askTRP Megathread July 12

M_I_Z_Z_O_U · 2017-07-12T14:12:25+00:00

TRP,

I'm a 28 year old male who's been dating a 24 year old since April. In May, she dropped a bombshell on me that shes a virgin. She told me that ideally she'd like to wait until marriage to have sex, but she'd be willing to change her mind for the right guy.

I guess my question to TRP is, "am I wasting my time?" I've dated many narcissistic, promiscuous, and manipulative women over the years, and as far as I can tell, the girl I am currently with is not one of them. To clarify, I do not have oneitis for this girl - I've had that twice in my life, and it's not something I'd wish on anyone. So far, I'm enjoying not having to deal with crazy mind games, but I'm not enjoying the lack of sex.

Help me out, TRP.

difficultconcept · 2017-07-12T14:38:38+00:00

I already asked this on askTRP but I'll type it here again hoping to get more replies.

Anyway, I'm a 24 year old dude, currently at the university. I discovered TRP long ago, did a lot to improve myself and my Game. But unfortunately I didn't have any success, due to lack of social proof and the fact that I live with parents in a town of less than 7000 people and I commute to university. And university itself is a giant sausage fest just like any other tech university.

I was thinking about losing my virginity to an escort, but I'm terrified of HPV and genital herpes. Some redditors suggested that I should get HPV vaccine, but unfortunately I'm not in the 1st world country, and HPV vaccines are still unavailable here. Prostitution is illegal (only for sellers though, buyers are OK), so there is no way I can determinate health status of an escort. I can bring a flashlight to check if she's having warts or herpes breakout, and that's pretty much it. If I catch genital herpes or HPV, there is no way I can hide that from my parents, and they will know that I've got it from a prostitute since they know that I never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl. A story about a random hookup will never work, all my friends are nerds and I'm never invited to parties. If I would get symptoms, it would permanently change relationship with my parents. They're very proud of me and my success at the university, and the fact that I'll get a good job after I graduate. They want me to marry a "good girl" and start a family. But the fact that I fucked a prostitute and got HPV or genital herpes - that would cast a shadow on everything I did so far it all wouldn't matter anymore. I still cannot fully afford to move out, I plan it to be in 1.5 - 2 years. But if I would get symptoms, I think my parents would write me off completely. I'd have to move out and it would burn all my savings, I'd have to start working full time and it would affect my studies. All in all, my life would become one depressing mess. Not to mention my medical treatment and other headaches that come with that.

What's your suggestion, what should I do? Is banging an escort (with condom) really that risky (can you catch any of that stuff from only one intercourse), or I'm just overthinking about this? Should I just go and fuck this whore like there's no tomorrow?

edit: additional question - I've read that I should absolutely avoid kissing the escorts mouth, but what about other parts of her body (neck, cheek)?

GoingTheHardWay · 2017-07-12T18:31:52+00:00

Couple questions, red flags?

Plate asked me if I'd ever go to a sex club. I said no, because that's honestly how I feel about it. I prefer to have a strong connection and a sense of ownership over girls I sleep with. I also wouldn't want to be involved in a woman that's into going to sex clubs on any regular basis. It may have been an innocent question out of curiosity, but wtf?

She mentions how we're going to be friends in the future - now I never expected this to last, but this weirds me out for some reason and I typically get stumped on a reply - generally barefacedly confronting her with "would you like to be friends now?". To which she retracts and says she doesn't want to talk about it right now. What's the best way to deal with this kind of comment?

MrAnderzon · 2017-07-12T19:09:32+00:00

This is a frame question regarding 48 laws of power #38 - Think as you like but Behave like others

Is it saying that you should "fit in" your social situations? It sounds like your frame doesn't matter and that you should get into their frame.

DSetupDTitleDMenu · 2017-07-13T13:31:52+00:00

I've not been the biggest fan of daygame until recently. Used to think that even the sluttiest of sluts wouldn't want the hassle of getting laid until the night approaches and would rather spend the day lazing around. Now I've seen how daygame is useful in social situations during the day when they've let their hair down and are just standing around talking.

But one part I don't get about daygame is trying to pick up chicks when they're on the move. At the train station, the mall, whatever. Their minds are focused on commuting or shopping, right? Wouldn't they be pissed off if a random stranger materialises from behind a tree and tries to talk to them?

Does daygame only work if they're in a social space like the races?

Oh, yeah, and teach me how to game with horse girls.

ranoutofthrowaways2 · 2017-07-13T19:15:55+00:00

Hows this line to ask someone out - "Hey, I'm going to [place] next week [day], wanna come?"

Dio_Brando_Joestar · 2017-07-12T23:00:48+00:00

Why is my game decent at work where it's 90% women but when I go out to new bars or new places it sucks ass? Especially with strangers.

What should I do ?

