harmfulness of their Marxist insanity. In fact, I achieved just the opposite. It seemed as though the mounting insight into the nihilistic effect of Social Democratic theories and their realization only served to strengthen them in their determination.

The more I argued with them the more I learned their dialectic. At first they calculated on the stupidity of their adversary. Then, when they could find no other way out, they played stupid themselves. ...Whenever you attacked one of the apostles, your hand closed around slimy matter which immediately separated and slipped through the fingers and the next moment reconstituted itself. If you struck such an annihilating blow that, observed by the audience, she had no choice but to agree with you, and thus you thought you had taken one step forward, the next day your amazement would be great. The Thot knew nothing at all about yesterday and repeated her same old twaddle as though nothing had happened; if you angrily challenged her on this, she could not remember a thing other than she had demonstrated the correctness of her assertions on the previous day.

Many times I stood there astonished.

I didn’t know what to be more amazed at: their verbal agility or their art in lying.

Gradually, I began to hate them.

MuleFool42 · 2019-12-09T18:37:08+00:00

Welcome to the sub. I was one of the people that responded to one of your posts. You absolutely did the right thing. The thing about MGTOW to remember is that it is all about you.

MGTOW is a choice that guys make because they see the world for what it is and not what it should be. Society poses risk to men because they are men. Laws governing marriage and divorce, family law, DV law, Title IX at university, or workplace law (#MeToo), sentencing, are enforced against men with extreme bias, often causing men to take their own lives.

MGTOW is a life choice, or philosophy, that each individual man lives by that prioritizes himself and his own needs. It's about having goals for one's self in all areas of life and pursuing those goals relentlessly.

MGTOW is not about hate and misogyny. With that said, many men come to MGTOW because of traumatic events, such as yours, and are filled with Red Pilled rage, some of it directed at women. That anger is tolerated on this thread, but is not the main use of this thread.

Instead, MGTOW sub is about men collaborating and supporting each other in their choices to not get married, live with anyone, or agree to adopt and/or submit to taking care of another man's children. And many other life choices.

It is about men finding their own purpose as individuals and becoming successful in all facets of life, despite the understanding that society views them as disposable, and understanding the realization that in western civilization, if you're a man, no help is coming, ever, if you run into problems. So always prioritize your own needs, wants, first and foremost.

In your situation, just understand that most people you are talking to have an agenda for you, especially those close to you. So their opinions are secondary. That is doubly true for people sending you scathing messages on line. They are quick to judge because they don't know or care about you, but their opinions are worthless.

Do what's in your heart. If you still want to get married, good luck to you, but most of all, take care of yourself and never do something to please the mob, because even if you changed to please the mob, they would just turn on you any way. Keep your integrity, and always be true to yourself, and you can never go wrong.

Your fiance screwed up, not you. You did the right thing and avoided a huge disaster. You are not the problem and nobody has the right to try to make you feel that way.

Best of luck.

countinginsolitude · 2019-12-09T15:38:07+00:00

Hey my man. What are you confused with? I had to Google what the fuck a bachelorettes party was (hint: i'm not American). Before I can offer advise, I may need some questions answering. 1) How do you know she jacked him off? and 2) What happened with you and her after? 3) Does she want you guys to get back together?

Honestly, the best thing you can do is get rid of her. A woman who loves YOU wouldn't do that. The problem we've got here is that it's extremely rare for a woman to love you and you only. It's borderline impossible, in fact. When you ask for her "love", you're asking for loyalty, honesty and sincerity. Your ex had none of those traits - and before you get fired up and claim she did - she clearly didn't, which is why you're posting online to a bunch of guys on a MGTOW subreddit about what happened...I don't blame you. In fact, i'd do the same.

You're a classic MGTOW guy now - you've been burned by a woman. Do you take the blue pill and say: "Not all women are like that!" and go back into the dating game. Or...do you take the red pill and go your own way. The choice is yours. But I guarantee you, if you go blue pill, you'll be back here within 12-24 months saying "it happened again. Help me!".

I wish I could say: "forgive her and it'll be great!" - but you know as well as I do, that if you go blue pill and run back to her, you're telling her that what she did is ok, and you'll forgive her. Have some self respect and run a mile from her. Her putting her hands on another man's genitals when she's at a party (presumably without you knowing and without you there) tells me she has a tendancy to whore about). Sorry to talk about your ex in this way....but just leave her ass, stay away and focus on yourself. GYOW my friend.

