TLDR: Ultra beta with likely zero SMV and options, invests a shitload into a transgender woman, becomes "her" betabux and gets nothing but abuse and lies in return. But because he is so beta, he just spins his hamster wheel even faster to lightspeed and beyond and stays in the relationship, because his oneitis controls him and he likely has zero options.

https://archive.is/O1Ndj

I saw this post linked on a message board outside of reddit and just wanted to throw up all over my Surface. If there is a more blue pilled relationships story out there, I'd like to see it.

It's long so I just highlighted the key parts.

We met online in a game.

Off to a great start. You just know online games are the best place to pick up quality women.

Eventually she opened up and told me she was trans.

Fair enough. It just gets his hamster wheel spinning.

We got closer still, admitted feelings, all that fun mushy stuff.

He doubles down and begins to overinvest.

I remember the first night at her place, she explained “I understand if you don’t want to sleep together, I can use the couch.”, and I’m thinking are you fucking nuts? I’m nuts about this girl, I’ve wanted to hold her since the day I met her, talks of cuddling. Suffice it to say she fell asleep in my arms and woke up that way too, it was fucking awesome. She had told me she was recently post-op (no, I didn’t ask), and she was still nervous/healing.

He had oneitis so bad for this "woman" that he had already pedastalized her and made her a unicorn in his own mind, before even fucking meeting her.

She admits to not having had SRS yet, fearing I would’ve left her if she didn’t have a vagina. Absolutely insane. I’m nuts about this girl right, can’t she see that?

So "she" lied to this guy, but his oneitis for "her" is so bad that he doesn't care, because in his mind "she" is a perfect unicorn.

After this, we start making plans for SRS. She wants to come live with me, she’s recently lost her job, I’ve helped her out a bit with rent month, but obviously I can’t afford two places, and we want to be together, etc.

He is such a beta that he even becomes "her" personal ATM machine. How beta do you have to be, and how low must your SMV and options be, that you are willing to be a beta bux for a transgender woman?

So, the plans was to get SRS. I ended up going back to work (was finishing school at the time), because there was no way she could pay it on her own.

His oneitis and betaness is so bad that he even goes back to work just to pay for his oneitis's sex change.

So, from February to June, no more trips. I worked full time while going to school, putting in a lot of overtime. She was not working, nor doing the online gaming thing, and very lonely. I spent most nights up late with her, texting or on Skype, doing what I could.

He is even working overtime just for her. This might be the biggest all time case of over investment in documented history.

By the time we met up, before SRS, she had lost about 40 lbs in 3 months, via starving herself (minimal nutrition and water) and energy pills to have enough energy to go to the gym and work out. She was virtually skin and bones when I saw her at the airport. I had seen pictures, but she knew how to take flattering angles that didn’t make it look nearly as bad.

His oneitis turns into a decrepit bag of skin and bones, a total mess, and his oneitis is so ingrained in him he doesn't even care.

She was an absolute mess. I let her know in no uncertain terms, I could care less about the surgery, if she felt uncomfortable, wanted to change her mind, I loved her no matter what.

Light speed hamster at this point. He has invested so much in this that even though his oneitis had gone off the deep end, he doesn't care. He is in love. AKA, absolutely NO OTHER OPTIONS for this guy. His SMV has to be at absolute zero.

I was basically paying for the whole thing, and I kept making it clear she didn’t owe me for this. I just wanted her to be happy, and I let her know I was proud of her no matter what.

Jesus Christ. He just wants her to be happy, so he is working overtime and investing everything he can into it.

Two months later, she came to live with me. I had moved to a larger, but cheaper apartment, so we could have our own space. Online gaming became her life. She started yelling at me, being extremely rude and abusive. I tried multiple ways of dealing with it, being super understanding, more neutral, or even just flat out realistic. She did not like reality. I was doing my best not to fall apart under her constant verbal and emotional abuse, even if they came with apologies and “I don’t know why I’m like this”, because it was my job to make sure she could afford the next surgery, to make sure she could afford to rent a place when she got back to the states.

At this point anyone reading this should be seething with rage. He moves to a cheaper(aka more ghetto) apartment just to accomidate his freeloading "girlfriend" who does nothing but play video games all day. Can anyone tell me what she contributes to this guy's life? He is getting no return on his investment. Yet his hamster goes beyond lightspeed at this point. He clearly has zero options because she starts abusing him and he still doesn't leave. He even apologizes for no reason. Lastly, he says "It's his job" to make sure she can afford the next surgery and rent when she moves back home. Barf. His job according to who?

And return she did, we got the other minor surgery she needed, and I helped her get an apartment, as well as a car down payment. Things were costing way, way more than ever anticipated. Even once moved and settled, I ended up paying her rent and bills many times, as she was unable to find work. She was constantly online, in games.

