Ever Since u/iceicle999 post on what part women have in the problems men have with relationships and sex (which let's be honest, is the catalyst of all these pills and it's reddit subs), there have been considerable debate as to whether women should lower standards and settle for what's available. This is based on the assumption that ever since changes for the last half century or so in gender relations and the sexual marketplace due to factors like second wave feminism, the so called sexual revolution, greater female participation in the labor market, modern technology, lacks of checks on female hypergamy and so on, a woman's standards and expectations in what they see as a suitable mate (in both SMV & RMV but that's still debatable) has risen to vast, many say unrealistic proportions.

The solution to this touted by some in PPD, is for women to take a step back and try finding partners based on what is realistically can they find rather than fighting for a spot as partner of the cream of the crop of men. Relationship out of charity has been discussed but not seriously considered. However this solution have gotten push back. What if she doesn't really care for the guys she's settling for? What if this encourage mediocrity among men? Why force women to do this at all? (silly question but bare with me) Even getting into relationships out of charity will bound to cause more problems.

Ultimately, while I do agree on some level that both genders should find mates based what's realistically given to them or what they can realistically get and that gender relations needs to be better and healthier for romantic relationships to form, people are looking at this the wrong way. Assuming that these standards women in general (since I know a lot of women don't have the same standards) are the result of previous standards being met without need of finding a man, then unless we dismantle meeting said needs, then really there's not much we can do. Really, the problem lies in what are women offering in return for demanding these standards. Assuming that these standards are not only natural but necessary, what really is the average woman offering in return for these standards? Removing examples are single mothers and spinsters, the average woman in the current year offer little to nothing at all in the eyes of many men.

Being a good domestic is not expected, offering sex is not guaranteed, she can leave or break down the relationship at any time and you would possibly get a woman with a common, basic and flat personality. So unless you two share common interests or goals, she's essentially a pretty face a person to stick your manhood in and this is the best case scenario. This is also a problem of dismantling pre-feminist gender nations on women, while upholding these gender nations on men with feminist dismantling such on the the part of men either inadequate or cause more problems than fix. In short, you got a situation where something does less but cost more. So men look at this and look to avenues with a better rate of return, thus putting them at a state of mediocrity and below a women;s standards and the cycle continues.

This is also a problem of men in general lacking standards of their own. Thus a will be a situation for men to put up with so as long as their standard for finding a relationship is getting a girl that exist, with the hope that you get laid. look at it like you average modern product or job. There has to be a reason if that product cost more if its a brand spanking revolutionary new things that changes everything or an existing product with great new features. Same with a job, if I'm going to jump all the hoops and deal with excruciating hiring process, this has to be a top Fortune 100 company with a great environment, benefits and avenues towards social mobility. The only way you would buy a product that does less but cost more is that the product is a rare previous model or limited edition and the only way you'd put up with a demanding hiring process in a mediocre to crappy job is that you need that job to survive. The problem in the relationship sphere is that woman are not new, are not rare and although are needed for humans at large to survive, are not need for an individual man to survive.

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TL;DR: Essentially if we expect women's standards in relationships to be accepted on adhered to, modern women must offer something more worthwhile in proportion to their demands. The adage "the juices isn't worth the squeeze", despite hating mgtow has some truth. So either women make a better juice or men demand a better juice worth the squeeze or men just stick to water.... or sewage.