ValhallaBoundBoy · 2019-12-09T15:56:26+00:00

People don't realize that divorce can be a truly traumatizing event. It's not even stress free for women, like they're constantly complaining about how terrible and difficult the divorce is and often seek therapy, but it is generally far worse for the man considering he loses his wife, his house, his kids, his future earnings etc. How could that not be traumatizing?

KneeDeepThought · 2019-12-09T17:18:05+00:00

Women control 83% of spending, so they control the advertisers, who control the media and hollywood, so there's all the public messaging under their control. Lots of men are being raised by single mothers now so that's the majority of the younger generation of men under their control. The court finds in ladies' favor the overwhelming majority of the time (because it's profitable) so that's the law under their control as well.

Add all this up and it's not surprising you're catching huge amounts of shit for daring to swim upstream against the narrative that you're by nature "bad" for being male and should lie down and take whatever abuse women feel like dishing out to you forever.

Fuck those people. All of 'em. you did the right thing and everyone who's screaming at you knows it. they're terrified they have hitched their horse to the wrong cart and they're desperate to validate their own bad choices bowing down to the vagina cult. the online echo chamber is nothing more than each of them trying to out-virtue signal each other like a giant worldwide commie Struggle Session. Sound and fury indicating nothing. I bet none of them refuted your base argument and just called you names. Basic bitch stuff.

some mgtow guys are experiencing red pill rage, which can be misogynistic, but a temporary phase we try to help guys through. Ultimately that's not what MGTOW's about however. We're each going our own way, but our origin point is almost exclusively abusive women so we have that in common.

So, TL;DR: fuck that bitch, don't tolerate abuse from anyone ever, and go do something today you'll thank yourself for tomorrow. 'Nuff said.

Rottinghere · 2019-12-09T13:04:41+00:00

You're going through a rough time, but you'll get through it OK. Remember, there can be no growth without pain. As for the simps and beta-cucks out there, ignore them. Why would you honestly give two shits about what a cuck has to say about anything anyway?

I think that you'll find that the more you learn about MGTOW, and the more that you see its principles in action, the more you'll eventually value it as a philosophy.

2019-12-09T14:47:05+00:00

Unfortunately you posted your story on a forum that pretty much sides with the woman every time short of her murdering the spouse and children... and even then, there are usually extenuating circumstances. Those people will dogpile you because shame and abuse are the only tools they have at their disposal. Hard to frame a logical argument as to why you should marry someone who goes down on a stripper in front of friends and family members before her wedding. Those people don't matter and you did the right thing by yourself.

ButteredPastry · 2019-12-09T15:13:15+00:00

Welcome to the anger phase.

Ever watched The Matrix? All those guys telling you to take her back and accept the cuckolding shit are still plugged in.

I'm not here to tell you to to learn to game women and fuck as many as you can like a PUA, but Rollo's teachings are pretty spot on. The guy minored in behavioral psychology. So learn about female behavior and how it is literally shaped by their age and society, and act accordingly. Chase women, or don't. Get into another relationship, or don't. What's important is that you go your own way knowing what you know.

ronoda12 · 2019-12-09T15:58:59+00:00

Donot get married with such women. You will be in a world of hurt.

tingsrus · 2019-12-09T16:32:44+00:00

Guys were really sending him messages and saying that what she did was ok????? Damn who are those dummies??? I really hope there arent any guys like that in this mgtow group.

MadLad2019 · 2019-12-09T16:54:07+00:00

Welcome to the sad truth, the future will be even more gynocentric. Reddit is mostly younger people and these are the people who will be coming into power over the next few decades. So either something will change their opinions or they will carry them into their seats of power. So those messages are the unfiltered ideas of a segment of those youth and most of us find it ridiculous.

TBH you are right about the amount of misogynistic content here, it's not our better side. But as you've noticed more than a few of us have been put through the wringer as you were and have not taken it as well.

TheReidman · 2019-12-09T17:46:01+00:00

Our door is always open if you want to vent or recieve advice, brother.

Ulzioz · 2019-12-09T17:51:16+00:00

Oh crap I remember you a ton of guys were suggesting you visit MGTOW I can't believe it!

You can try reading The Manipulated Man that should give you a better understanding.

Grant1412 · 2019-12-09T18:44:17+00:00

It's just reddit. Take a step back man. You said being with your family helped get you through, so turn off reddit and go hang out with them. Socialise with people who make you feel cared for. Reddit will still be here in the future.

I hope you come back to MGTOW and really start to analyse the evidence that's been in front of you all your life. But it can wait until your properly on your feet.

Seriously, turn off reddit and go get some self building-up done (made up term, on the spot.. you know what I mean). We'll see you when you get back some day.

