My life

Asatmaya · 2023-11-07T17:33:44+00:00

"Familiarity breeds contempt," you need to break the mold; it doesn't have to be confrontational with, or even directly related to your wife and kids.

Get a hobby; motorcycles are mine, lots of guys like to fish, join a billiards or bowling league, there are options.

Get a different job or position, one that requires some travel and gets you out of pocket for a while.

Change your hair, grow (or shave) a beard, buy some nice clothes,

These ideas may not have any effect on your family, or it may have either positive or negative effects, but I guarantee that it will help you, and we are conditioned to forget that our needs and desires are important, too.

If you forget, come back and ask us to remind you, that's what we are here for.

Best wishes, see you around!

kazadi99 · 2023-11-07T17:28:01+00:00

Sounds exactly how my life was... so i quit my job, left the wife on good terms and split the asetts fairly. Im living in Se Asia and having the best time of my life. You can do it too. Its not the end but a new beginning. My children 21 & 23 yr old boys are coming over to visit next week. You can live an easy life her for about 12k USD a year. I regularly chat with my ex and im happy .. lots of other men feel the same . You not alone brother.

Fuzzy_Department2799 · 2023-11-07T17:24:43+00:00

If you don't want to leave then id write out exactly how they each make you feel in detail and let them know what changes to expect from you. Meaning you will no longer be providing all the benefits they have become accustomed to.

Does you wife work? If not tell her you will no longer be coming home and doing chores since she cant be bothered. When she starts yelling dont retaliate just simply walk away and out of the house. If she starts up again when you get home turn right back around and walk out again.

If you have a joint account move all the money to a different account that she isn't on she cant cant clean you out and file for divorce. Don't hide it because depending on the laws where you are from that can hurt you later.

You have to stand up for yourself and stick with the changes. Consistency is key. If they continue to act this way then they have no respect for you and its not a great loss anyway.

designerutah · 2023-11-07T17:25:43+00:00

Buy the book, “No More Mr. Nice Guy” by Dr. Robert Glover. Seriously, read it and use the approaches it documents to claw back some control over your life. Had a friend express this sentiment years ago to another guy we met in a situation similar to yours. His advice to that men was both funny and impactful.

“Go get your wife's purse. Dig down inside, all the way to the bottom. When you find two small hairy, dusty things, pull them out, wash them off, and put your balls back where they belong. It’s your life, you house, your family, your career. Yes, so,e of it you share with your wife, but you've let her get control and emasculate you in the process. Time to reverse that.”

No_String_533 · 2023-11-07T17:30:13+00:00

Now that the kids are adults you should probably get divorced if it wouldn't ruin you financially and do your best to enjoy the rest of your life without women. I'm a single 53 year old guy and most guys my age are divorced or in dead marriages like this. The young men that think they are missing out on some fairy tale should read this because it's common.

KrazyJazz · 2023-11-07T17:40:42+00:00

I feel I’ve really done the best I can and don’t want to get divorced.

You are the craftman of your own misery here, man. It's time to seriously rock the boat or definitely leave.

OppositeBeautiful601 · 2023-11-07T18:33:36+00:00

My homelife is reduced now to getting home from work, drinking (about half bottle wine, NOT getting drunk) and sitting on bed reading or on laptop watching TV or Youtube.

My opinion:

You've stopped being a person and you have become a utility for your family. It's great to be a good husband and father, but you also need to be you. Otherwise when your kids grow up and you're left at home with a woman that doesn't reciprocate (just my assessment), life is going to become empty and joyless really fucking fast.

You need to find activities that you can both fit into your schedule and allows you to socialize outside of your family. You need to take care of your inner child. You need to have fun and laugh with others.

Happy wife, happy life just doesn't work. I was in the same situation and my wife wanted a divorce. At that point, I decided that I had to make changes or I wouldn't survive the divorce. I started to imagine what my life would be like after the divorce (the good and bad). I started to close the gap: I started doing my own laundry, fixing my own food. I started to work on my personal relationship with my children. I also started doing things that made me happy. I started cycling with a group and hanging out with them. I started making dates with old friends and going out to eat.

