Here is a retrospective.

One year ago

  • I was 60+ pounds overweight
  • Body Fat was probably 30%
  • Couldn't admit I was embarrassed to take my shirt off at the beach
  • Relied entirely on external validation
  • Was attending marriage counseling
  • Was watching art of blowjob instead of getting them
  • Expected women to act like grown men even though I wasn't
  • Had no real self esteem
  • Had never been to a gym
  • Had no idea how to dress
  • Had no idea how to cook
  • Had no idea how to handle women
  • Had no idea what women are
  • Had no idea why I had banged 10s but was never been able to keep one around
  • Had no idea that game existed
  • Had no frame
  • Had zero emotional state control
  • Had no discipline
  • Had no idea who I was
  • Had no idea what I wanted from life
  • Had no idea why I'd failed
  • Had no contentment for life
  • Had no idea what a shit test was
  • Had no skills to pass shit tests
  • Had no idea why my wife wasn't happy

Actions I took

  • Went to the gym started daily cardio
  • Began lifting with machines
  • Read Athol Kay's books
  • Wrote down answers to NMMNG and shared them in OYS here.
  • Read WISNIFG and practiced the techniques
  • Got fired by the marriage counselor
  • Quit watching porn
  • Stopped cock blocking myself
  • Began to practice agree & amplify
  • Learned AWALT and right alpha right time
  • Read The Rational Male
  • Studied game - 16 commandments of poon, book of pook, bang, day bang, the natural, models
  • Read Sex God Method
  • 48 Laws of Power
  • Saving a low sex Marriage Blue Pill Professor
  • Punched my ego in the face when it wasn't done for me here
  • Opened tinder and bumble accounts and found abundance
  • Bought a completely new wardrobe when my clothes no longer fit
  • Learned to cook well and eat right
  • Handled all grocery lists and shopping
  • Made a budget and separate bank accounts for bills only
  • Took over the treasury, gave wife a planned and reasonable allowance
  • Lived as if I were single
  • Started going out solo more often to build a life of my own

What happened afterward

  • Every part of my life got better
  • I have rational confidence
  • I developed self esteem
  • IOIs from hot women in public places
  • Wife tells me openly how happy she is
  • Consistent sex
  • Wife asks if she can help me run our life
  • Raise at work
  • Reconnected with the former friend who Red Knighted me, but got sick of my shit asking him to take ownership of my own life decisions. Maybe he's reading this but no fucks given because we don't talk about Fight Club anymore. We are actual buddies now.
  • Younger co worker who moved here from another country and lifts weights literally says to me "you are an alpha male" and confides to me that he is practicing game.
  • I have the power to choose which fucks I give, if any.

EDIT: now currently 16% body fat Navy method.

Thanks go to these guys along others:

/u/Stonepimpletilists for ripping me a new stainless steel asshole early on and lots of guys pointing out my lack of frame when I was butt hurt afterward.

/u/Scurvemuch for being funny and providing a reframed victim puke template. And for telling me when my post got some traction in the BP community. Also for coining the legendary term Pussy McFaggot.

/u/Bogeyd6 for explaining why what may be my last hard no was actually caused by my lack of timing finesse.

/u/ex_addict_bro for reminding us all that codependency kills and for being a power of example that coming from trauma/dysfunction/addiction AND being blue-pill/plugged-in - does not prevent success.

/u/BluePillProfessor for the 12 Levels of Dread and telling me to watch Turd Flinging Monkey on YouTube.

/u/TheFamilyAlpha for being an all around boss

Anyone else who I left out and every man who contributes here.

Additional non side-bar resources I used

  • Facing Codependence by Pia Melody
  • The Six Pillars Of Self Esteem
  • The Nine Laws
  • The Unchained Man
  • Mastery by Robert Greene
  • masculinity-movies website
  • Iron John
  • King Warrior Magician Lover
  • Wild At Heart and Fathered by God

Also 2 different therapists who helped but I knew their work was done when I was red knighting the second one.

Movies

  • Indiscreet
  • Braveheart
  • The Thomas Crown Affair
  • Tony Rome
  • The Apartment

This post is comprehensive but not necessarily complete.

In a nutshell, I moved from amidst the weaker 80% to the lower echelon of the 20% and would not have done so without MRP. Stay strong brethren.