There is a huge problem in TRP community and just general dating: Trying to go after young/attractive for an LTR is a poor set up. And of course the top tier men are most likely just going to be players.

Podcasts like Fresh&Fit and KS never seem to realize that young women are generally not in the correct headspace or mature enough to be in a LTR. I have had a good amount of exposure to this crowd and have had so many people openly admit over the years they are struggling with mental health. Not to mention the small amount of men out there that are just either abusive emotionally/physically. I have surprisingly ran into many of these as well...

We are expecting women to be ready for relationships as men when mentally they really have no idea what is good for them. We also think we should have some control and ability to find some good match when the odds are infinitesimal. I have come to the conclusion that being in a stable relationship with someone I find attractive and like (that sees me that way too) is so lucky. It has nothing to do with me at all and are moreso based on the stage/maturity the other person.