I didn't do this to save my marriage. I did this to survive a divorce. Turns out, I was a miserable fuck that she didn't want to be around. She knew she was the cause of some of it, and seeing me miserable put her in a constant state of guilt. My lack of joy, however, was my fault. Once I started doing things that made me happy, she started to enjoy my company again. She started saying things like: "So now you're making all these changes when we're getting a divorce!" She didn't want me to be a martyr. She wanted me to be happy. We're still married :)

Embarrassed_Curve769 · 2023-11-07T17:16:54+00:00

Stop acting like a doormat.

minimumcontribution8 · 2023-11-07T19:17:16+00:00

After years of being a good dad and coddling your family, it seems like they are getting a little bit too comfort and treat you like an utility, a doormat. Which is why sometimes being a overly nice supportive dad doesn't always the best choice, cuz they will take you for granted. You should love your family yes, but you should also need to be strict when you have to, there should be boundaries, and they have to treat you, the father, with respect.

Now about your family, if you still love them, you should at least try to talk them. Trying to talk to them about how you feel etc. If they still don't care and change their behaviors, then you are free to leave.

Also get a hobby or two, take care of your body, and maybe traveling somewhere. You have done a lot for your family, now it's time to do something for yourself

AirSailer · 2023-11-07T18:08:28+00:00

I'm going to assume your wife doesn't work. She is a leech, and you've trained her to expect everything from you without her contributing. That's your own fault, you didn't set boundaries; therefore, you have to be the man and go thru the pain of fixing the problem.

Leave. The only thing keeping you there is your fear of what will happen if you get divorced.

You're daughters are adults, treat them like adults and cut then off. Your leech wife taught your daughters how to treat you, they are not what you think, they now view you as a resource to be exploited.

Divorce will be hard; be fair but firm, don't be a doormat. Suffer thru the divorce then go live a fulfilled life.

grandma_jizzzzzzzard · 2023-11-07T18:30:56+00:00

Leave.

Leading-Oil1772 · 2023-11-07T21:07:36+00:00

You're like that dude from American Beauty.

I know you love your family, but honestly they don't deserve you. Liquidate your assets, move to South East Asia and enjoy the rest of your life.

baby_budda · 2023-11-07T18:19:17+00:00

The other option to divorce is that you continue to live together but live separate lives. At least for a while. There's nothing stopping you from going on vacations alone and meeting new friends and living your life. Since you don't have sex you could move into one of the spare bedrooms. The wife will probably be happier. If she complains about your new life, offer her couples counseling again. Maybe she'll change her mind, maybe not. As far as the household chores, just get a maid to help out for now.

Sabrepill · 2023-11-07T19:46:38+00:00

You bought into blue pilled ideology. But in the real world, women only respect men who are more powerful than themselves. Once women get the upper hand, they usually lose desire

abramN · 2023-11-07T20:45:40+00:00

If the kids are grown up, independent adults, then what are you hanging around for if you're unhappy? Marriage is not a coffin.

slick4hire · 2023-11-08T04:08:44+00:00

You have become the frog in the slow boiling pot, my friend.

Before we can address what to do about it, we need to see how we got here. You are the one that allowed this behavior to go unchecked. That is important to note, because it means you also have the power to fix it.

So how does on restore respect from their wife? Boundaries.

"Would you be okay with me talking to you that way?" If she gives you bullshit, shrug your shoulders and leave the house for a while to do something you want to do.

Why is that effective? Because she wants your effort, and in order to get said effort, you must be present. Be out of the house 2-3 nights a week. Be scarce. Don't check in. Pursue a hobby. DO NOT go to bars or places with alcohol and/or other women.

Next, stop doing the little things she likes. No back rubs, foot rubs, squishing spiders, opening jars, home projects she wants...none of it.

