My relationship is really good since the red pill. But I always like to improve and keep my shit in order.

My SO will often try to get me to do things when she wants me to do them. I usually have a schedule of when I need to get things done, along with relation time.

Here's an example:

A.)

I had got home from work and usually I like to chill out for a little before cooking and going to the gym. I had laundry that needed to be done. And my SO was doing her homework. Now I planned on doing the laundry right after work but I figured I'd do it after the gym. Bc I usually use the momentum from the gym to complete tasks. We were both sitting down and I was on Reddit.

She hits me with "when are you going to do the laundry"? this is all my laundry btw. I tell her after I'm done relaxing for a bit. She asks a little bit later. I tell her after I get back from the gym I'll just do it.

She continues to ask me to do things when she wants them done. Even though they are my tasks to do. And I'll do them when I feel like it.

How am I to respond to this? If I get up and do them when she asks isn't that entering her frame?

B.)

When I try to establish boundaries or if she says something and I ignore it she will always ask questions as to why I'm doing what I'm doing.

"Why do you do this.."

"When do you want to have babies?"

"Do you miss me?"

"When are you going to find a new job"

I ignore. She then asks why did you ignore me?

How do I handle this without explain what I'm doing?