Velsoxof_25 · 2019-12-09T18:50:18+00:00

Be grateful you didn't marry her or have kids with her

tortuga-de-fuego · 2019-12-09T19:12:48+00:00

Hey OP I saw your original post awhile ago on the front page and I just joined this sub. Personally from what I saw you did no wrong, personally I would’ve even dumped a girl for less. Marriage is supposed to be a sacred pact between a man and woman, and for whatever reason it’s unfortunately lost it’s meaning in today’s world.. but there’s still good women out there.

RudeNarwhal8 · 2019-12-09T19:34:01+00:00

I feel for you for what you've been through and for the negative reactions you've received. IMHO, you were right to dump your ex for what she did. My ex-wife admitted to me 3 months that after we had been married that she had a month-long affair with a college kid. (10 years her junior) I absolutely destroyed my relationship with my family that has never been completely repaired almost 20 years later. Although, happily, I no longer speak to my AWALT of my mother after finally realizing what she did to my father. I should have just got home from work that day, pack as much as my own stuff could fit in my car and drove away...never looking back (except for the divorce proceedings). By getting away when you did, you saved yourself a lot more pain than you would likely would have experienced. Bravo to you.

Just remember, people on the Internet are pricks in general.

Bulletproofmonk · 2019-12-09T19:40:04+00:00

misogynistic

You gotta stop thinking like that. Yes some posts might be "mean" or seem extreme, but you need to break away from the gender based construct that has been shoved down our throats everywhere you look.

TV, movies, magazines, school... It paints husband's as incompetent Homer Simpsons. Not good looking man as creepy or expandable, and good looking wealthy man as a malleable prize.

Is it mysogeny to desire a loyal mate and a family where there is balance and order? Or to take the first step in talking to a female? Society today would say that you may be a creepy rapey loser if you don't measure up to their standards of what a man should be (Rich, handsome, tall, etc.) And try to talk to a woman.

When did wanting to have a stay at home wife that works as hard as you and puts forth as much effort as you become oppression?

Go your own way. Break free of the society that has entrenched a backwards standard into people. A society that rewards bad behavior and punishes good. Realize that you are more. You hold the cards and the path in life.

This place, this philosophy drives them crazy, because we're checking out of their rigged system, walking away from the game.

pyth0ns · 2019-12-09T19:45:33+00:00

it baffles me that people say IT WAS OK that she cheated on you.
"It's like a bachelorette party! Like that is like what is supposed to like happen! Stop being a square!"
Un-FUCKING-believable, which is scarily becoming the norm.

You've been writing on the internet, asking how people feel about the situation.
Have you asked yourself, how do you feel?
How do you truly feel?
(remove all the terms of cuck and beta and awalt and etc aside that you've probably now just learned - and come to grips with how you yourself actually feel about this)

Here is my input, as someone that isn't going to bash on women or bash on you or etc
This is going to be strictly logical.
She jacked off a stripper (which is most probably tickle truth)
IT WAS VERY EASY FOR HER TO DO THIS!
Now she might cry and say she was pressured into this or was coked up or felt the need to do this as a last hoorah or blah, blah, blah
but remember... SHE JACKED OFF A STRIPPER AND IT WAS VERY EASY FOR HER TO DO THIS!

What does that tell you about your relationship?
What does that tell you about the future?
What does that tell you about the respect to you and the relationship?

If she truly were over her whore ways, she would have had a bacholerette party at a winery or something.
Not go to a strip club and jack off the stripper!

Kick her to the curb!
Let her live with it for the rest of her life.

It is in no way YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to now help her and deal with her shit.

LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE
TRY TO MOVE ON
DO YOU!

tommygun1688 · 2019-12-09T20:42:28+00:00

I'll tell you this, I also find some of the more overt misogyny on this sub off putting. But I think it's an understandable reaction to the sheer volume of mysandry men put up with these days. I don't lash out in that way myself, and I think it's pretty easy to mostly ignore those who do. So I find this sub can occasionally useful as a reality check, or for a good laugh.

As to what you're going through, ignore people, don't argue with idiots, it's a waste of your time. And stop reading into the comments to your posts that blew up, you made the right call for yourself. I'm sure someone has said this to you, but if the genders were reversed with your story and you had banged a stripper, while your wife was the one cheated on, there would be no question you did the right thing. I'm a believer in equality, that means I'm not going to tolerate double standards between men and women, especially in my personal life and in other things I can control.

So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get ready to start again. Go hit the gym, hang out with your buddies, pick up a new hobby, go get laid if you need to. Do whatever it takes to keep moving forward and growing in your life.