When she asks why you stopped, simply say the following: "You've made it clear that treating me with respect is optional. I don't give time, effort, or attention to those who don't respect me." Then walk away and let it marinade.

Here is the thing, dude. It will get worse before it gets better. She is used to you submitting (yes, submitring) to her. She will expect that a few stern words will get you back in line. You need her to be so frustrated, so desperate, so incensed that she will finally ask what it will take to return things to 'normal'.

Your response should be something akin to, "If you want more from me, you can start by doing more for me. Treating me with respect is at the top of that list."

Make sure you wait to see changes in her ACTIONS before you begin to restore the husband service department.

Lastly, if she never asks what is going wrong, your marriage is over. Pack it up, or accept this miserable life, of which you only have one.

Good luck, sir. It took me 18 months to turn my marriage around from a similar dynamic. It wasn't easy, and I will not do it again, but we are overall pretty happy, and she treats me with respect with a hiccup every now and again.

Fun_Actuary4804 · 2023-11-07T17:55:55+00:00

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Difficult_Storage_96 · 2023-11-07T17:56:31+00:00

Yeah, she doesnt respect you, so you're not attractive to her. Trouble is the dmg has been done. There's no salvaging it, u cant just start acting differently.

Shes yearning for someone else by sound of it. With holding sex for 4 years. Fuck that. Do you even want to keep fucking her ?

Women love excitement and drama

busdriver1112783 · 2023-11-07T19:45:11+00:00

This made me so sad. You guys really need couple counseling. Not having sex in a relationship is damaging and unhealthy. 4 years is not okay let alone if it was twice a year. Sex is how you bond in a relationship and are close, it nourishes the relationship. Without it it can make you feel unwanted and astray from your partner (I took a marriage class and sexology that is why I know all this). Everything that happens in your lives affects the sex and vise versa. You guys need to find out the root problem as to why she is acting this way. Also your daughters are treating you that way because of your wife. Daughters copy their mothers so when they see her treat you a certain way they follow suit. If they never see her treat you with respect then they will not either. And they will not for their partners because that what was modeled for them. You need to get your wife to do some type of therapy with you. This is not except-able, 4 years is outrageous and you should never tolerate the way she is treating you.

Glennus626 · 2023-11-07T20:28:30+00:00

Women don't respond to confrontation well. The problem is you in this situation. Hear me out: You have allowed your wife to become a lazy cow who nags you the minute you get home as a way to pre-emptively stop you from bringing up the fact that she does nothing all day. You are the one who enabled both daughters to only communicate with you when they want something, especially after they see the example of how you and your wife interact. You have made the expectation be that you are the one who will clean up when you come home, and you don't hold your wife to any sort of standard. You have allowed yourself, most likely, to get out of shape and to no longer excite your wife to the point where she will sleep with you. You are the one who caused your wife to be disgusted with you by never standing up to her and by never being a good father figure to the disrespectful daughters.

My only advice would be from now on you need to work on you. You need to go to the gym three times a week. Even if you walk on a treadmill, lift weights, engage in some sort of aerobics class or spin class, whatever. You need to get out of the house and have fitness be your new companion. You also need to develop some hobbies that get you out of the house. Your wife will not care about you in the slightest until you are no longer around to do her bidding. Find some groups that engage frequently that you can participate with. Could be a professional group, could be some hobby near you. You need to do things like reading books called no more Mr Nice Guy and when I say no I feel guilty. You need to pull yourself out of this, don't blame the disrespect on them. Women look to men for leadership, regardless of what the purple hair redditors will tell you.

PM_ME_UR_KOALA_PICS · 2023-11-07T19:57:49+00:00

And this here is why I enjoy the company of my dogs, and won't have it any other way

User_02002 · 2023-11-07T20:13:21+00:00

I’m sorry that sucks. My dad is saying this exactly also. I don’t know.

You should tell your wife how you feel, but it does sound like she won’t listen.

