A married mans schedule

citizen_ix · 2020-05-22T01:48:33+00:00

Your story is terrfiying to me. This is why I don't want to get married. I'm so sorry for your circumstance, it sounds awful.

Impossible-asset · 2020-05-22T03:27:55+00:00

To contrast: my schedule:

0700: wake up, morning routine, make breakfast.

0800:- 1630 work. Doing that IT magic.

1700- get home, work out.

1800 shower and make dinner.

1900 - play guitar. Play videogames, study, whatever i want to do

2300 hit the hay.

Weekends = what's an alarm clock? Brew beer, drink beer, do whatever the hell i want as long as dishes get done, trash goes out to the street and laundry is ready. And nobody is around to ruin my fun.

Herbivore4Life · 2020-05-22T02:12:11+00:00

Good man for dealing with all that BS to provide a better life for your child. We need more like you

CuriousIncel2 · 2020-05-22T02:13:07+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Whenever I show somebody examples such as this, their reply is the usual "won't be like this for ME". So I'm starting to believe that most people just don't value secondhand experience.

If I may implore you, what's the other side of the coin? Why did you decide to get married? Is your kid worth being in such a marriage?

I feel like understanding people's perspective before they took the plunge might prove insightful, because once you're trapped, the realization of being imprisoned is not very useful.

victor_knight · 2020-05-22T03:06:38+00:00

They know most men who marry try to be good fathers and they can use that as leverage. If you suddenly decided to "walk out" on your son, the look on your wife's face will be like a terrorist whose hostage has suddenly lost all their value. This is why so many wives change dramatically after the child is born. It's not the child per se, but the fact that she now knows she has you by the balls. She also knows the almighty state is there to help her enforce her will regardless. Even her family and friends will gladly step up for her in most cases.

unmasteredman · 2020-05-22T02:31:40+00:00

Dude document everything. If you smoke weed stop. Look up the pdf How to Fire Your Wife...if she decides to divorce you gl seeing your boy. Be tough man. Signed divorced father of 2, married 3 years.

Mars_Pornhub · 2020-05-22T03:09:10+00:00

I was married and not once have I come inside her. When she wanted a kid, I faked it. Men can fake too. I'm glad I left her without having a kid.

Tmonte0311 · 2020-05-22T02:03:25+00:00

F man.

LetsGoAllTheWhey · 2020-05-22T02:32:10+00:00

I was in a similar situation and stayed married for my young son. Long story short, we divorced anyway when he was seven. He's now 17 and so far has turned out really well. We have a great relationship and spend quite a lot of time together. He spends part of the weekends he's supposed to be with her, with me. We work out together and he'd rather do his weekend homework at my house because his mom is so chaotic.

I really believe that if we had stayed married my relationship with my son would be so much more strained.

Give some thought to a divorce.

soulure · 2020-05-22T03:25:18+00:00

my wife thinks exercise is selfish so I have to drive to the park to go on my runs before work to hide it from my wife.

And? Let her be upset, being upset isn't a problem unless you can't let it roll off you. A big problem here is you not standing up for what you need but cowering thinking she's your mom. It's perfectly fine for her to be upset with whatever she wants, you do you and let her stew.

kriskros18 · 2020-05-22T03:35:28+00:00

Oh fck!

Save a ‘divorce rape’ stash on the side. It’s never too late to develop a “gambling” addiction. Trust me bro, you will need it.

Xornor · 2020-05-22T07:28:48+00:00

Never married, no kids;

6:30 am wake-up. Slow start-up.

8:00 am - 4:00 pm Work. Sometimes stress.

4:00 pm - 6:00 pm Gym.

6:00 pm - 0:00 Free time

And that was bad busy day. There is no reason why man should marry and get kids. Women and kids ruin your life.

dmjdkfkgkvkfkr · 2020-05-22T02:08:19+00:00

When did you MGTOW?

BananaWilly · 2020-05-22T04:05:40+00:00

Settle down, you have fifteen years to raise your boy. Next life you can make better decisions. The red pill was delivered to you, too late.

