I've noticed that a lot of men that we label as "ethnic" tend to think that the reason they suck with women is pretty much entirely based on their ethnicity. First of all, I'm not gonna paint it all pink. Indians, asians, arabs, blacks to cite a few, DO have it worse than caucasian guys in general with occidental women, with few exceptions. There are definitely some girls that will never date a guy from X or Y ethnicity. These girls in general are extremely superficial women with little emotional intelligence, and generally shitty personality. If that's the kind of girl you're looking for, then I'm sorry for you.

However, there are PLENTY of women that will have no problem dating a guy from whatever ethnicity if he's COOL ENOUGH. There are even a lot of women that are very intrigued by exotic guys. The major problem is not that you're asian, or indian. It's simply that you're nothing special at all.

There is this paradox in being ethnic that you have it worse with a lot of women, but if you're actually decent looking, with an interesting personality and a lot of alpha traits, you become more attractive to women than the objectively equally or more attractive caucasian dude. Simply because he's still seen as the norm, whereas you'll be perceived as a special guy. So if you're doing bad with women, it's probably because you suck.

I'll give you an example of this. I actually experienced this myself, but I know of a more striking case.

Generally the consensus if that if you're short and skinny and ethnic, you're invisible to young, attractive caucasian women. I have 3 Laotian friends of mine, all brothers. The oldest who is one of my closest friends, is a 5'8, 115 lbs guy. Yeah, he's 115 lbs. Well you know what, this guy thinks he's the shit. The first time I went out with him years ago, he was supposed to meet me at a bar with friends and bring some friends of his. On the way he texted me "I'm bringing some hot bitches". I was impressed, I knew he always talked about being good with chicks etc, but I never thought it was actually true. When he came in the bar, he was with 2 guys and an ugly girl. I instantly thought, and told my friends "this guy is full of shit blabla" and we started talking shit about him. At the time it was justified.

But then I got to know him more. He wasn't pretending, he actually thought he was very attractive to women. He was constantly gaming chicks and trying to get into girls pants. He has a quite attractive face, not gonna lie. But mainly he's got impeccable style, you know how some asians can just rock some clothes like nobody else can? Well he has that. And then I saw that he was actually more successful with women than many guys I knew, although he is a total manlet. Mainly because he didn't give a shit about being asian, short, or skinny. He just thought he was cool, and attractive. He always was a bit overconfident, borderline pretentious. At first, the girls are always like "who the hell does he think he is". But then they buy into it. It seems that by giving himself value, and maintaining that frame because it's genuine, the girls end up taking it for what it is. They perceive him as he sees himself.

For me, it's the same thing, although I was a late, late bloomer. I always saw myself as unattractive and unworthy and too ethnic. The moment I stopped believing that, I finally found success with women. Now I don't think that anymore. And it seems like getting women is easy. Like it always was. Like it should always have been that easy.

So stop looking for excuses. The reason you're not successful with women is most likely that you don't believe in yourself at all. Who's gonna value you if you don't? if all ethnics of this world think that they are genetic waste, do you think women are actually gonna hold their hand and tell them otherwise?