why does feminists think that every man who does not like feminism is an incel

UWontHearMeAnyway · 2025-12-20T03:27:25+00:00

Look up common manipulation tactics.

Shaming, blaming, insulting, guilt tripping.

mallgothbrony · 2025-12-20T03:17:25+00:00

The word “incel” means nothing anymore. Nowadays, it’s just a pejorative. Nothing more, nothing less.

Easy-Board4441 · 2025-12-20T03:56:58+00:00

"Incel" is a label. It's a word we associate with some sort of social pariah. You slap a label on someone to make them feel excluded. It's an emotional manipulation tactic designed to shut you up without having to engage with your arguments. Other examples of labels are "racist", "fascist" and "slut".

That being said, trying to convince your friends that feminism is bad is a waste of time. Most people only learn through pain. Just make sure you're around when that pain finds them.

eluusive · 2025-12-20T03:58:27+00:00

It's shaming tactics that women try to use to control the herd.

blackjustin · 2025-12-20T04:31:42+00:00

because the goal isn't feminism, equal rights, or anything else. The goal is narrative control and silence. "Incel", "misogynist" and the like are buzzwords used to make you stand down immediately. It also signals "I don't have enough of a brain to counter what you said, so here's this buzzword to make you back off".

If brain power could be used as gasoline, 99% of these people couldn't power a scooter around a dime. Ignore them.

Local-Willingness784 · 2025-12-20T03:50:17+00:00

eh, they probably just want to shame you or something but its telling that being starved of loved or affection and "bitching" about it is so bad for men when women do that for a living on social media or even irl, weird standard plus having men being shamed for not getting women is weird, is almost as if men are valued by wheter they can pull women or not....

MeasurementNice295 · 2025-12-20T04:27:33+00:00

Because it's, in essence, calling them bitchless.

Can't get bitches, opinion invalidated, for men and women alike.

Women have been put in a pedestal of righteous morality to the point that not being attractive to them is a red flag on itself.

clownmage · 2025-12-20T04:13:02+00:00

Shamming, herd fears being called a virgin because they think sex=success so they may be not even getting laid frequently but they fear the label

Status-Evening-1434 · 2025-12-20T04:42:20+00:00

All they know is ad hominem attacks

FrequentPotato6116 · 2025-12-20T03:03:14+00:00

Some people cannot be spoken to objectively 🤷‍♂️ put em on a blacklist of « never talk to them again about important stuff »

Suspicious-Sleep5227 · 2025-12-20T03:16:59+00:00

At some point in the last 50 years, Feminism was elevated to the status of standard bearer for equal rights between the sexes. It is only in the last 15 years, give or take, that it has become apparent that Feminism causes severe harm and injustice towards men and is just beginning to register at a cultural level of awareness. However we are at point in history where there are too many older people whose views have not evolved with the times and remain ignorant and those who benefit from Feminist ideology have spent a lifetime of being validated in their views such that alternative views are impossible for them to comprehend.

flowingwisdom13 · 2025-12-20T05:11:28+00:00

Because a rational discussion is not in their interest

McSaucyheimer · 2025-12-20T12:38:18+00:00

Bc feminism is not a framework for analysis. It’s an identity shield. Any criticism triggers a reflex rather than a thought process. Instead of engaging with what was actually said they jump straight to “incel” because it is a convenient panic button. It requires zero evidence zero logic and zero understanding of the term itself. When ideology cannot tolerate disagreement without pathologizing the person asking questions, that is not confidence. Thats insecurity masquerading as moral certainty. They’re morons and if you aren’t in the echo chamber with them, you’re against them and a threat to their fragility.

BryanDaBlaznAzn · 2025-12-20T13:02:37+00:00

A woman calling a man an “incel” is just them admitting that their only value to men is sex, and that insults and deflection are their only way to control men

ITZNOTKYLE · 2025-12-20T07:13:57+00:00

For some reason they take you as even mentioning misandry as a personal insult. They think that to care about misandry you can’t care about misogyny and vice versa. So apparently as a society we can’t focus on more than one issue according to them…

Different-Product-91 · 2025-12-20T08:08:47+00:00

Incel has just become a sort of meaningless insult.

kriplheart · 2025-12-20T08:12:40+00:00

I don’t think they really think. That’s been my experience l—and that’s across the age ranges.

liferelationshi · 2025-12-20T14:33:28+00:00

Because they are narrow minded

InsaneBasti · 2025-12-20T14:46:58+00:00

Cuz its easier than actual thinking

SirVegeta69 · 2025-12-20T03:38:04+00:00

Who knows. Iv met many women that dont like feminist also

Robot_Alchemist · 2025-12-20T08:49:55+00:00

Doesn’t in itself just mean involuntarily celibate

WilliamRobutt · 2025-12-20T09:06:20+00:00

Because they don't argue the point, they just make personal attacks. You identified yourself as different and not adhering to the status quo so they attacked you.

Which_Ad_3917 · 2025-12-20T09:31:58+00:00

Because it’s easier to take a single word and lump every meaning you want into it than applying nuance. Just like with the use of “communism” in the US.

Rikers-Mailbox · 2025-12-20T09:36:29+00:00

Because they don’t believe in misandry… they think they don’t do it.

