TL;DR The Plate vs LTR decision is not an easy one to make; think it through first.

  • Due to variance in the age of readers I'm just going to skip age related factors

Women are very well versed at putting up an innocent front so that they can attract a high quality man: you.

However, the truth is that most women do not deserve your exclusivity unless you can screen them to make sure that they are a quality girl. This list is not all encompassing but is a good place to start.

Deal Breakers

If any of these situations are true then either plate at the most or next.

  • If she cheated on her LTR to be with you

  • Single mom

  • Met on Tinder

  • She has daddy issues or comes from a broken home

  • You fucked the first time you met

  • Any type of sex worker

  • Party girl who likes to get black out drunk

  • BPD

  • Drug user; especially hard drugs

  • Slutty friends, high amount of male friends or surrounds herself with gay bffs

Red Flags

Assuming she has passed the previous checklist then if you can check off any of these then you need to take action to resolve the issue or place her on probation

  • She still is 'friends' with an ex-bf

  • Her purse or sunglasses cost more than $100

  • Unusual piercings, visible tattoos, very short haircut or hair dyed an unusual color; she is starved for attention

  • If you met through OkC/PoF/etc. and her account is still active but 'she doesn't check it'

  • Self-described feminist; good luck

  • You met her at work; don't shit where you eat

  • She comments about anything related to money: "how much do you make" or "I have expensive tastes"

  • She is in your social circle; everyone will side with her if/when you break up

  • Her Facebook is an endless stream of selfies, music quotes, Starbucks check ins, Buzzfeed links, announcing she is on vacation, etc.

  • She was in a sorority

  • She takes pride in 'being one of the guys'

  • Traveled solo around the world after college

  • She approached you when you first met

  • Divorcee. Be wary of beta bucks

  • You met at a bar and/or she was drunk when you first met

Green Flags

Pure and simple a sign of a quality woman

  • Facebook pictures are of her and female friends and family

  • Educated, strong conservative family, has a career

  • Works out because she enjoys it and doesn't post on facebook that she is working out

  • Any type of volunteer work

  • Virgin, especially if she is waiting until marriage

  • When you first go over to her house she introduces you to all of her roommates

  • No cancelled dates; if she can't go then she lets you know ahead of time and gives a counter-offer

  • Her fridge is full of leftovers: home cooked not takeout

  • If she drinks then she has 1-2 max

  • Too young to have ridden the CC; use your own discretion

My #1:

  • Before the first time you hook up she asks you if you've been recently tested for STDs

Surely some things were missed. Looking forward to the comments and debate.