Does your wife work at all? You could convince her to work more and then you can focus more on hobbies, friends, and yourself. If she doesn’t want to work she definitely needs to do the washing up 🤣

kawasakizx7rMonster · 2023-11-08T01:21:29+00:00

Life is just a ride. And we can change it any time we want. It's only a choice my friend. Good Luck.

2023-11-08T11:22:52+00:00

Go on a 2 week trip alone. Let them feel your absence. Let them feel how does it feel when you're not around doing everything for them. I'm serious. Also during your absence limit your communication with them.

e: You also get some quality alone time to yourself and get to do whatever you want.

hardenup12345 · 2023-11-09T06:34:52+00:00

My homelife is reduced now to getting home from work, drinking (about half bottle wine, NOT getting drunk) and sitting on bed reading or on laptop watching TV or Youtube.

Don't feel bad. I'm a middle-aged single man and my life is pretty much the same, minus the wife and kids. I do feel that as we get older everything gets less novel, we get more burnt out and jaded, and we become far less interesting. Once you 'know your place' in life you are often just going through the motions.

Youngest one not that interested in talking to me. Oldest one only communicates with me when she wants money. She lives away now.

Let's be fair, how often were you in contact with your parents when you were a young adult? OK, maybe things were different for you, but it's quite common for a gap to grow between young adults and their parents.

I feel a man in my position should have so much more fulfillment.

Nahhhhh.

Individual-Reading-6 · 2023-11-07T17:35:11+00:00

Marriage is emasculating. Testosterone levels lower and men get dumber around women they are attracted too. Divorce her and get your respect back.

shit-zen-giggles · 2023-11-07T17:46:05+00:00

If you can share your country, I could check my list of orgs for something fitting. A random therapist / counselor might not be the best fit (many are quite misandric).

I can understand your problem. I was one of those kids.

I think getting counseling is an absolutely great idea. When I tried to do it my mother sabotaged it.

I want to offer you a glimmer of hope: When I got older and fully detached from the household, I started to realize how fucked up the situation was and apologized to my Dad and we made peace.

I don't know whether this will be in your future and I don't want to create any false hopes, but sometimes things change and turn around.

RedditIsWokeCentral · 2023-11-07T21:30:18+00:00

Time to put an end to your codependency and tell the wife what time it is.

Tell her to either shape up or ship out.

But give her a realistic chance of improving before nuking the marriage.

Fun_Actuary4804 · 2023-11-07T22:08:49+00:00

Why do us Men have to feel this way when we have a family? No sex in 4 years is a HUGE red flag. Being miserable in your own home isn't worth it, no matter who the woman is. Your home should be your safe space. Do you want to keep being miserable, or be happy

FartOnACat · 2023-11-08T04:41:59+00:00

It is my opinion that when a partner decides to gatekeep sex and essentially turn you into an ATM/chore machine, he/she has failed to upkeep his/her part of the relationship. It makes perfect sense to have extramarital affairs if it makes you happy.

If I were you, I'd do this:

Are you overweight? Go on a diet. Shed a few pounds. Eat healthier foods.
Start working out. Hit the gym, pick up running, whatever.
Stop drinking. It's not that you're on the verge of alcoholism or anything like that, but it's not good for you to spend your evenings relying on wine to wind down.
Start ignoring your wife more. If the majority of what she says to you is an expression of what she wants from you, she isn't treating you like a partner, but like a servant.
Figure out something on the side. Pay a sex worker if you want. Living the rest of your life with zero sex is obviously not going to work for you.

Biervat2 · 2023-11-07T17:22:59+00:00

Well, you need to finally man up, set boundaries and show them there are consequences.. however, you waited untill your wife allready has pulled everything out of you and your daughters also don't really need you anymore except for money. Setting boundaries to your children, including your wife, is a men's job.

i have been reading a lot of corey wayne lately, start there. Value your time more and start showing yourself some respect. Yeah easier said then done, i know. good luck and don't be afraid to ask for help from men who are respected by their wives.