Yet they love Sabrina Carpenters new album and all the lyrics. (spoiler, it’s all misandry)

AND they still think that the album cover art is a man controlling the woman, but it’s the other way around.

The cover art was slammed by feminists that never read her lyrics. 🙄

non-troll_account · 2025-12-20T12:26:27+00:00

A man who is unable to attract women is almost universally regarded with revulsion and derision. It is proof that he is worthless and worthy of disregard and contempt. This is true even for feminists, despite the fact that it violates the principles of their worldview. But they also regard any enemies of their viewpoint as being the worst kind of man they can think of, and the worst kind of man they can think of is a man who cannot attract women, an incel.

SidewaysGiraffe · 2025-12-20T15:12:44+00:00

They don't, any more than AA advocates think that anyone who wants actual fairness is a racist. It's just a way of shutting down thought and silencing opposition without having to put it any actual work.

Njaulv · 2025-12-20T15:36:00+00:00

They go on attack mode the second their beliefs are questioned. There is no need for logic or knowing anything other than ATTACK!!!! for them. It is how cults operate.

Aros125 · 2025-12-21T08:26:36+00:00

If a man hated women, the correct term would be misogynist. But this term is not offensive, they want to attack the intimate sphere, personal value, implying that nobody wants you and you don't have sex. Words are used as weapons.

Chard_Historical · 2025-12-20T12:49:12+00:00

incels will have the last life.

we're 10 years tops from real feel sex bots who are nice to be around, and we already have the ability to delegate reproduction to a lab setting.

rip feminists.

Most-Inflation-4370 · 2025-12-20T19:45:02+00:00

Because they are brain washed lemmings

Guinnessron · 2025-12-21T00:53:24+00:00

Incel is the most ridiculous label ever.

mgtowolf · 2025-12-21T09:39:23+00:00

It's a cheap and easy but sharp jab. Most men have been brought up thinking that they are only worth something if women want to fuck him. So telling a man he can't get pussy will work on bringing a lot of men down to their level, the level of stupid emotional response, or even just get them to shut up because their feelings were hurt. Doing that is a lot easier than thinking of a logical response or rebuttal.

No-Werewolf-5955 · 2025-12-22T05:10:01+00:00

It is a tactic used as an attempt to shame, devalue, discredit, and punish people publicly as a consequence for people that don't accept their dogma.

It functions exactly the same as if they were religious: they would say you're possessed by demons, worshiping satan or the devil, practicing witchcraft, or going to hell. It is a manipulation tactic to shame, blame, scapegoat, devalue, discredit, disown, punish, humiliate, and use an example for others as a way to enforce consequences for disobedience so that others will obey from fear.

petrichorandcamphor · 2025-12-23T17:12:20+00:00

Self-preservation of their sense of identity. A feminist is a group member, not a student of a philosophical school. If you heard two self professed utilitarian philosophers arguing with each other at no point would you ever hear one of them declare ‘you’re not a utilitarian at all!’ because the idea that one’s own philosophical identity matters is absurd. Your ideas matter. But in all feminist discourse there is the ever present obvious threat of exclusion for wrong-thought. This works because most feminists join the group as teenagers who don’t have a strong sense of self and it becomes a core part of their identity so they latch onto it with a death grip. So they learn from other feminists that to protect that shared collective identity it is justified to exile and exclude, which is a social equivalent to physical violence leading to deprivation and starvation etc. So when you express criticism or disapproval of feminism and they respond by saying you hate women or are an incel they are de facto trying to exile and exclude you from other humans so you will die alone. It’s a very old and antisocial human behavior.

hottake_toothache · 2025-12-24T16:29:41+00:00

You are on the path. It is not until you start talking to women/feminists about men's issues that you start to really understand the problem. What you experienced will happen 99% of the time.

They will talk about egalitarianism to virtue signal, but it is not what they really think. In fact, they believe in a hierarchy where women are the ones who matter and men are disposable.

But don't just believe me. Keep talking to women/feminists and see for yourself.

cherrypitted17 · 2025-12-21T09:23:12+00:00

Bitch please

Thatoneshortgoblin · 2025-12-24T08:45:59+00:00

I don’t really get it? I only ever understand its use when it’s weird hateful stuff on those cites when they are calling women “foids” and stuff that’s the only time I really see guys as “incels”

I do feel bad tho that a lot of genuinely nice dudes who are just virgins get hit with that label :( just seems unfair and harmful.

Nerd77777 · 2025-12-24T23:14:54+00:00

Incel is a Word they use to connect you, a reasonable young man tired of bigotry, with terrorists. That or they are totally ignorant parrots who copy everything their favorite influencer say.

ImpossibleLight7471 · 2025-12-20T10:20:26+00:00

Feminism isn’t bad. Feminism is how women quit being trapped by men. Extreme feminism, like anything extreme, is bad. Most feminists don’t hate men. They just want women to have choices and for men who belittle women to be called out Because it still goes on and on very covert ways. Most healthy women and men will agree with the principles of healthy feminism. Unhealthy people will distract from the main goal by either using that extreme to assert their own control via terms like incel. Or they will use it to dismiss the actual good of the movement out of their insecurity and need for control.

jamsrobots · 2025-12-20T16:04:19+00:00

If you don’t like equality you tend to be an incel looking for an unfair advantage because of your own shortcomings (typically social awkwardness). If the shoe fits…

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