Anyways, we're all pulling for ya, keep your stick on the ice.

bambambam10 · 2019-12-09T21:12:12+00:00

you don't have to be a "member" of MGTOW to be MGTOW, nor do you even have to agree with everything here, it's just a sub reddit, and if we're gonna be real, half the subs are probably from the Incel sub that got taken down. the truth is there are a lot of men who had the same ideals and values as traditional conservatives and would have been happy with a traditional marriage had there been no unforeseen strings attached. these days marriage is a a financial trap, you are paying big bucks to put on a show for the bride (not for you, it's not your big day, it's hers), then once you're locked in, you're either a wage slave or on our way to divorce rape in the foreseeable future. Every guy who is about to marry their SO thinks the same, that "she is the one", "she's not like other girls", "we've been through so much", and the truth is, she isn't the one, she is just like the other girls, and what you've been through doesn't mean shit to her. All women are like that. That's why when you had your bachelor party, you opted to enjoy a good night out with friends, and when she had her bachelorette, she opted to jerk off a chad stripper, along with the other cheating wives. It's a clear reflection of the respect you and her had for each other. She took the first opportunity she could to be unfaithful, regardless of context, and she wasn't even planning to tell you. What else hasn't she told you, and could you really trust her in the future? You made the right choice. The sting of it will last a while, but within the year of being free and having options to do whatever you want going forward will overhadow that feeling of "love" loss. It sucks you lost out on non-refundables, but it's a small price to pay compared to life long servitude to a bitch, or divorce rape.

_Zync_ · 2019-12-09T22:12:59+00:00

You woke up just in time to avoid the divorce-rape. Pay no attention to the cucks they're all virgin, what would they know?

CertainCrow1 · 2019-12-09T22:33:39+00:00

If she's already doing stuff like that then how ling do you think she will remain faithful in a marrage when times get tough? I don't buy this whole have one last good timr before the wedding because you will be 'stuck' with one person after. That's the wrong mindset to begin with. If you look at it ad being restricted before even marrying then you're already unhappy or telling yourself that there's something wrong with not experiencing being with others. Without an official study I don't have numbers but would be curious to see how successful marriages are where one partner had sexual activities on their stag or stagette. Chances are low enough as is.

Yeah some people on here are kinda bitter. Don't throw out the baby with the bath water. Some people have been really hurt

Edit: don't second guesd it at all... I igored so many red flags... and I look back and just shake my head. If anyonr else had dealt with the same things I would have told them run away. Try to imagine if it was a buddy f yours and what you would say

TaiYongMedical · 2019-12-09T22:59:59+00:00

You are most welcome here. And you don't have to agree with everything we say. Yes, we have our fair share of angry and offensive posts, but that's because many men are sick and tired of dealing with women's bullshit, and the lack of understanding for male issues.

Leave you cheating fiancee, and go your own way. Imagine if you were locked into a forced relationship with this women, and had kids with her. Don't expect to be lucky next time. It may well be, that your would fail to get tipped off by a third party like you had been in this case. Stay safe brother. Trust no one. Patience. Discipline.

MGTOW_IN_JAPAN · 2019-12-09T23:59:54+00:00

No way!!! I commented on your thread "welcome to mgtow" just to spread the message. Half serious half thought you'd just blow off my comment.

Im about to head to work so I have my own opinions for you. One is DON'T take this sub too seriously. You'll see a lot of hateful stuff from people coming from your kind of situation. It's the anger/bitter phase. Go through it, but don't stay there man. We almost all went through it. But it's not a place you want to stay, and this subreddit has a LOT of people going through that too.

Anyways I'll try to write more later.

Maximum_Afternoon · 2019-12-09T13:40:31+00:00

Some posts are unnecessarily mean. There's no rule against some MGTOWs being assholes, so we have some.

Our position on hate is like the scorpion. You don't hate the scorpion for stinging, that's just their nature.

mylifeisthejoke · 2019-12-09T13:59:02+00:00

To be honest while I love this sub the ones who hate women are just going through the growing pains. Since it’s so hard to cut yourself off from those you’ve been told will love you and that you are their protector. This entire community is about doing your own thing. Take each day as it comes and do as you wish it’s all about you for once in your life take that chance and grow.

f4thog · 2019-12-09T14:47:52+00:00

No matter what happens next, never betray yourself. Stay strong, brother.

E-roticWarrior · 2019-12-09T15:35:19+00:00

I saw your post the first time posted in RA, You see most men even cucks and simps will know/feel something is wrong down in their gut (intuition) but somehow choose to ignore it because of social and societal programming and then get zeroed out (commit suicide). Just be glad you caught this early instead of 5-10 years down the road.

