Has anyone recovered from my point?

900_year_old_vampire · 2017-05-07T15:19:38+00:00

many, many people do dude. do you know how many guys here that are in their 30s and 40s and would literally give their left nut to be 19 again? you have your whole life ahead of you, you can become any kind of man you want. just decide what kind of man that is, and start shaping him today

nebder · 2017-05-07T15:38:59+00:00

You're a man. The life you live is the life you create for yourself. Pretty sure you're not going to sit on your deathbed saying I'm glad I was a fat fuck my whole life.

To answer your question yes people have changed themselves from your point to a much better place. You already know that so I'm thinking you just need a friendly push to get yourself going. Here's your basics

Step 1. Get MyFitnessPal and track your intake. You're fat so at the beginning the weight should melt off. Water and water based drinks (plain tea and coffee) are all you get. Whole milk is good but it's calorie dense. Track milk intake. Those are your drinks and your food should be unprocessed. If it comes premade out of a box or a bag it's likely no good for you.

Step 2. Get the StrongLifts 5x5 app and start lifting. Watch form videos on YouTube. Depending how fat you are might wanna consult your doctor to see when it's safe to start. Most people in the gym are NOT going to say what's this fat fuck think he's doing here. Most of them will think there's a man making himself better. Actually 99% of people in the gym are so focused on themselves that you won't be noticed. Enjoy the iron church.

Step 3. Make small low effort improvements to your looks. Get a good haircut (go to a decent salon and say here's my head and here's what I had in mind. Ask if your wanted style fits your facial shape. Different faces get different cuts. What can you do for me? Get the notes and then got to a barber for repeat cuts) and decent shoes. Get a good scent. No axe bullshit. Make yourself look sharp but don't invest in clothes when you're gonna lose weight.

Step 4. Be more social. Go out with friends. Talk more. If you're not funny or witty then it's hard to make cold approaches on the street when you're fat (why is this fat creepy guy talking to me), but make small talk conversation with all the service people you come across. Male and female. What's up, how's your day, How's things. Try to give small compliments and see how that makes people feel better. That's building foundation to stronger game down the line.

It's your life. Take it in your hands and make it the life you want. I know it's possible. You have to do the work and no amount of cheerleading will make your fat ass get up and do it unless you want it more than anything else.

gettingmymojoback · 2017-05-07T16:41:07+00:00

If I could do it at 40, you have no excuse for not being able to do it at 19.

Start with diet first, 70% of your gains (in this case loss technically) will come from diet. 500cal/day deficit equals 1lb/week fat loss. Anyone can do this easily. Keep doing this until you hit your target weight.

Lift. Lift heavy and lift often. Pick a beginner program and stick to it. Give 100% effort at every workout.

That's it. Make a commitment and stick to it. You won't see immediate change, but if you stick to it for 3 months you will see change and it will become a habit. After that it's all just rinse and repeat.

-MAurelius- · 2017-05-07T15:18:30+00:00

Yes. You can absolutely 100% do this. First you need to ask yourself "why" do you want to do this. Write that down, and when things start to get hard, refer to it.

Secondly, read these posts: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3z1osk/screw_motivation_you_need_discipline/

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4yox83/its_all_dopamine/

Work on breaking the hold dopamine has on you. It's why you sit around and play video games all day.

Kalidane · 2017-05-07T20:16:03+00:00

Hope you've enjoyed the cheerleading. Must feel nice for a few minutes.

If you want confidence in your ability to do something, do it, see results, get better at it, keep doing it. If you want promises that it will all turn out well, watch another movie.

Whether or not you can be bothered improving your life is up to you.

legitshitonly · 2017-05-07T16:08:37+00:00

You're 19. Yes. Period. End of sentence. Your health should be the only thing for you to focus on right now. Don't make it so complicated and look at everything big picture. One thing at a time, partner. But the thing about fitness that's amazing for you is you can start today. Right now. And it will make you feel great about your future.

