I'd like to address a frequent point of tension in our fair community.

When the subject of LTRs and marriage is brought up, it is often noted that wealthy people have more stable, lasting marriages in the aggregate. Now, I believe that when our wealthier posters bring this up, it is usually meant descriptively, not prescriptively. But it is easy to feel or take it as a prescription, and a less than reasonable one at that - "be rich, don't be poor". After all, no one likes to be reminded that others are doing better than them, even if the statement is meant in themost well-intentioned ways. Unfortunately, class is relative by definition. If everyone was a millionaire, it would cease to be a mark of distinction. Therefore, the vast majority of people will never be wealthy or rich or UMC or whatever one uses as the preferred term.

I think that people are trying to be helpful and generally like each other, so I'd like to propose a question for discussion. What about the average American? What about the vast majority? How can a low or middle SES person maximize their odds of getting a lasting LTR? Ultimately, an equitable society is best for everyone.

And I'd like to open this question up to everyone, both real people and peasant zoosmells.