R_Hak · 2019-12-09T15:53:05+00:00

his is completely unnatural. Male animals in nature kill other males that try to have sex with their females. I was starting to feel better after the break up, but after days of receiving the same cucked messages I'm starting to get really depressed about how many guys think this is ok. I'm honestly beginning to become more upset with the response to my posts than what my ex did.

So, you know that other animal males fight for females, but do you also know that one alfa male, for example gorrillas can have his harrem, but there are cases when his female gorrillas will bring in some "beta" gorrilla and fuck him while the alfa isnt watching... Also, since you like nature and biology facts... Have you ever thought, if masculinity is toxic, and if females really dont like masculine men, then how do you excplain that those type of men still exist today... shouldnt those type of men have been erradicated from the gene pool since the females dont like them? on the contrary my friends, those type of me exist precisely because the females want to mate especially with them.

trancedj · 2019-12-09T16:05:11+00:00

Congratulations on standing up for yourself despite the tremendous pressure you faced (both internally and externally). Well done sir.

Your ex shoved a red pill down your throat and now you are starting to see the world with new eyes. It can be disorientating and you’ll experience all types of emotions. Some liken the experience to the stages of grief we all go through when we lose someone or something we once held close. In this case you lost both a woman and a fantasy.

A word of caution, now that you’re beginning to see reality for what it is, please understand this; you cannot use red pill knowledge to live a blue pill fantasy. To elaborate; red pill knowledge being an understanding of women’s nature and their role in today’s gynocentric society. Blue pill fantasy is the Disney fairytale of happily ever after. There is no happily ever after, and even if there is, it most certainly does not include a woman. There is only happily ever NOW and you should never give your power away to anyone ever again, especially a woman.

Best of luck. I hope you stick around and learn as much as you can. The knowledge found here can literally save your life.

48LawsOfFlour · 2019-12-09T16:41:23+00:00

No, we can't help you. Not really. You'll be looking to us expecting the sort of support system that society promised you and there's no way we can live up to that.

There is no support system. There's just the angry DMs and the blame which always defaults to you. You didn't do anything wrong, you simply are wrong. This is the essence of the red pill.

Don't worry. Right now you're viewing it as people not caring. Like they had the option open to them but passed right by it. Soon you'll realize it's more of a matter of not being able to care. Siding with you, you being right, the situation being unfair-- all of these are meaningless details. The thing that is important is "woman good, man bad" and you are the man. There's no trial or due process, just an extended rationalization of why you are broken and wrong.

when_its_too_late · 2019-12-09T16:48:25+00:00

Pretty much what everyone said. Accepting reality is hard. But seriously, it's about controlling your state of mind. In the end, the choice is in fact yours on how you deal with these things. Hood yourself accountable and learn from your mistakes and improve. But don't get used, taken advantage of, or played with every again. Ever. Do you hear me? Women rule this world. It's a fight for survival.

Btw...I am also super Conservative and super "proper" and gentlemanly, and I would have seriously beat that hoe of yours if it was me today, but back in the day I would have "let it slide". 6 years = progress.

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hl100orsmth · 2019-12-09T17:28:51+00:00

aybe I'm just a sheltered hick that lives in a conservative flyover bubble, but I never dreamed that so many men would be ok with this sort of cuckolding behavior from women they are in a relationship with. This is completely unnatural. Male animals in nature kill other males that try to have sex with their females. I was starting to feel better after the break up, but after days of receiving the same cucked messages I'm starting to get really depressed about how many guys think this is ok.

I remember your story, you did the right thing. Anyone else claiming otherwise is an absolute degenerate and not a man. You did the only respectful thing that you could have done.

This happened to me IRL, people blaming me for insta dumping a cheating whore. And I mean instant. The same second I found out.

People were BLAMING ME. Almost nobody supported me. Not that I needed support since I decided this won't affect me, and it didn't. But still. I just refuse to suffer cuz of whores. Luckily, no kids, no marriage.

I told them IRL that you are all insane, and none of you is men (there were men siding on the side of the cheater. Women too. These people were out mutual friends)

People went insane somewhere during the 20th century and we are seeing the results now. LGBT insanity, adultery and cucking is literally being shoved down peoples throats through media, movies, shows, books, everywhere. But it's insane. Just because they keep shoving it won't change the fact that it is insane.

TruePolarWanderer · 2019-12-09T17:41:57+00:00

We got an influx of negativity when they banned some other subreddits we are going to have to ride it out if we can. But that is not what this sub is about. It is inherently positive in it's message and incorporating going your own way into your life is a total game changer.