RedcloudGeorge · 2023-11-08T00:56:17+00:00

Your teenage self would be horrified at your life because your life is a horror. It really is. You'll reflexively start coming up with reasons why it isn't, but the truth of your life will remain true, regardless.

Your wife and daughters are using you, and they always will. I would tell you to get rid of them, but I know you won't because, if you were ever going to, you would have done so by now instead of coming here to ask for sympathy. Besides, even if you did leave, you would gain something very important to you, but in the process you would lose something you value equally. Staying in your situation will cost you much, but you will get something equally worth it to you. As with all choices, either one will come with equal reward and sacrifice. So there's that at least.

But there's no right answer here. Well. Actually, there is, but I know you won't choose it, so don't worry about that. Instead, since you're going to be spending a lot of time sitting on your sex-free bed drinking wine, take some of that time to consider how you ended up like this. After all, didn't you do what you were supposed to in life? Didn't you follow all the rules you were taught? Didn't you value the things you were constantly told were important? Didn't you work very hard to be a good boy? Of course you did.

Why then, though, does it feel as though you're stuck in some kind of trap? You couldn't possibly have been led astray, could you? All the people who told you how to be good, how to do what's right in life, they would never be deceiving you, tricking you into doing something that wasn't in your best interest, surely.

No, of course not. Certainly there must be some other reason you put a leash around your own neck and handed the other end to your wife, so that she can yank on it whenever she needs you to do something. And, definitely, mothers don't teach their daughters how to condition men into doing the same thing, so that even little girls grow up learning how to leash all the dogs--I mean, men--to have as their own dutiful, servile pets. No, no, no. None of that ever happens. Someone surely would have realized it by now, if the women of the world were using emotional manipulation to make men behave and bring them things.

In fact, it's men who are running everything. It's men who have women under their near-total enslavement. It's men who are bad. Bad, bad, bad. So mean to women, those men. Which is why men need to make it up to women now. That's why it's time that women finally have *all* the control. Oh, excuse me, I misspoke. It's time that women had *some* control, since, of course, they've never had any before. I mean, yes, it's true that, since the early twentieth century, women have been getting even more public rights and privileges, but, really, that's only revealed how much they don't have any. It makes perfect sense that the more women get, the more we hear about how little they have. It couldn't possibly be that women use martyrdom as a way to wield power. No, it's men who run the world and keep women down, and we know this because, luckily, women continually explain it to us.

Yes, it's true that you absolutely must'nt ever hurt women. You just can't. Your mother made sure you knew that. And, yes, that means you have to avoid doing anything that hurts them, and, yes, it means you have to go around preventing anyone or anything else from hurting them, too. Also, it's easy to tell what hurts them because women will tell you. They'll hardly do anything else but tell you how. Much. Every. Little. Thing. Just *hurts* them. Life is so *hard* on them. Everything is such a challenge. Any task is a horrible burden. The world is full of people and things that are out to ruin things for them and who don't understand all the things they have to *deal* with. So much pain they have to endure. It's heartbreaking. Really.

You, though, somehow manage to get through life without constantly telling people how hard things are on you, without talking people's ears off about *all* the challenges you face in anything you do, no matter how small or simple.

But that's because life is so easy for you. You don't really have any hardships. Only women experience actual pain and disappointment. Anything you might feel is only a distraction from bringing the women in your life things they like having. And, truly, your life *is* easy. All you have to do is spend the rest of your life with your wife and daughters explaining what you need to do for them, so that you can do it and feel bad about yourself for making them have to tell you.

So stay in your life. At least you have clear, daily instructions. That is worth something.

Or get rid of them. Leave. Or, perhaps, make *them* leave. Stop caring about what they want and about how terribly hurt they are and how sad they would be if you weren't there to bring them pretty, shiny, tasty things. Don't fall for it when they cry, and instead find a cold, hard anger in yourself that can stand up to it and finally tell them to fuck off.

And know what them for what they really are.

