Please don't get married bros

Misteralcala · 2014-09-03T18:42:48+00:00

Those of use who are married have to make the best of it and learn to be captains and make her the first mate. Is it easy? No it's work. But when kids are involved it really is the best way to do things when you learn to make the marriage work for you.

Hatorader · 2014-09-04T07:29:06+00:00

Cheat on her and don't get caught.

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BeatArmy99 · 2014-09-03T19:15:02+00:00

Look man, we get it. It didn't work out for you.

Doesn't mean that it doesn't, or won't, work out for anybody else.

I'll leave you with an equally useless piece of advice: Don't trade stocks, bro. You'll only lose money.

accursed_wolf · 2014-09-03T19:32:10+00:00

I was out drinking with a few friends over the weekend. The topic of how is your marriage came up and the stories really made me think that everyone needs to rethink marriage:

One guy has a wife who cheated on him for 6 months, he stayed for the kids, and they haven't had sex in 2 years.
One guy lives in a separate bedroom and told us how he 'gets in trouble' and his wife bitches him out for hours, also no sex for who knows how long.
One guy's wife works part time, won't cook or clean, and hires a baby sitter during the day so she can go to the gym or shopping.
One guy spends 14 hours at work and basically avoids his wife, also no sex.
One of the guys said he likes being married, his wife does a lot around the house etc. However his wife was complaining to my wife that he does nothing around the house or for the kids. (Maybe this is a solution)
Then there is me who had it so awful I was going to leave, but turned things around after learning about the red pill.

In conclusion 1 out of 6 of my friends is happy they got married, but it turns out they do nothing in regards to the marriage or kids.

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watersign · 2014-09-04T00:39:05+00:00

the worst and best part about the red pill is realizing that if you play your cards right, you will essentially be a 15 year old boy for the rest of your life, albeit a 15 year old boy with alot of money and the ability to bang chicks whenever

phishyfingers · 2014-09-04T05:10:40+00:00

Sometimes I wake up with a boner and I wish there was someone with me to satisfy it...

The rest of the time I just stick it in my wife.

VegasHostTre · 2014-09-03T18:56:51+00:00

I feel so sorry for you but don't worry brother we're listening.

PersianDj · 2014-09-03T19:36:27+00:00

There are girls worth marrying.Very few,but they exist.

Selfimproveman · 2014-09-03T21:40:42+00:00

Sorry you feel that way.

This is one thing that worries me about marriage. Assuming you want a kid, marriage is the best way to foster a positive upbringing for the child and to make sure they grow up to be a balanced adult.

However, let's say the average guy who gets semi lucky would marry at 28 to a girl who is 22. 10 gears into your marriage she is 32 and you 38. How do you deal with the all the missed opportunities? I feel no matter how much you love a woman, biology still makes you want to try what else is out there. It's pretty rough that you're tied down in your prime.

cascadecombo · 2014-09-04T03:30:32+00:00

Simply because you don't seem to be able to handle married life does not mean that others can not.

Position5hero · 2014-09-03T21:03:42+00:00

I love reading this sub and helping you guys all get laid and sharing the tips that made me a legend back in the day

Then your reply to another poster:

"One guy spends 14 hours at work and basically avoids his wife, also no sex."

That's me. I wouldn't say no sex but's not a common event.

If you were Red Pill enough to be a legend, you should know how to game your own wife. My wife constantly pursues me for sex and I get blowjobs every time we have sex, when I want it. Married game is different in some ways, but the essentials are very similar: keep the money coming in, look good naked, have an active social life with girls around you, take charge.

This thread will get up-voted because "don't get married" is a popular catch-cry, but you're basically just whining. Don't like your life? Make changes. Then come back and tell us how you turned your life around for the better.

Maaahoney · 2014-09-03T19:06:13+00:00

You were a PUA? but, you got emotionally invested? what happened?

mordanus · 2014-09-04T03:28:19+00:00

Just regret and unfulfilled desire are the 2 biggest things waiting for you when you get married

I disagree. The biggest thing waiting for you is the loss of frame from failing the shit tests. Your wife is like the waves on a beach. Each new wave is another one of her shit tests is another smash against your frame. You are her rock and in time she will reduce you to sand. When you get married you say goodbye to your old self. The self that you used to like. The self that got the girls and had the freedom to explore. Unless you are the bruce lee of shit tests you are going to lose yourself in your marriage and then you will at certain points get glimpses of who you used to be and realize how far you have fallen. That is what is waiting for almost all of you if you get married.

The second one to me is the realization of your sacrificed dreams. This could go closely to your regrets but I see it as more than just missed pussy opportunities. I see it as breaking up your band for the good of your family or stopping your dream of football/surfing/traveling/exploring/ etc. Your wife and everyone in your life that is on her side is going to wield the weapon of shame in your direction and eventually you are going to get cut by it and give up another dream.

So for me marriage is a loss of your future you and past self.

wisdom_is · 2014-09-03T19:27:56+00:00

I'm curious about what went wrong? You said it took a lot of work. Was it you that felt caged in? Or were there specific behavior traits of her (bitchy behavior, loss of respect) that led to the end?
You're post doesnt touch on those important aspects to give us a better view on your situation/experience.

etcomro · 2014-09-03T20:12:24+00:00

If you were to do it differently.. obviously you wouldn't get married.. but would you still seek LTRs?

AFPJ · 2014-09-03T22:10:11+00:00

was at the gym at this redhead girl, real young, super pretty, tall, amazing body started talking to me and touching my arm

Whoever puts a ring on it will feel just like you a few years later. Who am I kidding, my bedside manners are shit. But hey, feel better - you got a second coming of bachelorhood after your kids grow up and you can de-ring yourself.

chakravanti93 · 2014-09-04T15:41:48+00:00

Turned her down before she offered you sex, that's beta. Assuming and expectant. Not necessarily wrong but so thirsty that despite lacking intent to call her a slut, you did.

The offense isn't calling her a slut indirectly, it's the doing so without intent.

Suggesting that you lack self control.

The pretense must be "just friends." So much easier if that's actually your intent and you hold frame, no?

Use her to make the wife realize you have options even if you have the discretion to not do so. The act creates an opportunity to put the onus of sexual retention upon her.

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2014-09-04T15:45:42+00:00

Soo.. Marry woman who likes threeways... problem solved.

trashcandestiny · 2014-09-04T19:31:59+00:00

Sucks for you man, but it sounds like you have your own issues to deal with that have little to do with all marriage in general. I don't know your situation so I can't tell you what to do. Best solution in my mind is to tell your wife how you feel and see how shit flies, don't settle for being miserable man, that's no way to live.

edit: didn't realize you had a kid in the mix. Complicates things beyond my experience.

NoFatChicks88 · 2014-09-04T02:09:12+00:00

Every older man I speak to gives me the same advice: "Don't get married. Don't have kids."

Plan on sticking with it. Entering late 20s now and so far so good.

[deleted] · 2014-09-03T19:34:35+00:00

Don't tell me what to do, you beta faggot.

Title	Please don't get married bros
Author	Position5hero
Upvotes	28
Comments	109
Date	September 3, 2014 6:32 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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