1-2-3_KID · 2020-05-22T07:27:29+00:00

Just leave her, she is a liability. Only thing she seems to bring to the table is pussy, problems and complaints. She stays at home and does nothing all day and she has the nerve to complain about looking after your son.

StickyNoodle69 · 2020-05-22T02:41:55+00:00

What if we fall in love and marry a women who also works?

simplisticallysimple · 2020-05-22T07:32:21+00:00

Thanks for reminding me NEVER to get married.

philiciousX · 2020-05-22T10:00:38+00:00

Sorry to hear that story of you my Brother.

Read "The rational Male" and never, I repeat: NEVER! Let your wife see this book!

I'd suggest that you start working out openly again, and that you don't let any of the toxic shaming affect you. ( prepare some argument points like you want to be as good as a rolemodel for your son...)

She will notice that you become more physically attractive, also to other women. If she is that toxic, make use of the intrinsic competition anxiety every woman has. And don't ever feel guilty about it. Be as manipulative and coldblooded as she is. Instead of using manipulations to get a halftimejob, manipulate her to give the best life to your son that he could have.

2020-05-22T18:56:00+00:00

My nightmare. Every time some thought of marriage flashes through my head, I picture myself working all day and then not even feeling like coming home because it doesn't feel like home and there's someone there i don't want to be with or around, and so instead of eagerly hurrying home I intentionally get held up in traffic or go slower so as to delay getting home.

Out of curiosity -- how in the hell did you two get married in the first place? Were there no clues it/she was going to be like this?

thejokertoker05 · 2020-05-22T02:55:57+00:00

Jesus that's horrible

2plus2s5 · 2020-05-22T02:57:54+00:00

Talk to a lawyer. There may be a way out.

SynthWeaver · 2020-05-22T07:53:32+00:00

Make pictures of her using weed and use it to get custody over your child by saying she is somekind of a junky. I'm not an expert but it is something that came to my mind after reading your tragic story.

dadnhmtb · 2020-05-22T12:35:48+00:00

This used to be my life.

I used to think I had to do it for the kids. I didn't.

I was afraid that the Government Boogeyman would take them from me and leave them with my alcoholic wife. They didn't.

You can do this. It will suck. You will lose money. It will not be fair. In the end you will be in control of your life again.

(Do it now while there is only one kid in the mix)

Five9Fine · 2020-05-22T03:07:46+00:00

That's for sharing. I really needed this.

ResultsoverExcuses · 2020-05-22T03:08:55+00:00

Sounds amazing /s

Wtfbyamey · 2020-05-22T04:05:05+00:00

But then what does your wife do..... other than complaining and whining all day? What’s her contribution in this relationship?

VestigialHead · 2020-05-22T04:37:47+00:00

If it was not for your son I would be suggesting you minimise all assets and divorce.

But that makes it hard on a child.

You have stated a new concept for me. Your wife actually thinks that exercise is selfish? How does she justify that?

2020-05-22T04:38:23+00:00

Same age as you and divorced for 4 years, dodged a bulled as ex couldn't have kids due to an ovary issue (forgot the name) so I feel your pain brother, I have been fortunate but many men are in a dead end.

lr4295a1 · 2020-05-22T05:13:59+00:00

Wrap it up

redditme789 · 2020-05-22T09:15:33+00:00

Surely, it’d make more sense to seek a divorce? Sure she may divorce rape your assets, but I’m sure the amount she takes won’t take too long to earn back?

RationalistFaith1 · 2020-05-22T09:39:23+00:00

Who’s fault is it you haven’t put your wife back in her place?

Yours.

GlobalAsshat · 2020-05-22T10:08:33+00:00

The one on our line is like this... she doesn't want any sort of responsibility at all.. she just wants to spend the entire day gossiping with whatever guys will give her attention and having constant "fun" with no responsibility, and guys tend to enable their behavior by being thirsty and showering them with attention.

However, almost all the men I work with have women in their lives or are married, and most if not all are varied degrees of happy, so direct experience shows relationships can work. Men are wired to crave the companionship, what they have a harder time getting is the emotional support as women have a hard time giving it, so they get it from other men.