AlKhat · 2017-07-12T22:03:23+00:00

Question to the more senior members on the forum. I have a naturally tall and lanky frame. I'm in a bit of a dilemma. I train and recently started competing in Martial Arts, so this naturally keeps me very lean. I do however, want to put on size and have a more built frame. The problem is that all the mass building programs I've looked into basically tell me to eat a ton, and minimize the cardio. Is there any way to get the best of both worlds; to still have that athletic cut look while also putting on muscle and having a more built frame?

d0lphinsex · 2017-07-13T08:52:31+00:00

Is it worth giving the "No more Mr nice guy" book to my beta dad of 71 years? He's still living with my mom (64) but she doesn't seem very happy with him. Or is it just waste of time and energy?

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Tripletag · 2017-07-13T19:03:28+00:00

I swallowed the pill half a year ago or so, and it has completely changed my outlook on life itself. Aside from internalizing AF/BB, AWALT and general TRP tenets, my political views have shifted dramatically. I'm the only Dutch Trump supporter in Amsterdam, as far as I know, at least among my 25+ peer group.

I would describe myself as a social man, who has little difficulty navigating himself through my established social circles. One issue I've always had, however, something I realized recently, is being overly intellectual in situations that do not call for it whatsoever. I cannot help but be drawn into conversations that call for opinion and end up in debate. You can imagine that over the past six months these debates have become far more heated among my more progressively oriented peer group, as I am suddenly the opposition rather than an ally.

I've avoided ostracization so far by playing the part of the contrarian jester, who takes the opposing view simply for shits and giggles, but I feel there is a lifespan on being able to continue doing this. I want to do everything I can in the meanwhile to train myself to keep conversation more light-hearted rather than dive into the 'thick of things', so to speak.

Any advice on this, TRP?

20119975 · 2017-07-14T05:41:01+00:00

So what it seems like, based on solipsism, is that making a girl do things for YOU instead of you doing things for a girl is the key. The girl's 'logic' will work as "because I'm doing all these things for him, I must love him" rather than "I love him so I'm doing all these things." So in with a girl you want to get them to do things for you? Tell them what you want and make them do it?

dreamville11 · 2017-07-12T23:55:40+00:00

Hey everyone. I've been having trouble speaking up during casual conversations for a while. I've grown the confidence to say morning to the regulars at the gym I go to & etc., but I would often be asked to repeat what I said or most times I would end up saying something that is less than audible to hear.

I had regressed over the years and have remained soft spoken and hard to comprehend based on my conversations.

I also joined the moot court team for my college recently, so speaking up is something I really want to work on for me to accomplish what I want before graduating.

Anything could help, thanks!

tl;dr I've regressed to being soft spoken after gaining confidence to become more social. It's a wrinkle that could hinder me if I don't fix it.

08800880 · 2017-07-13T14:06:45+00:00

If a women with a high partner count has low SMV, why doesn't a male with a high partner count have low SMV?

ValuePrestige · 2017-07-13T21:08:48+00:00

Best books on behavior? Looking for stuff like "No More Mr. Nice Guy" or "How to Influence and Win Friends"

chim_city · 2017-07-13T22:52:52+00:00

Dumped in December, said "I don't even love you, and I get asked out all the time and I'm curious, and I shouldn't be". Basically another way of saying I want to fuck other guys.

Guilt brings her back to me months later, says "I will always love you and we broke up because of poor communication"... both lies to make herself feel better. Also ended with "I'm going to quit drinking and go back to school" which nobody in the universe believes.

She is now fucking my best friends brother, a recent divorced cop, but has a boat... And works for my best friends mom who is overpaying her bc she was fired from every other job..... and now has a pitty job which I call a 'welfare check'. I can't get this drunk lying ho out of my life (still in social circles)

I get asked about her by others all the time, how do I not talk shit about her??? Everyone says be cool, but I honestly don't feel that cool about it. She is a drunk lying ho. And I have many examples proving this time and time again. Why be cool? I feel like it doesn't effect my SMV so why not throw her under the bus?

do_it_or_leave · 2017-07-13T23:45:48+00:00

Where can I find good stories to tell and good routines to run?

I am allienated from the PUA World but I guess it will be another step on my self improvement road.

I am boring.

InfoExploration · 2017-07-14T03:58:42+00:00

How do I get a girl that's very private? This woman is into me but she's very reserved. I don't have oneitus, but I keep finding myself wanting her.

I work with her and she only talks to me. We talk on the phone for hours yet she goes "poof" and disappears on the weekends. Should I just stop talking to her completely? It's obvious she's into me. I'm not attached to her or anything, just annoying she's such a private person. We flirt like crazy and TBH I would love to know if it's even worth thinking this over. She's just so fucking sexy and has that church girl but bad girl vibe.

shamy113 · 2017-07-14T05:35:51+00:00

Morning TRP, I need some advice about my sister.

My sister is 25 and has always had what she calls "boy trouble". There's been only two blokes in her life, one was a blatant fuck&chuck and I told her that's what he was after but she wouldn't listen and lost her virginity to him. Crying and confusion on her part followed and no matter how much I tried to explain the way the world works and how blokes are, she insisted "you don't know how two people are together" and that "the world isn't split between beta and alphas".