It's really about all the little decisions you make every day. There is no political or social complexity to it that needs to be discussed.

Blissbynature · 2019-12-09T18:00:43+00:00

Well, bucking the system after seeing the truth takes mental toughness. It's like waking up in a bright room. Opening your eyes takes some time to adjust.

hillbilly_mgtow · 2019-12-09T18:37:38+00:00

I’ve been banned for giving red pill advice to men in dating subs. That tells u all u need to know

thefudmaster · 2019-12-09T18:46:40+00:00

OP. I responded to that thread congratulating you. With MGTOW, or any other philosophy, you don’t have to buy into everything someone types on here.

MGTOW is a way of life and you make it your own. Your cheating whore of an ex fiancé would never have told you what she did and I recall she lied to you initially.

My ex wife cheated shortly after our wedding with one of my groomsmen. I was on a work trip when she did it, not once but twice. I did the “good Christian thing” and forgave her.

She cheated numerous times years later and now we share children. I pay out the ass for child support and alimony.

I can honestly say that 99.99% percent of women have zero agency in regard to cheating and their hypergamy.

I’m happy you dumped her and blocked all contact.

belzeb0t · 2019-12-09T19:02:28+00:00

The only moral compass that matters is your own. Do not live life according to other people's beliefs. If a red line was crossed in your relationship according to your own values that's all the reason you need to end it. Ignore the haters.

larry_the_loving · 2019-12-09T19:17:31+00:00

You did the right thing. It won't always feel like it, but remember that you did. Well done and stay strong, you'll get through this.

1nfinitus · 2019-12-09T19:36:00+00:00

Read your posts while they were “live”, despite the circumstances, I’m glad you’ve found us. Settle down and pour yourself a drink.

Those cucks who message you are not men. They’re far from seeing the light. Ignore them, pity them at the very least.

You did the right thing. You held firm and stuck to your guns. Now the real journey begins. Feel free to drop a message.

me-dgaf · 2019-12-09T19:42:24+00:00

Why do you give a rat-ass what others think? Cut the tie, focus on you, and move on.

There's always another set of titties around the corner in this 7-billion plus planet. You have only 24 hours a day, not a second more. Which is more precious?

ninja_deli · 2019-12-09T19:44:41+00:00

Most guys have been conditioned by society to accept whatever women do, even the bad behavior, as ok because women are beyond reproach. Some guys take that to the extreme for some reason.

Dat_Azz_Spanker · 2019-12-09T20:06:42+00:00

I find this astounding. I caught my first wife cheating. She was kicked out that day. Lets look at your situation from the other perspective, would your fiance have been fine with a stripper blowing you at your bachelor party. I highly doubt it!

If a person wants to live a polyamourous life style, fine do your thing, that is what freedom is about. But when two individuals agree to be together and monogamous and one breaks that vow, they are the piece of shit, not you. It is simple. Chin up bro, you did the right thing dumping her, take it from a silver back who has been there done that!!

AffectionateCitrone3 · 2019-12-09T20:17:29+00:00

Reddit is full of weaklings and cucks. Young men who lack any experience and they grow up eating up all the feminist bullshit and are very weak willed as a result. Pay no attention to them, they don't matter. Women and these weaklings will try to shame you but cheating on ANY level is not okay.

PMmeYOURrareCONTENT · 2019-12-09T20:29:20+00:00

That's reddit for you, man. They ban a lot of the more "edgier" content that might interest men who actually have balls and don't get incredibly offended over everything and there's lots of people out there doing there best to get into moderator seats in subreddits so they can infuse their agenda and ban wrongthink. You end up with a very one-sided - as you say, cucked - perspective in most subreddits. I'm surprised this subreddit hasn't been quarantined or banned yet. Well, to get to my point, most people who actually have balls have either left the site or have at least stopped participating/been banned in most "normal" subreddits.

Edit: Glad you avoided that would-be trainwreck of a marriage. Good for you man. Just consider the possibility that you may have never found out about what happened ... scary.

2019-12-09T20:37:00+00:00

You're both a bit in denial and angry, and you have a right to be. You had a bad experience, but it will serve you in the future.

Do not care about the trolls and cucks, live your life the way you want, stick to your principles and don't let anyone take them away.

USMC-KOS · 2019-12-09T21:08:40+00:00

I feel you brother. There are a lot of trolls on here. From reading your story, I think you made the right choice. It will get easier with time, but you definitely have to be wary of women if you plan on dating in the future. Always protect yourself though. Best of luck.

nosoupforyou · 2019-12-09T21:09:23+00:00

If they are sending you hateful PM's, report them. Sending someone a PM calling calling them names is probably grounds for banning.