CelestialAmorphous · 2020-05-22T11:07:43+00:00

Thanks for the warning but please do better you deserve it! Nobody should be telling you when you can excerise or not you're a man! Take the lead In your household.

chains84 · 2020-05-22T11:13:57+00:00

This is TRAGEDY. Man, I wish I can pull you away from that reality.

_certified_ · 2020-05-22T11:15:16+00:00

Thats fucked up brother, hide what money and assets you can and just divorce her now. The sooner the better so you can start over. Im serious. If the wife doesnt even take care of the kids fulltime is she even a wife (i mean when she stays at home and live off your money already).

The positive note i can give you is that as single and childless i many weeks i wake up 2~ hours earlier you haha and im tired as shit too those days.

But seriously, get out while you can, start working on it right now. You already do everything what are you having her around for? You work and bring in the money, you cook, you take care of your son, you probably do alot of other shit around the house too that you are not telling us.

Brother, LEAVE NOW. She will drain your soul if you keep up with this. I have been in similar situations but non married and no child.

Last_Patriarch · 2020-05-22T11:28:30+00:00

I'm sorry, man, but you already know what will be the inevitable end, don't you? Got no ideas about the setup and the circumstances and it's always easy to tell others what to do but...you're obviously done here. It's just a matter of time before #1 you snap, #2 she cheat. Go see and talk to a lawyer. Figure out options and cut your losses asap. You're only 34. Ok! You fucked up! We all did at one point or another. But you're a young man with a whole life to live. Without the mother of your child.

Tuxmando · 2020-05-22T11:48:04+00:00

Don’t over assume how bad divorce will be. Document your time with the child. Document her smoking weed. Don’t hide money, but do try to start separating your finances from her’s. Expensive lawyers are worth every penny. Start working on an exit plan. This might take a couple of years so child is in school so you don’t have to deal with the cost of daycare.

Most states will assume equal custody of the child unless there are good reasons to do otherwise. If you are young, the alimony you pay can be set up to end over time. The courts won’t just assume she is a helpless housewife the rest of her life.

Oh, and never, ever badmouth the mom in front of the child. Even if you are totally right. No child wants to hear someone talk trash about their mom (or dad). It will make them hate you in the future.

KonyHawk_ProSlaver_ · 2020-05-22T12:52:50+00:00

Sounds like you just married a selfish bitch. There are good women out there. Why are you still married to her? You take shit from her and she knows she can walk all over you, making her act even more shitty towards you.

It's probably not even her fault. I can't imagine women enjoy being like that; it's just innate in them to not respect a man who doesn't respect himself.

DesertCool500 · 2020-05-22T13:01:29+00:00

50% of all marriages end in divorce. Also 80% of divorces are initiated by women, and the higher income earner would be lucky to keep 50% of their stuff. And yet a lot of gals and guys keep wanting to ride the marriage train.

Rascal_Blacktail · 2020-05-22T14:09:40+00:00

I was in a situation like this. I was just starting out professionally and was piling on the debt trying to keep my wife and I above water. She was supposed to get a job after we got married (she finished her schooling early summer, we got married at the end of summer). Found out on the honeymoon that she planned to be a stay at home wife. She barely cleaned. Barely cooked. Contributed to massive amounts of debt and complained about being depressed as I tried to keep myself from having a nervous breakdown. She got pregnant with my son in July of the following year after we got married, and the cycle continued. She did minimal work and paid more attention to her phone. I divorced her when he was 3. Best decision I’ve ever made in my life. Got 50/50 custody and I’ve managed to have the best relationship ever with my son who is now 5.

You need to look at what you’re going through and determine if it’s worth it. If not, lawyer up and get the fuck outta there and find your old self again. My family was happy to have the old me back after that hell.

principledbeast1 · 2020-05-22T14:51:28+00:00

Similar experience. Only I would work almost 2 full time jobs and then when I came home after my 12 hour on the weekend I'd find that while she had organized the house and vacuumed, none of the remaining tasks were done, leaving me to mow the lawn, do laundry, fix whatever "male task" needed fixed and somehow find time to spend with my kids on the two days off a month I had. God, it boils me even now, I had honestly began to forget how bad it was until you posted this.

Reason 2, my wife thinks exercise is selfish so I have to drive to the park to go on my runs before work to hide it from my wife.