She spends a lot of time drinking and partying, not sleeping with anyone, she's 25 and only slept with that one person and that was when she was 24, but she definitely enjoys a lot of male attention and is forever posting on instagram and enjoying the attention that brings.

So onto my question, what can I do to actually make her change her ways so that she will be happy when she hits "the wall", which she absolutely will do and she will be a mess when she does, and how can i show her that she either has to choose a beta bloke and settle with him, or find one of these guys she says she "has chemistry with" but who are quite clearly TRP blokes that don't stick around after a few dates with no sex. I realise I could just stop listening to her moaning and let her figure it out for herself but surely there is something she can gain from realising how the dynamic between men and women work. She is constantly complaining that she hasn't found "the one" and is absolutely wasting her looks. Her other friend sleeps with a fair share of blokes, loves the attention, and will probably bag a doctor or dentist or something and make that poor bloke her bitch while she spends all his money,

What in your guys opinion would actually make a girl happy, i think it is accepting that as you age you will have to accept attention from a different demographic of male and as a female have to accept the idea of being on your own,

Any help would be appreciated

missionfairy · 2017-07-14T20:13:05+00:00

I want to be more authoritative and spontaneous when it comes to making plans, ie. "Let's go to this place at this time" as opposed to asking what they want to do or suggesting something lame. What are some fun/interesting things to do (primarily with a woman during the evening)? Other tips on how to approach this are welcome as this is a weak part of my game.

bigman1090 · 2017-07-14T19:27:32+00:00

Hey guys! I found trp about 5 months ago. Swallowed the pill and life hasn't been better. More focused on setting up my business, started working out, lost about 35 pounds(still have 30 more to go). Im a 27 year old Virgin (fml) not that I'm ugly or anything, ive had a few girls interested in me over the years, but it never worked out, coz i wasn't attracted to them and wasn't desperate to have sex with anyone. Ive always been picky with people that i connect with and naturally more picky with women. In my blue pill days i did go out on a couple of dates, but never made moves and it slipped away. I wasnt a very social kid growing up, didn't have big social circle so getting laid was hard in college days(also i ws 60pounds overweight). My family didn't have a social circle as well made it even harder to interact with women. So now i have a few girls ive scored dates with, yet to fix a plan, i have some concerns though

1- i kind of live in the outskirts of the city. About 20 miles away from where the happening spots are and also the girls i interact with, live in the good part of the town. I find it extremely hard to get myself to go so far, just to meet a girl when i don't have any gurantees(sex, 2nd date, etc)

2- i know i will be in a better state of mind once i reach my goal in terms of body weight, should i just go monk mode till then?

3- my plan for 2018 is to move to the suburbs so that its easier for me to access the oasis (women/Nightlife/gigs/good restaurant, etc), so should i wait till im at the best possible place to game? Or just start practicing what I've read and learnt from so many months

4- i don't want to give the girls the impression that I'm so needy that i would drive for an hour just to see them (i honestly don't want to do it, but being a virgin and not dating enough women is taking a toll on my mental state)

5-im not sure if avoiding dates and these women is a buffer for me to avoid rejection or is it a rp way(not giving her power by showing my neediness)

Some bg about me: Im 6 feet, 220 pounds, have a great beard that gets complimented often. I play bass for a successful band in the city, i work as a cinematographer and director.

kkri3 · 2017-07-13T01:48:40+00:00

I went out with a girl that is in his early thirties, slightly older than me, I don't particularly like her, but I've been trying to start spinning multiple plates at once to avoid caring too much about one of them.

The first date went terrible, she seemed anxious the whole time, so I asked her what's up after an hour or so. She told me that she is in need of money lately and decided to do get some sugar daddies. She then said that she felt too dirty to be with me because I seem so pure. I laughed it off, said it's no problem - thinking that any kind of LTR is not an option to myself.

Fast forward, we meet again, this time I decided to assess how big of a slut she is. She is getting a DM every single minute, hiding the screen every time so that I can't read them (or so she thinks, I have a visual memory), seems to have over a hundred orbiters who all want to 'save her' by marrying her. She also seems to have a stalker who is in prison, and some mental issues, as she is talking to herself while sitting next to me. We got to the point of kissing, but still no action.

My gut feeling tells me that I should get the eff away from this woman, but deep down I would like to challenge myself and get a woman that hundreds of other men also crave. Any advices? Do sluts make good plates?

Peter_B_Long · 2017-07-12T16:07:06+00:00

Have you guys ever recognized someone on TRP that you knew in real life? Like you saw a post and was like, wait a minute, I have a friend who's a 23M and got cheated on by a 21F and goes to that university and who also does boxing.. let me check their profile. Then you look at all their posts and you're like, "Jesus, this is Brad" then you PM them and it turns out that it is them?

KaRzual · 2017-07-12T23:42:30+00:00

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Title	askTRP Megathread July 12
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