Publicly doing the same thing in a subreddit is generally grounds for banning them from the subreddit. However, some subreddits will encourage the behavior if the mods happen to agree with the other person. If that happens, report the subreddit mod to reddit if they do anything to you.

GreetingsFromErf · 2019-12-09T22:08:08+00:00

Well if any "real life" guys are criticizing you for dumping her, you need to think about putting their girls on the "next to bang" list.

2019-12-09T22:31:24+00:00

The red pill is as lonely a road as it is a tough pill to swallow.

What you're witnessing are sheep. "The plugged in who will protect the matrix at all costs"

They're also known as blue pilled; cucks, simps, white knights and frustrated chumps

applepiebreadpudding · 2019-12-09T23:02:45+00:00

This is reddit and I know it could be women pretending, or people that are just trolling, but the sheer volume of the same messages makes me think not. I'm struggling to make sense of this shit.

political correctness

frankfurt school

feminism

gay and tranny agenda

jewish influence

oh boy what a rabbis hole you opened up

tedshreddon · 2019-12-09T23:56:27+00:00

Breathe, meditate if you know how. Eat, sleep and work-out. Try to stay focused on just this day and take absolutely great care of yourself, your home and your work.

You did the right thing (getting out) and you already know this to be true. Others will try and change your mind. Ignore them. The MGTOW path is liberating. Welcome.

kyledontcare · 2019-12-10T00:04:13+00:00

You ignore this and you think she'll stop here? Leave her immediately and never have contact with her again. If you were married and later divorced you'd probably lose everything and the kid you think is yours is probably someone else's baby. Is that OK? I'd think not. Ditch her immediately and walk away free with minimal damage and cost.

MethaCat · 2019-12-10T00:38:39+00:00

Disconnect from all social media, reddit included and take some time off to let it go.

bobbiscotti · 2019-12-10T01:23:14+00:00

It’s good that you are frustrated. I know it doesn’t feel good. I know how much pain you feel for what happened. As men, we get very few condolences, but you certainly have mine.

Now you are armed with knowledge, even if just a glimmer of it. The emotions you feel help to solidify the memory. There’s so much more to learn about just how brainwashed the modern male psyche has become, how women have realized just how much they can get away with as a result, how little people will care about you if you simply let it be known that you are a Man.

It’s not fun. But don’t worry. As soon as you realize that women and confused men aren’t the best sources of happiness and fulfillment (shouldn’t be much longer now... ;) ) you’ll be having all the fun in the world.

We are not such a sour bunch. Feel free to stay a while :)

Chakra_Devourer · 2019-12-10T02:28:42+00:00

Of course they ballin' on you for breaking up with a cheating whore. Those stupid cucks would happily wife up a loose slut that had hundreds of cocks. The thirst is unreal.

Hopefulwaters · 2019-12-10T03:16:34+00:00

Welcome to the next chapter of your life, sure the transition has been rough... But the sky is the limit. Just as you need to ignore the misogynism, so too you should ignore the cucks and anyone who sends a message that does anything other than wish you well. Life is too short and you shouldn't spend another second on why people are sending you insane messages. You need to find your way now and decide what else you want in life. I recommend the book a course in free by Lawnrece Lanoff when you are ready.

AnonDeity · 2019-12-10T03:19:05+00:00

Good shit not marrying her! Proud of you also for the mental trauma you received from this is actually easier to deal with than being married to her. Imagine being married to her it would have been way more taxing on your mental health. You might be sad right now but guess what only up from here. Also never ever get married focus on yourself. Thank me later!

patcoot_sa · 2019-12-10T03:50:27+00:00

Dude count yourself lucky, and move on. And just delete the app if your getting a bunch of messages you don't want. Just delete that shit, make a new account and sub on mgtow

JohnPettimore · 2019-12-10T03:52:22+00:00

It's true that a lot of what you read here is pretty ugly. That being said, right now, they're trying to keep you from suck-starting a gun, which is what marrying your ex-fiancee would have led to.

Let's put this in perspective. If she's willing to jack off a stripper who's a complete stranger, before she's even married to you, then it's only a matter of time until she does something much, much worse to you as her husband. Someone who's this amoral needs to be removed from your life, immediately and permanently. What everyone is really concerned about is lapsing. Just eliminate her. We'll worry about the details later.

PHyL1X · 2019-12-10T04:01:11+00:00

Hey man... welcome. I personally DM’d you. Great to have you here however long or short the visit. As per many other comments.... be aware that everyone in here is in different levels/stages. I think that most find it gets WORSE before it gets better when taking the red pill. And know that there are MANY red pills/truths to be had/taken/learned.