Now, if you're 19 and overweight, I'm going to assume that your knowledge of nutrition is not that great. You probably weren't fed or informed about this stuff by your parents very well. That's ok. But it's time to accept the past and accept responsibility for your future. There is tons of information out there for a beginner so a good idea I have for you would be to go check out a few supplement shops. There are some in my town where the people working there are certified in nutrition and fitness. The one I go to will make a custom nutrition plan or even exercise plan for free for customers. Pick up some multivitamins or something from them and see if they can help you out in this way. The popular big name stores by you are your best bet.

Don't worry about going in there, I can almost guarantee you they'll be more than happy to help you out

moviemaker10 · 2017-05-07T18:11:37+00:00

Yah man. When I was 17 I weighed 260 lbs at 6'1". I'm now 185 muscular at 21 and my life has done a complete 360. It's possible. You just want to need it, and stick with it.

quicklogaccount · 2017-05-07T15:29:02+00:00

Obese with video games addiction isn't a bad starting point, and you're fairly young. The mentality to really abhor the "not so bad, I just need some small changes" one. They're not small changes.

Here, this might help a bit.
http://charlesduhigg.com/how-habits-work/

RogerSterrling7 · 2017-05-07T15:42:49+00:00

For sure man, many guys were where you are now and they got past that point, improved themselves and are now enjoying the fruits of their labour.

You can do this. Go step by step, join a gym, change your eating habits and become consistent at it. When you start feeling more confident, then start putting yourself out there and approach girls. Will it be easy? No. But will it be worth it? Abso-fucking-lutely. Good luck to you!

vorverk · 2017-05-07T16:33:32+00:00

It's not gonna be easy. But by the time you're 30, you can be fit as fuck and fuck 9s and 10s and drive a ferrari. But you will have to get off your ass and do it all yourself. Start slow, you won't change over night. And if you fall back, don't beat yourself too much. Everybody makes mistakes. The important part is to put yourself back on track.

[deleted] · 2017-05-07T19:13:00+00:00

What's up bro? Don't worry about girls right now because you've got important man shit to do. You can bang 19-year-olds when you're 25, 30, 35, 40, 45 and 50 if you get the next year or two set right.

So what do you want? (serious question)

TheRedStoic · 2017-05-07T20:14:10+00:00

Buy a food scale for 20 bucks, download my fitness pal. Begin dieting immediately.

You'll shed weight like crazy. Weekly. If you're obese you should be at about 1000cal down daily.

That'll be the first thing that gives you positive feedback. Go from there. You'll get the confirmation, build discipline, and have more energy overall, week to week, month to month.

While you're dieting lurk more, crush the sidebar, ask questions, balance your budget, read every day, per diem video gaming should be reduced. Brush up on comedy. Learn to meditate. Get your plan straight. Monk up. Look at gym memberships, lifting plans, get everything ready to pull the trigger once you hit your first goal weight. "Maybe 20lb lighter, maybe 40, I don't know."

Yes. You can do it. People much older than you, weaker than you, sicker than you, have done it. You can too.

Velebit · 2017-05-07T20:46:54+00:00

you are weakwilled, I was fat 2 times and dropped that weight through exercise and last time simply by diet as I am an somewhat handicapped person now however will is strongly related to a kind of testosterone, that is why women usually don't take agency and feel meek and powerless even if look at a female that might be physically stronger or smarter than an average man

daveofmars · 2017-05-07T21:21:34+00:00

Good news is that it's definitely possible to improve. The better news is 19 isn't really that late to start. I'd say that, if you start now and keep up with it, within a year or so you can slim down to a good weight. Then, you can enjoy your health for the remainder of your life, if you maintain it.

Now if you were 39, I'd say you were a lost cause.

bilabrin · 2017-05-07T22:35:18+00:00

You, at 19 can absolutely do it. Start changing bad habits one at a time and if you fail, identify failure points and retry. Get rid of bad influences. If you are around people with bad habits, go to social gatherings and meet and befriend people without them. Taking control feels fantastic. You can lose the weight and get surgery for the excess skin. Change your life by changing your habits.

