What mental load do men experience that women don't?

AsclepiustheSage · 2019-11-29T01:52:35+00:00

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bonusfruit · 2019-11-29T03:05:32+00:00

Being sexually worthless and having to create sexual value out of sheer delusional audacity, monetary or social success or some other form of status. Having no default sexual value. The pressure to be successful at the increasingly toxic dating game or suffer the reputation of repulsive incel. It's not fine if you just choose not to date. If you interact with friends, workmates or family, they will interrogate you about it. A woman can always claim that men who approach her don't measure up, which sounds plausible and leaves her appearing normal although single. A man has no such alibi. Why is he not actively pursuing and attracting one or more women. Does he hate them? Fear them? Is he one of THOSE types of guys? A very common male only struggle

NigroqueSimillima · 2019-11-29T01:49:17+00:00

I don’t understand how you would date someone like that. Is the pussy that good to be worth having someone talk down to you in your own house?

She’s not even your wife, so it’s not like there’s a legal reason holding you back.

And if the girls calling herself a unhappy bitch, the pure trashiness of that statement alone is enough to make her unattractive to me for - a LTR.

pngmafia97 · 2019-11-29T01:35:19+00:00

The expectation to make something of himself, to make his life meaningful, to achieve enough success to provide for a family. There is no such expectation for women, women can coast and be trophy wives or SAHMs without shame

welcometothejl · 2019-11-29T02:01:27+00:00

Home and vehicle maintenance.

KazROFL · 2019-11-29T01:49:45+00:00

Women who unironically complain about emotional labor being a gendered issue have no empathy and aren't worth arguing with. They're so far up their ass they think they're the only ones who deal with hardship.

Tomatoccino · 2019-11-29T07:47:50+00:00

Good thing she’s your ex.

Men don’t do emotional labour. They outsource it to wives, mothers or PAs. Which is hunky dory until there are kids, and Mr Where did I leave my keys needs to fend for himself while the Mrs changes nappies and remembers to buy barrier cream and Calpol.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-11-29T01:33:12+00:00

men experience a great deal of mental load as well. when women are complaining about THEIR mental load they dont care

RT-AC66U · 2019-11-29T01:49:41+00:00

How am I going to pay all the bills? How do we eat if I lose my job?

werubim · 2019-11-29T03:21:58+00:00

The entire concept of 'mental load' is rubbish. Everyone has shit to worry about it's just that women need a constant pat on the head and a cookie for just dealing with day to day things that have to get done.

There is no "mental load" or "emotional labor" that women do which exclusively elevates them. These concepts are garbage made up to fellate women's fragile egos.

OatsGYOW · 2019-11-29T01:49:25+00:00

Women are men's mental load. The three things men complain about most are,

The cold
The heat
Their SO

goatismycopilot · 2019-11-29T12:52:56+00:00

My partner is a bit like this. He is a workaholic and neglects other areas of his adult life, I had to stop going to his last flat as it looked like a squat.

At the moment it is not so much of a problem because I'm out of work and can take care of the house - but this won't last long.

I will have to have words wh him soon because once I'm back at work I can't look after him. I also do not want to have to keep 'reminding' him to clean up after himself - it''s exhausting.

It's definitely a tricky situation.

2019-12-02T17:07:10+00:00

Essentially, men experience the burden of not being able to talk about their feelings. If they talk about them with women, many will see them as unconfident and unmasculine and will be turned off from dating them especially. If they try to talk about feelings with a friend or fellow bro, it's even worse. If they're not ignored they will be mocked and regarded as unmasculine or feminine.

webernicke · 2019-11-29T04:33:05+00:00

Sexual Performance.

Despite the common advice that sex shouldn't be thought if as a perfomance, it almost always is considered a performance for men in my experience.

A woman is considered to be doing well to merely allow a man to have sex with her, hence the acceptability of "starfishing" or maintenance sex on the female side. For a man to expect more than that usually is seen as entitled and more than a little misogynistic.

On the other hand, there are 1001 widely acceptable criticisms of male performance in bed. Anything from dick size/shape, to sexual stamina, to erection, to orgasm control, to sexual empathy, confidence, and awareness, and many others in between. Having trouble with any of it is the height of male humiliation and even the Chadliest Chad can be brought low by issues in the bedroom. Like everything else sex/romance related, the male is expected by default to take the more active role and men that can't or won't do this are going to have a harder time finding and keeping partners.

Outlandish strategies against all types of male sexual "failure" have been tried since we came down from the trees, so spare me the "porn did it" explanation. More recently, the idea that men are often selfish lovers has been another item on the long list grievances against men in more modern liberal/feministy spaces. Criticizing women in even a fraction of this way is almost unthinkable.

G77R23D · 2019-11-29T03:08:02+00:00

Our 'mental loads' are nothing. People used to work back breaking jobs 6 days a week. We have it five times better in every way.

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praisethesun799 · 2019-11-29T21:57:27+00:00

I've Personally never felt a " mental load" lol Having responsibilities isn't a mental load, it's just being part of a partnership of some kind

PapaPinyun · 2019-12-01T21:51:38+00:00

probably women care way less about having to stand down in a public setting for fear of the surveillances and assprobes and robotic bullets that await the man who makes too big of a scene in showing any force in protecting any good, whereas men are perhaps inclined to feel emasculated and humiliated by such inaction.

obviously they're now gonna like brigade to say that's stupid and whatever but lol comeon

saladfingers4141 · 2019-11-29T05:06:15+00:00

Most women won't experience that relentless pressure to provide, make something of themselves or to make themselves successful.

Obviously I'm not talking about all women when I say this, but a lot of women always have the option of completely bailing out of their lives and into the life of a more successful man. Women can enter upper middle class society and be provided for without having to work a day for the rest of their life just by choosing the right man.

goatismycopilot · 2019-11-29T15:10:21+00:00

It sounds like you were never home and spent no time with your EX so you guys broke up. The mental load was that you were busy.

Title	What mental load do men experience that women don't?
Author	beeboobdeedoop
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Date	November 28, 2019 9:57 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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