And she just continues to abuse him even more as a beta bux. Car payment? Apartment? Bills? Higher costs than expected? And yet he still puts up with it all because of his oneitis, unicorn mentality, pedastaling, and absolute lack of options. And he just lets her freeload and play video games all day, without making her get a job.

Her online gaming time was mostly spent with guys.

AKA, trying to find even more thirsty pathetic low SMV betas in online games to give her validation.

Another guy begs her to leave me and come live with him. She cuts that friend.

Revealing the depressing reality that there are even more thirsty thirsty betas out there whose options are so bad and SMV is so low that they are willing to do exactly what the OP is doing, be the provider for a transgender woman they have never met in real life.

On the other hand, her apartment is a disaster zone, hasn’t been cleaned in months, deep cutting scars on her thighs, looks like the litter box hasn’t been cleaned in two months, and video game drama has her in tears or freaking out.

This "woman" he has oneitis for is has sunk so low, yet he doesn't care. Hamster keeps spinning. I am in love, you see!

She spends even more time in game now. The game has become her life. It doesn’t hurt that she gets a ton of positive male attention. This is now really fucking awkward. Guys are constantly hitting on her, which I get. You have a gf who plays online games, you expect there to be throngs of guys around. I didn’t want to deny her the validation of having guys into her, and I trusted her to make distinctions, even while she’d blatantly flirt in front of me, look at me and go “I know, but we need X person for Y thing in game, if I don’t treat them nice and flirt, they’re going to leave.”

He is willing to be virtually cuckolded online just so she can get her sweet validation.

On the other hand, this is a girl with virtually no money who skips buying food to buy new headsets every few months to sound more feminine to people online.

Priorities! Bet this guy loves working all this overtime to enable this!

She tells me she has to finish up at work, and there will be some game stuff, but she’ll come by once that’s done. It’s like, I just travelled 7 hours, the day before Valentine’s Day, and you’re prioritizing a video game?

He drives 7 hours to see her on Valentines Day yet she is too busy for him.

She comes by later that night, she’s tired, we talk a bit, but she falls asleep. I cannot sleep at all. I spend two or three hours on my phone. I go to unplug her phone and charge mine, and the lock screen comes on. One of her admirers from the game. With a way too personal message. My head is now spinning. What the fuck. She’s always private with her phone, but I guess the password. I feel like shit for looking, but I feel justified. What do I find? The gay roommate? Sending him love messages, how she can’t stand being far apart, she just misses him so much. Another guy who’s name I’d seen on her phone once or twice… “Honey, I’ll need 1800$ this month.” And inidications on how they should meet soon, neither of them will be alone this holiday. Game admirer? She’s asking him for thousands of dollars for a surgery, when he says he can’t really swing that much, she mentions how she’ll just ask me instead, and I watch the guy flip the fuck out because she’s told him that I physically abuse her and pay her for sex. Trips he’s planning with her. I don’t say anything, I’m freaking out. She asks where her V Day gift is, right after I’ve seen her thanking another guy for sending her stuff.

This is the worst paragraph of them all. He digs into her phone to find EVEN MORE BETA BUCKS ENABLERS to this "woman" who are willing to just give her thousands of dollars.

My whole world is crumbling around me, this girl I’ve given everything to for two and a half years has at least three boyfriends, maybe more. She’s lying to everyone, telling the few people online who know both of us that I’m an abuser, that I hit her.

It's sad that it took him 2.5 years just to realize that this woman is a parasite. He put up with being an ATM machine and abuse and all this, all this investment and it didn't fucking matter. Looks like AWALT and hypergamy exists for transwomen as well.

He finally breaks it off, but

I still spend a lot of time worrying about her

His oneitis is still living rent free inside his head. He literally must have zero options and a rock bottom SMV.

Lessons Learned:

  • Those of you who beat yourself up over your past betaness, and wish you could go back in time and kick your own ass, realize that you likely were never near as beta as this guy is.

  • Even transgender women AWALT and hypergamy and play the AF/BB game.

  • Hypergamy doesn't care how much you have invested in a woman. You can give a woman all she needs and more and she will still have the natural instinct to get bored and go look for a Chad.

  • This is the natural end result of what happens when a man has a really low SMV and zero options. He has to scrape the bottom of the barrel with the likes of transgender women, and gets abused, and lied to, and used as an ATM machine. And since he has zero other options, he puts up with it. This is why options and abundance mentality matters, no matter where your SMV is.

  • Oneitis can do a lot of destructive things to men. Don't ever let it get a grip on you. Walk away, cut off all contact and hard next if you feel it creeping in.

  • Decades of feminist brainwashing and societal programming has produced a shit ton of ultra thirsty betamax men in this world who are willing to fork over thousands of dollars for women/transwomen whom they have never met in real life. The way things are going, there will be more of these men created every day as opposed to red pilled masculine men. That means the 20% will become closer to 10%, because eventually there will just be too many betas out there to where betas will occupy the 20% tier by default.