But no. You won't. I know you won't. This is just the rest of your life now. You'll never be free of them. Don't worry about it. Just sit on your bed. Have some more wine.

kellykebab · 2023-11-07T19:28:07+00:00

Most likely, your wife and kids just see you as boring. You might think that's no crime (and it isn't), but women like to be inspired/excited by their men. Whether that's a romantic relationship or a parental relationship.

If the best thing you can say about your treatment of your wife and kids is that you don't yell at or beat them, then you're not really hitting it out of the park.

Women want more than just an absence of literal abuse. They want variety, unpredictability, excitement, etc. But also compassion, understanding, and so on.

This means attention towards them, but also absence. The latter being a necessary component of a relationship that often goes ignored. If you are literally always around but also not doing anything fun or active (i.e. drinking wine and watching TV), your family will grow tired of you. You won't be perceived as a man of agency or purpose. You'll just be there.

So I would take a two-pronged approach to this issue:

Be less present - pursue more hobbies and activities outside of the home, by yourself and with other friends
When you are present, be more engaged - initiate family outings, dinners out, fun activities around the house, etc.

You will probably initially get pushback on both efforts. Ignore this. People get used to routines even if they are unhappy in those routines. Breaking unpleasant routines can be painful, but it is often necessary. Be a man and take a leadership role here: make your decision and stick with it.

And I understand that your job may leave you feeling tired and drained. I get it. It's not like I'm suggesting that you suddenly ramp up your efforts outside of work to a constant state of activity. Taking my advice above even once or twice a week should have a noticeable impact. But of course, the more you do this, the better off you'll be. Additionally, exercising generally improves overall energy levels. It's hard to develop a routine, but once you do, you should notice consistent benefits. So one of those hobbies outside the house should be going to the gym, jogging, playing a sport, etc. People's bodies were not evolved to be sedentary 24/7. You are slowly killing yourself if you live like that (literally).

Just start thinking about this from a woman's perspective. What does a wife actually want in a male partner? (Or a daughter in a father?) It's not just a guy who shows up, pays the check and takes out the trash, and then checks out. It's an active man on a mission who has a lot going on in his life outside his relationship to those women. But who also provides excitement and variety when he is relating to the women in his life. The more you internalize this, the more you have a chance at reparing your relationships here. And taking greater pride and satisfaction in your own life, for yourself.

BigDaddyUknow420 · 2023-11-07T23:35:31+00:00

People will treat you as you allow.

If you are unsatisfied with the situation, communicate.

If you do not get the respect you desire, the ball is in your court to make changes.

Everybody deserves communication before change, and you are responsible for your own happiness.

mllhild · 2023-11-08T04:06:49+00:00

You are the servant of the house, not the husband. Your own fault for not imposing discipline in the household during the decades of your relationship. There is nothing really you can do to change their view of you as their servant/slave/atm after all that time behaving like one.

Jiujitsuizlyfe · 2023-11-08T06:46:57+00:00

This is the type of shit that makes a man have another family across town

Sad-Watercress2790 · 2023-11-08T09:11:38+00:00

I am the OP but for some reason can’t login with the same account now! So I’ve got this one instead. I’ve started reading No More Mr Nice Guy and, to be honest, it makes alot of sense (what I’ve read so far) - this says alot as I’ve never been all that impressed by self-help books before. The book points out that I’ve been trying to be the perfect family man, but wondering where i’ve gone wrong and why my family don’t respect me. I’m a people pleaser - childhood - extremely passive father who enabled my mother to be physically violent to me and fly into rages all the time. I’ve over-compromised by being a very inert father and husband. Someone pointed out that I shouldn’t be proud of myself just cos I don’t beat my wife or kids - they are 100% right, but for me it’s a big deal and I’m beginning to see that’s a distorted view of the universe.

soontobesolo · 2023-11-08T14:47:32+00:00

"No More Mister Nice Guy" is essential reading. Read it now and follow the advice best you can.

