Vasectomy

MRPCowboy · 2016-04-27T19:58:24+00:00

Done it. Love it. I had complications--painful sperm granulomas that took ~9mos to clear. Nevertheless I would 100% do it again. Wife loves not being on BC and not using condoms.

If you're certain you don't want kids, a vasectomy is a pretty non-negotiable hard limit. If you're ever dating again, some women want kids, some don't. Sterility only matters for a LTR and vasectomy is a quick way to filter LTR compatibility.

I can't think of any reason vasectomy would have any believable impact on evopsych.

Becoming sterilie was a little more challenging for me to handle emotionally than I expected, but I've adjusted and it's freeing overall to take the potential of pregnancy permanently off your mind. The DIY home sterility tests are awesome for monitoring effectiveness (if you're a worry wort like me).

TheRedStoic · 2016-04-28T14:30:59+00:00

Go for it. Definitely. Freeze some for surrogacy later.

Born sterile, got burned to be certain at 24

There's nothing like hearing "I'm pregnant and keeping it" then handing the papers to her friends or family to give to her. (Because of course you don't want to communicate after that)

Let the social world decimate her and happily volunteer for a paternity test.

ImprovingMan · 2016-04-27T18:58:37+00:00

I would love to get everybody's take on this. I would worry that it might impact your wife in some subconscious way, and I have also read that is a fear. But I have heard other guys say that it has been fine, with regards to attraction. I have heard a few scary stories about pain never going away.

I asked my doctor about it one time and he said they are effective and very safe. I asked for his personal opinion, in addition to his professional opinion and he explained that the risk in his mind was if the marriage failed. He said he sees a lot of guys that got divorced, met a younger woman that wanted kids, and then were looking as getting the procedure reversed. So I didn't pursue anything after hearing that. My marriage isn't in bad shape but you never know what can happen.

schmeeza · 2016-04-27T20:23:24+00:00

It's really not a big deal. I did it and it did not change my sex drive in anyway.

RedPillAtNight · 2016-04-28T03:55:24+00:00

Left for appointment at 11:45, was home at 1. A week or two of minor swelling and was good to go. Would do again in a microsecond 10/10.

2gunsgetsome · 2016-04-27T21:48:05+00:00

One of the best things I've ever done for myself. Just knowing there are no bullets in the gun and I can essentially point it at anyone does wonders for my abundance mentality.

There's nothing that says you have to tell anyone (your wife will probably catch on...) and if I were to hit the dating / fucking scene, I wouldn't say peep.

If you keep it to yourself, you might get the chance to do this: https://archive.is/Rzyw7

lionmenden · 2016-04-27T19:48:22+00:00

I have been looking into this, too. I've heard:

"Best decision ever" - from people who are "spinning plates" on TRP and don't want to risk having a child.

"I thought it would improve sex with my wife, but it didn't" - from family and co-workers, people with families who I know personally.

I'm inclined from the stories to think that it's a good choice for bachelors but not marriages.

deadsandsushi · 2016-04-27T21:32:25+00:00

Not every woman wants kids or more kids. A vasectomy and no worries about pregnancy is a huge turn on.

Marriedwithkidz · 2016-04-27T21:26:01+00:00

My husband got one in 2006, best thing ever! Sex life has been much nicer since no fear of getting pregnant ever again. He was ready to go 3 days post and has had no issues.

bsutansalt · 2016-04-27T21:30:29+00:00

I was surprised by the sudden and sharp decline in interest from my girlfriend at the time when I got mine. It makes sense from an evolutionary perspective why women wouldn't feel drawn to a man they know can't knock them up.

assured_destruction · 2016-04-27T20:24:58+00:00

What a bunch a pussies. Its very minor surgery and no more condoms no more bc pills to forget. Who df would have a second family just cause you found a new girl? Oh.. beta boy thats who,

Make your decision, find a good urologist, not the family gp, and just do it

SDSAM21 · 2016-04-27T21:00:00+00:00

I did it. I wouldn't do it again. The is a mental impact to your wife. She knows you can't get the nanny pregnant, so she is less motivated to keep you satisfied.

sexyshoulderdevil · 2016-04-27T19:26:41+00:00

I wouldn't do it. Period. That's my prerogative. Some people would.

bornredd · 2016-04-27T19:46:28+00:00

We went with IUD. Wife was having minor psych and behavioral/emotional issues due to hormonal bc pills. Swapped to IUD and it's never been better.

I refuse to have my balls fucked with after all the surgeries I've had.

MRPCowboy · 2016-04-28T16:02:42+00:00

Athol Kay in MMSLP specifically advises against it

That entire section of the book had my eyes rolling. A lot of what he writes about sperm is true in some species or another but is not true about humans.

BanginAway · 2016-04-27T19:39:27+00:00

Not for me either. My being in control of birth control is insisting she got an IUD. Even the remote chance of complications or lower value is enough for me.

Griever114 · 2016-04-28T13:44:13+00:00

Simple question:

Do you want anymore kids?

Make your decision on that premise. SMV has nothing to do with shooting blanks. Remember, you can still fuck other women (dread). Shooting blanks has nothing to do with that. The threat of leaving her is the threat.

lionmenden · 2016-04-28T18:20:39+00:00

I took a quick tally:

4 did IUD or other birth control
2 did vasectomy, had issues and wouldn't do it again
1 did vasectomy, had issues but would do it again
3 did vasectomy, no issues

That's pretty split. But what I found interesting was that the "do it" were pushed much higher up in votes than the "you'll regret it". Vote brigading!

turbosympathique · 2016-04-30T00:47:30+00:00

A vasectomy is fine SMV wise. Just keep up the good work and don't over think it.

Itstinksoutthere · 2016-05-01T02:33:29+00:00

If you do drink pineapple juice. I had my wisdom teeth pulled and hen the next day went and got my vasectomy. Bad idea in hindsight but I'm not one to take a bunch of time off of work. I was told to drink the pineapple juice by my oral surgeon. Happy coincidence was no swelling for the vasectomy as well as the teeth. I think in Athols case it's do it because you want to do it and not because your wife or woman wants you to do it.

cnlcpltx · 2016-05-13T17:26:05+00:00

Read my comment here

Title	Vasectomy
Author	ornerycrank
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Comments	91
Date	April 27, 2016 6:36 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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