Vesperous · 2017-05-08T00:03:21+00:00

Shit dude, honestly, so many people can get past it and some do. Let's not lie and say it will be easy but it's certainly doable. I'm 17 so even younger then you and I've had good success with girls, I used to be fat (20-30 pounds overweight), and now I still am overweight but it's mostly muscle, 230, 5'8 with 15% BF. Now, you can get good with girls for sure man. They will like you just for talking to them because most bigger guys don't get out there enough. Just show them game, which you can for sure learn from here. Don't give a fuck if they don't like you and they will respect you at worst, and fuck you at best. Learn game on here and start lifting too, I'd give you advice on those but honestly redpill has it covered. Message me with any questions you have.

I thoroughly believe in you, your friend Vesperous

meh613 · 2017-05-08T02:50:39+00:00

Yes, you can, but it won't take a second.

BlackMisc · 2017-05-08T09:08:18+00:00

The fact that your here does turn you into a person who cares enough to change. I also have a single mother household and i know mothers are not helpful at all and want to keep you small.

But fuck them change so you can become happy

the-bro · 2017-05-08T09:46:18+00:00

I used to be in your situation. I was 17+ stone (stopped weighing myself after a while, didn't want to see higher numbers.) At 17 yo about 3 years ago. I regularly contemplated suicide and I smoked lots of weed back then too. Now I'm 12 Stone and go to the gym at least twice a week. I get a bit of attention here and there, so that's nice.

I remember when I was so big that nobody was really there to help me or tell me what to do. No good friends, Parents were drunks so they couldn't support me and I even had oneitis pretty bad for this one girl who clearly wasn't into me. It was pretty much my lowest point in a long time, but what got me through it was that I didn't want it to end that way. I wanted it to get better and I slowly put the right things in place for it to happen. I didn't discover TRP for another 2 years, but during that time I hit the gym pretty extensively.

The gym really does help. You don't have to do free weights at first, do lots of cardio to increase your metabolism. I mean running or jogging to start off, slowly over the weeks working your way up to sprints. I lost roughly 5 stones in a year, but if I'd been dieting properly it would have been much quicker.

Also Porn. If you watch that stuff quit it, really kills your discipline like no other. Take a look at r/keto and r/nofap. They're communities relating to the keto diet and quitting porn, full of supportive people in the same positions I was. Maybe they can be the same to you.

And then there was r/suicidewatch for the tough nights. I don't recall ever posting but remember that oneitis? It got worse before it got better so I spent time browsing there to help recover.

It really does get better, with time and effort! I'm now studying at a great uni in a great city towards a degree in engineering. I've met loads of interesting new people here, got a job part time. My old life just pales in comparison. I suppose what I'm trying to say is that 3 years is a long time. You can do a lot in that time, especially in terms of self improvement. Don't be too hard on yourself either, not much good comes from negative self talk.

Good luck man, I did it once.. I hope you can get there too.

LethalShade · 2017-05-12T06:09:03+00:00

Tell you what, if you start today you can literally mold yourself into whichever version of yourself you want to be in the next three years.

Those three years will pass anyway, up to you what you do with them.

Shaman6624 · 2017-06-04T23:45:16+00:00

Lol you're not as behind as you think. When you read here you're already ahead of 90% at least. Visit r/stopgaming

SexistFlyingPig · 2017-05-07T21:02:39+00:00

Bad news: You're in a bad place.

Good news: You can fix it. It's going to take a lot of work. Almost all the work will appear to make absolutely no change for the better, and the work itself will be painful and make you uncomfortable. The changes will be so tiny that you won't make any of them. But after a year, you will be in a drastically better place.

prostaddict · 2017-05-08T01:42:06+00:00

When I was 19, I was extremely socially awkward. I commuted and had no friends in college or girl experience. I was also obese - 270 pounds. I am now 30, making six figs for a few years, in great shape, and have a notch count of 60+ women. You need to work hard for it - and coming here is the right step. Oh, and I also still like video games - but guess what, with all the rest, the girls definitely dont give a shit

Title	Has anyone recovered from my point?
Author	4theredpill
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Date	May 7, 2017 3:13 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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