You really have three choices:

Break out of this mold and make some big changes at home. Your outlook can shift to you living for your pleasure and fulfillment.
Seek love and sex elsewhere. One partner cannot restrict the other from both having sex with others (monogamy) while not sexually fulfilling them. They do not have that right to restrict you. It's no longer cheating. (see: Dan Savage)
Divorce, move on, and live for yourself.

I will encourage #1 and #3 in particular. Set a deadline, talk to a lawyer, and prepare for a possible divorce. At least then you'll be ready and hopefully not screwed financially.

Mountain_Collar_7620 · 2023-11-07T19:27:25+00:00

We respect you 🤗 did the same for a decade before crazy and flying monkeys 🙉 (literally) came for me in the end clearing them out is an epic conflict in time, cost and heartbreak even with precaution, resource and autistic perseverance but in the end it’s not worth living on your knees. And frankly the iron cross in gender warfare is priceless .. I get any “ … impress me / where do you work/live / I’m a priiiiinceeeesss” antics I just hit that button.

Once you’ve had to win it back freedom is priceless

dnbndnb · 2023-11-08T07:26:42+00:00

Your daughters don’t respect you because mom has set that example. She doesn’t respect you because you’re not leading the household. You didn’t mention if your wife works but my guess is not, and she has you cleaning like a trained monkey after your own work day.

“Happy wife, happy life” does not exist. I tried that. Go to the Divorce_men sub here and you’ll find plenty of others.

Can this all be saved? Do you even want it to be saved? Chances are your daughters MIGHT come around when they’re around 30 yrs old, but I doubt now. As to your wife, why do you want her? You’re really nothing more than Johnny Paycheck to her.

“No More Mr. Nice Guy” is your first start. Trying to regrow your spine is a tough job. Your wife may be so used to being dominant she’ll stand up to any attempt to change the dynamic. And speaking of the dynamic, look at your parent’s relationship & her parent’s relationship. There’s a mirror there somewhere.

It’s time to embrace the red pill that you f’d it all up. And really spend the time figuring out if you even want to fix it.

If not, time to get a strategy in place for an exit.

Objective_Moment3114 · 2023-11-07T23:37:46+00:00

With all due respect I’d quit the alcohol first.

JackKumar_ · 2023-11-08T07:10:14+00:00

Do something that earns respect from others. When your family see a gem in their house who others appreciate they might be more respectful then.

Ideas: community service, church work, some hobby where you make something and give it to needy people.

leetcoder217 · 2023-11-07T21:16:47+00:00

This feels sad. Have you tried involving yourself in spirituality ?

weedfee69 · 2023-11-07T20:44:53+00:00

That's just sad 😔

bifewova234 · 2023-11-08T04:58:54+00:00

Planning on getting married soon. If there was no sex in 4 years... I dont think I could do that.

PrecisionGuessWerk · 2023-11-09T21:50:10+00:00

However, every day I come home after hard day work and am completely ignored my wife and youngest daughter.

Why do you think this is? How did you get to a place where nobody is interested in talking to you? was it always this way?

My homelife is reduced now to getting home from work, drinking (about half bottle wine, NOT getting drunk) and sitting on bed reading or on laptop watching TV or Youtube.

I feel the teenage me would be horrified at what my life has become.

Thats because teenage you probably would be horrified. I might recommend finding more meaningful ways to spend your evenings. Find a hobby, work on your fitness, whatever it is just something that allows you to realize some sense of progress and growth. Wasting your time away just "waiting" by scrolling on an ipad is a poor way to spend your life, and next thing you know you'll be on the brink of death with regrets. You might not be able to take charge of the situation as a whole, but you can certainly start with taking charge of your own life and your own wellbeing.

Previous-Ad-2727 · 2023-11-11T09:55:08+00:00

This sounds like a wife who's having an affair or about to have one.

Mundane-Experience50 · 2023-11-18T02:33:45+00:00

I recommend telling your wife what your wants and needs are and see what goes from there.

Title	My life
Author	busdriver1112783
Upvotes	242
Comments	109
Date	November 7, 2023 4:55 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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