Borderline Career Beta

Scurvemuch · 2017-02-22T15:22:21+00:00

Here :

Lift heavy objects repeatedly.

Lift lighter ones until your muscles don't function.

Then go to work.

Kill at work.

Come home and make yourself some food.

Then go for a walk.

Then eat.

Then do some hobby shit.

Then go to sleep.

Do this 5 days a week.

On weekends, where it says "work" above, go do what ever makes you happy as long as its not sitting on the couch.

Earn your sleep. Earn your meals.

Earn you fucking life.

CopyAndPaste2015 · 2017-02-22T12:37:15+00:00

Your story is not special, (very much like mine at the start of the MRP journey). Personally I don't think you need anyone but you. You have the lifting, (hopefully at least 4 times a week), you have the sidebar, (NMMNG, MLSLP and the rest), and you need hobbies/projects/adventures to develop yourself and the dread, (look for u/bluepillprofessor dread levels).

Your initiative and your will to survive is the only thing you need. And remember:

Be atractive
Don't be unatractive

If you feel stuck then use OYS weekly and askMRP.

RBuddDwyer · 2017-02-22T14:25:03+00:00

I'm going to jump in here with a slightly different take. I was you when I first started, thinking that this stuff would just get better if I had a good, masculine role model. And that makes sense. Men are geared to follow a hierarchy, and will usually defer to a stronger man who shows superior leadership skills. It's why the military works so well. Men will naturally fall into a chain of command that puts the most competent leaders at the top. (Let's not get tied down in petty discussion about bad leadership in today's military. You know from your time in that you had a natural instinct to follow certain COs who you knew had their shit together. They were the ones who you followed without reservation.) Given no external force, men will always naturally organize into a unified chain of command.

The mechanism that makes this happen is the same mechanism that makes you want to seek out a mentor. You know you can learn more effectively with a role model / mentor to look up to, to model after, to keep you in check, and to coach you with good advice. That is actually what NMMNG recommends, to get involved with more male activities and to hang out with more male friends. I think this is the best way to go about unplugging and fixing yourself. But there is one big problem with this approach.

Good luck finding a mentor. Our society has been so fucked by the FI, that it is hard to find a good mentor nowadays. Male spaces are disappearing. It's becoming increasingly difficult for men to find a place where they can just be men, with no fear of disapproval or repercussions from their maleness. And this assumes you can even find another guy who is unplugged to begin with. In all my life I have found maybe one other guy IRL that I would consider close to being Red Pill. Most everyone else is either too scared to reveal that they are Red Pilled (and rightfully so, White Knights are everywhere), or are nowhere close to even unplugging. Add to the mix the increasing prevalence of women in traditionally male spaces, and you start to forget what it even means to be a guy, or how to be a guy. Jack Donovan writes about this in his book, The Way of Men. (Which is a good read, btw.)

There are even a whole crop of guys who have never known what it is like to be a guy. I include myself in this group. I never grew up in an environment with a strong male role model. I never went hunting, I never played any real manly sports, I was essentially raised by women, having only ever had one male teacher until I got to eighth grade. By then I was already conditioned to do what I had to do to seek female approval because, well, no one ever taught me differently. "We're a generation of men raised by women." - Tyler Durden

So, what does all this mean for you? Ideally, you would get a real, live male role model to make the most of your transition. The closest you will ever come was probably while you were in the military, depending on your MOS. There is really no other place around anymore where you can experience raw, unfiltered testosterone. Sure you can come here and ask specific questions, knowing that we will break your balls because biting sarcasm and brutal insults are both pretty effective ways to shock you out of your preconditioned frame and drive home the importance of our advice, but all you are going to get from us are commentary on specific issues you bring up, and the occasional article on some general topic the author thinks is important to share with everyone else. You do not get the shared camaraderie, the shared experiences, the shared accomplishments you get when you actually do something IRL with other guys who get it and are unplugged as well. I'll make a deal with you: whoever finds where all the Red Pill guys are IRL first, tells the other.

stonepimpletilists · 2017-02-22T14:43:50+00:00

The military is designed to build better betas...

Sidebar, no one is going to spoonfeed you. Post your shit here, in public, check your ego, and get to work. Unless you were air force, you should already know about lifting

sexyshoulderdevil · 2017-02-22T17:17:59+00:00

The MRP Collective is your Morpheus.

RedPillRisingFromAsh · 2017-02-22T18:47:28+00:00

If you are lucky enough to find a Morpheus that is ideal. One actually found me and I found mrp after which backed up everything he said.

That being said three aren't many of them around in my experience.

Look for the guy that says things others won't in front of wives. Look for the guy who isn't afraid to say get fucked to annoying people. Then make friends with him if possible.

screechhater · 2017-02-23T00:01:07+00:00

Book of Pook

Get over needing a task master to whip yourself into shape. If you aren't going to do it for yourself, on your own, life will be reduced to jerking off to porn in an apartment by yourself.

Let us know what path you choose

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2017-02-23T02:56:40+00:00

No one is interested in being your crutch. The guy to scream at you to improve. The guy to encourage you to keep improving. They're all here. The guys who want to share what they've learned...they're all on the sidebar.

Make yourself worth our while...get started.

TheFamilyAlpha · 2017-02-22T12:31:16+00:00

Unfuck your life.

There's nothing more to it.

You don't need Morpheus or a special treatment plan and you aren't unique in any way because you were in the military.

Everybody used to be somebody, how about you become somebody today.

freemefreebie · 2017-02-22T21:37:19+00:00

We have met the enemy and he is us.

saint_chalet · 2017-02-22T13:23:54+00:00

Nobody needs a kick in the nuts. Stop being lazy and asking us to fix you. You know what you need to do, go do that.

You're getting fit? great.

Go be interesting, pursue some sort of hobby that interests you.

When your wife is also being interesting, take her out. Show her a good time. When she's loafing about being a scroll addict on instagram, ignore her.

JDRoedell · 2017-02-24T13:22:08+00:00

Start by not sitting idly by while she finger fucks her phone. My wife knows I don't like when she does it too much around me. Sometimes I'll remove my presence when she gets on her phone. And do what then? What do you enjoy? Get some hobbies. Have some you can do in the house and have others that require you to leave. Don't just sit there every night.

johnnycakeAK · 2017-02-25T01:09:46+00:00

You need a hobby. You have two choices, and these are available everywhere:

Hunting
Fishing AND Hunting

Do both, but if not do hunting and not fishing. Don't know where to start? Find the state where you live's department of wildlife/fish/game/whatever and read. Find a hunter's education course, enroll and attend--not online, do the class in person. This gets you out of the house and provides opportunity to meet real people that already kill stuff for fun. After the course, buy a gun or five and any licenses necessary and start literally bringing dead animals home to cook for your woman.

Title	Borderline Career Beta
Author	honusqwerty
Upvotes	5
Comments	50
Date	February 22, 2017 12:14 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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