This is going to be her "reason" to divorce you by the way if she finds out. She'll tell everyone you were cheating on her instead of running.

blazing_shuffle · 2020-05-22T15:58:18+00:00

Bruh. Divorce her ass. If you're in the US, alimony will only be for 1.5 years. If you wait till 10, you'll have to pay her for life.

Taguroizumo · 2020-05-22T16:26:57+00:00

My advice: try to save money in some secret fund or even make a fund for your child and start planning your escape. Always record her fck ups and past these on to your lawyer. When the child moves out bang, pull out the divorce papers.

5gil135 · 2020-05-22T03:36:08+00:00

Me:

Wake up: Hung over: Girl comes over saying something. Tell her to shut up I'm hung over. She says ok and goes away. Play my morning Puzzle Quest and drink coffee. She gets a bunch of free hair product from the local church. She keeps telling me how much she likes it. I keep telling her that's nice. She tells me again. I tell her..yeah, that's nice. Give it to someone else. I don't care how you look. She tells me there is like $900 worth of stuff in there. I'm like, wtf.... never mind... don't care. check the price tags. yep... what church is giving out 1000 dollars in three small bottles that smell like shit. fucking tax fraud. goddammit. wtf are you up to? Oh God I don't care. I'm going out to get more vodka. I'll wake up in a month or so. This pandemic is horrible. lol.....

SumTingIsVaryWong · 2020-05-22T03:37:30+00:00

Gaunt95 · 2020-05-22T06:48:25+00:00

What would confronting her look like? I'm just curious. I don't know if I could not push back on her ridiculous behavior.

TheVineyard1996 · 2020-05-22T08:52:17+00:00

Have you tried asserting yourself?

Joxan13 · 2020-05-22T09:25:37+00:00

Some messed up things OP. I’m fairly certain all of us here wanted the nuclear family but modern society makes it impossible so we go our own way.

PatnarDannesman · 2020-05-22T10:06:05+00:00

I'll bet she's stacking on the weight, too.
I bet you have sex less than once per week. Maybe less than once per month.

Fictilis · 2020-05-22T10:50:32+00:00

Sounds rough, you are a good father and man

CrossroadsinCtown · 2020-05-22T11:59:00+00:00

Divorce the cunt

Mugaragwa · 2020-05-22T13:26:40+00:00

Hang in there man, for your child's sake. Don't even think of initiating a divorce as it may stress you out even more, and don't go looking for a side chick either.

drgonzo17 · 2020-05-22T16:50:26+00:00

the wives in these stories are never hot. Guy would sound slightly happier if he was having amazing sex with his trophy wife. Remember men its all about the bottom line to women who see us as replaceable and expendable.

ClubZlut · 2020-05-22T18:27:35+00:00

Don't get married, don't make the same mistake. No pussy is worth it and and it invariably turns into either this or something worse. Not to mention the financial suicide if you're even remotely stable.

Impossible-asset · 2020-05-22T03:18:46+00:00

Post removed: ...after reviewing the play, the call on the field is overturned. OP is relaying his personal experience, and is not being negative insomuch as relaying his personal circumstance.

Post approved.

Loud-Association · 2020-05-22T14:21:41+00:00

Thanks for sharing.

I am only 25 and not married so this point is lost might be lost on me but I am curious if you don't mind sharing.

Is divorce completely out of the question?

Would that really be so terrible for your child's life, I guess he must be very young. But from my friends experiences the ones who had divorced parents early seem more adjusted than the ones who had tense households until their parents divorced in college.

Have you spoken with a divorce lawyer?

I am just trying to understand the situation. I have read enough mgtow to understand the risks of marriage. But is it really impossible to leave? Is it the financial chains that make it impossible?

I know alimony is based on your income you make during marriage, can you intentionally make less, and earn less money to lower the burden of future allimony? And then you are free to amp it up once you escape?

dbfkf · 2020-05-22T16:16:56+00:00

Did you make sure the kid is yours?

2020-05-22T16:43:25+00:00

So married one bad apple, and tell everyone else not to get married.