You may also check out /MGTOW2. It’s a little more serene over there. I like to check both MGTOW and MGTOW2 although this one is more active.

When I was in the rage phase... I actually found it helpful to know that there were others out there that felt the same about our broken society. Think of this place as a safe place to vent.

2019-12-10T04:35:28+00:00

dude, most women are garbage, thank God there are still men that think the way you do...

I would never say one word to a woman that did that to me.

She'd never get one more second of my attention.

CodeDaniel · 2019-12-10T05:17:05+00:00

Freedom is everything G Y O W

Windowmaker101 · 2019-12-10T05:26:56+00:00

Don't listen to them. we will support you if you need help.

Ramius2016 · 2019-12-10T05:36:25+00:00

Hey man. You made the right decision. She broke her own rule. She showed her colors. Etc etc.

Plenty of fish in the sea.

I am curious....You mentioned the one “non-handjob” bridesmaid’s husband was going to inform the other guys about what their wives/girlfriends were up to.

Have you heard of any fallout yet?

seefromabove · 2019-12-10T06:30:08+00:00

Why do you worry about cucked messages from other men? It's their problem, not yours.

Alexius_von_Meinong · 2019-12-10T12:29:06+00:00

"...the sheer volume of the same messages..."

That's the hive mind. That's the desire to fit in, to go along to get along.

It takes a long time to make sense of it. It often means becoming familiar with ideas that are, at first, repellant. But if you really do struggle to make sense, and not merely to find comfort and be confirmed in your illusions, then this is the beginning of a journey. It's a long journey. It may take you the rest of your life to make the journey. And there is no clear demarcation between the completion of the journey and walking your own path distinct from that of anyone else. The struggle isn't to be avoided, shrugged off, or wished away. The struggle is how a man comes to understanding. So long as you're struggling, you know you're still alive and that you are your own man.

Mikeytikey123 · 2019-12-10T14:26:11+00:00

Hello again guy whose fiancée jacked off a stripper!!!!! XD /s

On a serious note, what up bro

Warm_Wheel · 2019-12-12T19:24:53+00:00

Dude, I'm 30 and I honestly start to grasp how shitty the world it is. Don't get shout down by this, pretty sure this whole experience would mold you into a stronger person. I sincerely wish everything gets betters soon on your end.

As your internet friend, I bet you the better person for you is yet to be here.

6Man-Stars · 2019-12-18T16:20:44+00:00

I’ll say this: don’t get too caught up in this subreddit and the redpill. While they give great advice at time, getting caught up in the ecosystem isn’t healthy and good.

Just focus on being a better person, and move forward in your life.

solarmal · 2019-12-19T02:55:13+00:00

No idea really what you are talking about, but if your significant other cheats on you: DUMP THEM. No excuses, no "sorry" or "it's because you wouldn't do this or that". You will NEVER trust them again. Move on!

Left-Comment · 2020-01-02T11:36:52+00:00

Dude, dont go bitter.

You will suffer some PTSD for some time and everything will be an emotional trigger, but it will fade with time and space (if you pray ir will help so much you have no idea).

Forgive her or you will be emotionaly stuck forever and wont be able to construct any meaningful relationship after this.

People are lame and lack empathy, especially under alcohol and peer pressure.

I've been in the MRM blogosphere since 2009 and some atuff will make you disociate from reality (it helped me understand men a bit but made me disociate and hate me and my sex for years until I undeesntood needer side is right in everything).

2 things are able to help a lot in situations like this: 1) look for a good homeopath to give you some dose for trauma and to help you forgive and FORGET, to help you to change your view of this situation you are living for a better perspective of a new future (i think in the us its called naturoprath). 2) counseling (or a diary).

Ps: most of the MRM stuff dont even exist amymore, but a great blog is https://dalrock.wordpress.com/ (good old days he or maryandthedragon would "fight" against hookingupsmart hahaha, or when marriedmansexlife was still a poster in foruns and sites like spearhead and bonnafide still existed).

Good luck and God bless you.

Sorry for my bad english.

Honest_Interest · 2020-01-07T07:59:42+00:00

How are you travelling? came across this post again and wondered how you are going after this shitstorm she brought down on you... Hope you've found your way out the other side...

Title	Can any one here help?
Author	ThrowRAguy1993
Upvotes	377
Comments	147
Date	December 9, 2019 12:00 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/e892ma/can_any_one_here_help/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/can-any-one-here-help.645627 https://theredarchive.com/post/645627

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