If Jesus were alive today and single, I don’t think most women would give him the time of day.

Think about it. He’s humble. Self-effacing. Non-materialistic. He doesn’t flex, doesn’t chase status, doesn’t “take what he wants.” He preaches forgiveness, tells people to turn the other cheek, and literally washes other people’s feet. On Tinder, his profile would probably say something like:

“Carpenter. Love your enemies. Looking for kindness.”

Would that get any swipes? Hell no.

If Jesus walked into a bar, he’d be the guy listening to a girl vent about her ex and telling her to forgive him. Meanwhile, she’d be eyeing the confident guy across the room who “just has that energy.” Jesus wouldn’t neg, wouldn’t play the game, wouldn’t even try. He’d just be… a genuinely good dude.

And yet, we live in a culture that claims men should be more like Jesus. Be kind. Be selfless. Be gentle. But when it comes to dating, those exact traits give most women the ick. Women want confidence. They want a man who takes charge, who doesn’t take shit, who can put people in their place. That’s not Jesus.

So which is it? Do we actually value selfless men, or just say we do? And why is it socially acceptable to criticize men’s dating standards, but women’s preferences are off-limits?

Curious to hear thoughts.