To start off with, this is not my regular MRP account. If you go through my post history and know me in person you could put two and two together and I would be exposed, so a dedicated account to deliver this FR, fresh from the front lines.

u/A_Rex was going on about that he wants to start spinning plates in his OYS last week. I need to give some input into the realities of a married man going down this route. The reasons why I went down this route would be a post all by itself, so I am not open to discussion on the reasons why, this is just my experience on how it went.

The plates

  • P1. I list her as P1 as she is also my favourite. LTR material, low n-count. Classy upmarket, good job, early forties, divorced, 2 kids. Met online. We have crazy monkey sex for hours and leave hotel rooms in an undesirable state.

  • P2. Not classy, not sophisticated. Late forties.Married. Met online. Been cheating on her husband for years.

  • P3. Met her at the camera club pre-unplugging. She was single at the time. Became fuckbuddies, she developed a major crush, I ghosted her. Recently met up again. She lives with a BF now. BF travels a lot so when he is out of town I visit her. No sex, but she sends me videos of her stripping down to under wear.

  • P4. Works in the same building as me, different company. Known her for a while. Twice divorced. We grope and kiss each other every time we catch the elevator alone. Sexting almost daily. A good fuck is just a phone call away, but she is bipolar and crazy-crazy so this is as far as I am taking this. Red flags abound.

  • Pn . There are a few more in the pipeline. P4's boss, I kid you not. A friend of the wife's, the wife of a friend. There are a few that could develop into Plates if I actively went for them.

What I found

  • I have cheated before as a beta bitch. I was seeking external validation. I found there is still some measure of seeking validation. The difference now is, all these relationships, I am in command. They feel they have more too lose than me. P1 is affraid her parents will find out, P2 has a husband, P3 has a BF who pays for everything. P4 is worried everyone in the building will think she is a slut. I have power over these women that I did not know I could wield. The difference between un-plugged and plugged-in is amazing. Frame, control, dominance, sex. Worlds apart.

  • Great sex. Each relationship starts with great sex, so no surprise here. But after learning how to fuck, thanks to DEVI, this is a new experience. They do exactly what I tell them to do. And potentially, each fuck is the last one. Resentment towards my wife. It is hard to game a partner when there are plates dripping in anticipation.

  • Budget. Hotel rooms get expensive.

  • Time. I will highlight this in bold TIME. Hindsight is 20/20, and I recently realized this is eating my time. The day I started spinning plates, is the day I stoppped improving myself as a man. Lifting is meh, diet is meh. Plates take time for a married man. Gaming them, chatting to them, sneaking to meet them. Time. Your most valuable asset.

  • Power and outcome independence. As mentioned I did not know I could be the one with all the power in a relationship. Women are way more worried what others would think off them than I thought.

  • I learnt about hypergamy and AWALT, from the horses mouth.

Hypergamy and AWALT

  • P1 came to me and confessed she went on a date with someone. He likes her a lot and she asked my permission to let him take her on another date. I gave it. She went on a few more dates. He believes he has found his soulmate, 50 something bachelor with no kids. She then told me, and I am quoting verbatim here: " I am not attracted to him like I am to you, but he can do a lot for me and the kids, financially" So far he has fixed her appliances, they go on 'dates' as a family, her, the kids and him. Her kids adore him. I don't know the names of her kids.....

  • P2 tells me her husband is boring. Drinks beer and watches tv all day. She has cheated on him for years now. She sends me pics of her tits in bed with her husband sleeping next to her. Never under estimate the sneakiness of your SO.

  • P3 lives with her BF, who pays for their apartment. She would drop him for me if I gave her any form of commitment. I see them often at the shops or restaurants. Holding hands. I have been in this dudes home, on his sofa, drinking his booze. Gents, your world is not as secure as it seems.

  • P1 is divorced for a few years already. The ex doesn't get the kids over weekends for, reasons. She is too controlling and he is too lame to insist. When I tell her we are doing something on Saturday night, guess where the kids are, their dad. Dude wasn't up to scratch previously, but momma needs a babysitter so she can get some dick, daddy is good enough. Solipsism in action.

Gents, this is just some of it. A lot of details I didn't even include, but you get the gist of it. Redpill is a powerfull tool, use it wisely, you can fuck up your relationship and those of others. The time aspect of it makes it unsustainable. I am stopping this pursuit. No regrets, but at the heart of it, it is not the outcome I was aiming for on my MAP.

Don't make pussy your mission.