RedPillMissionary · 2020-05-22T17:12:42+00:00

Depending on the IQ of your wife, your son will eventually recognize your efforts. My old man is my best bud.

mickenrorty · 2020-05-22T23:59:49+00:00

Honestly you have it a lot better than most married men.

gothtoxic · 2020-05-23T02:23:12+00:00

this isn't a misandry thing your wife just fucking sucks

Last_Patriarch · 2020-05-23T03:14:32+00:00

I don't know your life and it's easy to give advices especially online but, as you came asking, consider:

the example you're giving to your son with this behavior. Do you think it will make him a real man?
except if there is a good side of her you forgot to mention, nothing you said about her and her family can justify living like an eunuch. You're not living in Russia and married to Putin's daughter... If you wanna go, you can.

schrono · 2020-05-23T03:44:29+00:00

Have you ever tried fucking her in the butt?

Ayush585 · 2020-05-23T06:54:04+00:00

Your life story got me. Without marriage, you could have done a lot of things that most married men only dream about. Anyways, the way you have explained your wife, i am pretty sure that one day she will end up divorcing you and gobble half of your assets. Be safe, protect your hard-earned money and lovely son.

GoldJello · 2020-05-24T10:49:45+00:00

my condolences, bro.

"engagement ring, marriage ring and suffering" proverb is so right in this case.

just teach your son mgtow to liberate from your bad karma. let him be free.

wdream1 · 2020-05-24T11:08:21+00:00

Sounds all too familiar

Chingparr · 2020-05-24T13:36:39+00:00

"Spending money they didn't earn."

My God if that isn't the truth. In my previous relationship, we didn't marry but we merged bank accounts.

Every two weeks, when I got paid, $1,000 would fly out of our bank account like it was on fire. Where did it go? Sephora, Amazon, Vera Bradley, etc.

Try to bring it up?

"Well! You spent xxxx dollars on a guitar!"

Well yeah... but I SAVED UP for it. I didn't make any impulse purchases!

consult4u · 2020-05-24T23:30:26+00:00

What a shitty story. However this is the new normal.

Hopefully she will burn thru this little faze.

Keep yourself in great physical shape. As she starts to balloon up and you don't

it will kick in sooner rather then later that she best get her act togather.

caralto · 2020-05-25T12:10:48+00:00

wtf happened bro, she walking over you and using the pregnancy as an excuse. might have made since for the first 6-9months tops, but now she just using you.

bro, get a side chick and bang some young pussy.

but to topic at hand, you got to reign this bitch in. slowly violate her boundaries, e.g. at night a tit squeeze here, a flick on the head there.

if you putting up with this shit you better be fucking her in the ass or getting some good blowjobs, if not, snap your fingers and tell her to suck you off to completion.

she is entitled.

good luck, reign her attitude in.

who cares if there is a fight, she using you as a slave, she is like peggy bundy and you are al, you got to get out of that routine.

drop her down a few levels, use words to belittle her and make her dependent on you

she should be making you breakfast, lunch and dinner, she aint got a job.

IBETITALL420 · 2020-05-25T18:18:28+00:00

" so I have to drive to the park to go on my runs before work to hide it from my wife. "

Yeah how the fuck is this affecting your mental status?

Hiding exercise from your wife....smfh. What goes through your mind when u have to do shit like that?

Feels like you're a prisoner.

2020-05-25T18:30:53+00:00

Just get divorced and worry about the consequences later

OfSpock · 2020-05-27T02:29:14+00:00

No one does any cleaning, laundry, shopping, ironing etc in this house?

alnico36 · 2020-05-30T22:59:23+00:00

Hello,

Sorry bout your story bro, but it reminded me strangely of a cartoon on youtube: Man Paradise

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_DAO-PN-EsH7E04y8YHieA

Check it out.Hope it gets better for you.Amen.

jaungtapu · 2020-05-22T18:30:25+00:00

i dont understand,instead of talking to your wife about her obvious weird ways. you are here bitching about it? if you dont talk to her, this shit is gonna end in a divorce or you'll keep living this shitty life. people have relationships to grow and mature.dont be a pussy and stand up for your rights man.

Title	A married mans schedule
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Date	May 22, 2020 1:37 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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