TL;DR Open dualistic mating strategy and possibly open hypergamy is on the rise. Even mainstream therapists are starting to see it in action.

 

First of all, I live in one of the nordic countries. This is relevant because our societies are somewhat post-feminism societies which means that the change induced by feminists have advanced the furthest. This is something you Americans probably have ahead of you.

 

So I was scrolling quickly through a local newsfeed and a semi-clickbait title got my eye. It said: "Five women tell why they choose one man as the father of their child and get sex elsewhere"

 

I checked out the article. The source wasn't exactly a high quality journalism but it wasn't buzzfeed article either. In the article there was this semi-celebrity psycho- and sex therapist commenting on the recent trend where she had started to notice with her colleagues that women have their husband (beta bucks) which they barely even have sex with and then they have another man or men (alpha fucks) with whom they have sex. The thing here was that dualistic mating strategy is more and more open so basically the men know that their wife is fucking someone else but they are "fine" with it.

 

The same story keeps repeating. Women want to have a man who provides and with whom they can live happy family life and here and there they wanna be ravaged by an alpha male.

 

About those five anecdotal stories which were included in the article - they pretty much followed the same narrative.

 

To summarize stories:

 

  • Woman 41 yo. Married 10 years and 2 kids. Concluding about description, they seemed to have open relationship right from the beginning. They fuck others but they don't talk about it each other. This seems to be the only "balanced" relationship of the five.

 

  • Woman 37yo. Married 19 years and 4 kids. She has sex with her husband but rarely. According to her, they are "good friends and we have a wonderful family". She fucks random guys here and there and also has a romantic relationship outside her marriage (so basically polyamory from her side). She was the one who initiated this arrangement.

 

  • Woman 42yo. Married 11 years. They are allowed to do "anything" outside their marriage. No more detailed info.

 

  • Woman 50yo. Married 20 years, multiple kids. She has a romantic sexual relationship outside the marriage. They haven't divorced because "she has a nice time with her husband" even tho she isn't interested having sex with him.

 

  • Woman 32yo, Married ~8 years, they do all the family things. She describes her relationship with her husband as they are "sister and brother". Sex was bad right from the beginning but other things were so great that they didn't break up even tho she now things they should have. They live in separate apartments and gather couple times a week "as a family". She is happy because she can meet "exciting people and gets good and exciting sex (basically she is having a last stand and final CC before wall really hits) and can use her spare time as she wants when father is looking after kids. Her husband is her "best friend".

 

Takeaways:

 

  • Open dualistic mating strategy and possibly open hypergamy is on the rise. Even mainstream therapists are seeing it in action.
  • Women and even post wall woman can have and eat their cake in the betaized society. What I can conclude of these descriptions, their hubbys probably don't have too many options around.
  • There definitely is options for post wall women. Men don't probably understand their value.
  • It's good to remember that women are biologically hard wired to get sexually bored with their partner.
  • Most probably opening the relationship was initiated by the woman altho this was confirmed only in one of the cases above.