Is this what it's like?

zboo1h · 2016-10-23T17:36:43+00:00

The beginning is definitely the hardest. It ruined my appetite. It fucked with my sleep. It made me feel like a dickhead idiot for jacking off. It made me really turn my focus on myself and see what a fucking wreck I was. Two years later and it's today: I put on 40 lbs of muscle, I found myself working up the career ladder, I find myself having sex with beautiful women with zero commitment or investment (time or otherwise).

Still, just recently one of these beautiful women did some kind of mental emotional judo on me and got me to obsess about her, reverting me entirely back to the old days.

This whole journey you will and NEED to go on is painful, it will make you want to puke, it will make you feel hatred and anger and sadness - medicine doesn't taste good, but it will make you feel better.

And even in a few years time, when you're a ripped adonis making money and taking the hoes you want, you will still trip over the tiniest pebble and come crashing down to Earth again to pick up the pieces and try again.

Believe me my man, you're in the right place. Lift. Read TRP sidebar material. Focus on yourself. You're the prize.

I don't care how pretty she is. I don't care how "innocent" she seems. I don't care how unusually smart for a female she is. I don't care what nurturing tendencies she exhibits. I don't care about her salary or how she's traveled. YOU are the God Damned prize and if you don't believe that, no one else will either.

So you will dust yourself off every time you fall, just like I did recently, and you will find another one, and another one, and another one, and you may even find one that "isn't like the others", but try and remember - You are the prize, You are what's important. And don't beat yourself up if you relapse into beta behavior or anger.

Women are ancillary at best.

stickfiguresk · 2016-10-23T18:12:13+00:00

How can I ever trust another woman,

You don't have to respect them, but respect what they are. Social dynamics aren't magic. They're a product of evolution, and the weak genes get weeded out. This isn't any woman's fault: its yours for being naive. The first step to acceptance is taking responsibility.

how can I ever find the person that will be my partner, the one that always has my back?

That's the heart of the red pill: Disney love is fantasy. "The one" is like Santa or the Easter Bunny.

jjfast666 · 2016-10-23T17:50:43+00:00

This is normal.

In an effort to keep this short, all those progressive things people say about women are totally false. You're supposed to treat women like objects, be insensitive, be selfish, act like your better, and basically discriminate in your personal life.

But NEVER TALK about it because the people that push this agenda include the legal system.

Do plenty of reading, but if you find yourself still glued to TRP after a few weeks/months it can become poisonous. Find your Blue-Red balance, otherwise you'll be filled with bitterness and unable to cope with it.

MoravianKing · 2016-10-23T19:30:48+00:00

That is not even the worst part.

The worst is when you realise that your mom, and you grandma are the same(AWALT). They will ask you 10 times why are you going to the gym, they will tell you that your diet is bad, ask why are you cutting when you don't weigh 120kilos. You will go through the same shit tests you go with 20 year olds.

You are the man, learn who to ignore and smile on like a twat, and learn who to listen to. Don't follow everything you see here, find the important stuff, read the sidebar, plate if you want to, LTR if you don't. Just don't put women on pedestal, they don't deserve it, climb it yourself and watch from above.

E: Don't respect women, love them for what they are, respect is for better men.

Mick-Q-1188 · 2016-10-23T19:03:27+00:00

I've recently found TRP in the last month or so and I can relate to this. I'm going between relief at seeing the truth about women, and despair/sadness at having to let go of my previous false beliefs/assumptions in regards to them.

I think also that I've been naive in thinking that women are just like me in regards to the way I think and see the world. Clearly this has set me up for many falls. As I approach 28, I'm glad I've been woken up, but also disappointed that I didn't find it sooner.

Expectations1 · 2016-10-23T20:15:18+00:00

I never really understood until i worked in a team full of women. When you work in such an environment with 8+ women for 50 hours a week, you start to pick up on their bullshit so fast.

They have no concept of things like honour or having a purpose, their purpose is having a man with purpose. And the senior women in an organisation do not look happy that they have to be a leader, believe me, they do not want to lead.

zboo1h · 2016-10-23T17:42:19+00:00

Also: Besides TRP, I would heavily recommend listening to Patrice O'Neal's show The Black Phillip Show on YouTube. He helped me better understand women's behaviors so that I could stop hating them. I was holding them to unrealistic (Men's) standards of behavior and it was making me and the women I dealt with miserable.

I cannot more strongly recommend that you listen to Patrice's philosophy, it very well could help save your life.

TheStumblingWolf · 2016-10-23T20:46:52+00:00

All transitions are hard. Remember you're both the sculptor and the clay. If you wish to reshape your mind you can. This place is filled with people on the same journey as you. Besides - when you know all the rules you can bend them. Bending is fun.

CrownsTalons · 2016-10-23T19:11:13+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/58prcl/yep_awalt_no_matter_what_you_do/ I was referring to this in my post.

GC0W30 · 2016-10-23T19:41:44+00:00

All of the principles and precepts of TRP are true.

Go ahead and mourn the loss of your fairytale magic dreamland if you need to. Many of us had to do that.

The great part about discovering TRP's truth is that you have the tools, or the directions to acquiring the tools, that you need to have a great life.

You are capable of acquiring a life where the women who accompany you in life are allies in your happiness. You are capable of becoming the kind of man who can replace women who stop being allies quickly with new ones.

Grieving your BP life sucks, but it won't kill you to learn the truth.

throwthehoeaway69 · 2016-10-24T01:15:07+00:00

There is a lot of "plate" mentality around TRP (which is great), but the beta in us (theres always some) yearns for a partner. You just have to trust no one, and expect nothing from them if you want to / decide to get in an LTR. It will put your mind at ease. It's easier said than done, but I think this sort of mindset pops up when you really start focus on yourself / improving yourself (adopting a red pill mentality, lifting etc ...) and/or once you go through a relationship and realize that person that meant the world to you 6 months ago ... Yeah you probably do give a fuck about her anymore and barely talk to her or think about her lol.

IMO lifting is the one of the most important principles, before I even stumbled upon the red pill, I had "red pill phases" in my life and realized that they were all during a time where I was heavily invested into working out. You don't even have to be shredded with chiseled abs. A thick posture from dead lifts and pull ups is sexy enough to most women. Your confidence increases, your body language improves a whole lot etc ... Lifting is a must. Start hitting the gym and the pill will be much easier to swallow. Cheers.

desno · 2016-10-23T23:07:00+00:00

you summed up all of our experiences of being exposed to trp for the first time haha. Good luck, keep reading and you will eventually accept it

Askada · 2016-10-24T07:32:40+00:00

How can I ever trust another woman

Women are not trustworthy, just accept it like the sunset.

how can I ever find the person that will be my partner

You can get a dog if you miss true companionship but you will deal with it eventually.

the one that always has my back?

Your best friends and maybe the family are the ones who should got your back.

My other half?

After you will deal with anger phase and start self-improving you will become a complete man, no additional "halfs" will be needed.

I hope you are reading r/theredpill though, not r/asktrp as the latter is kinda low quality in my opinion, but good for posts like yours.

Terminal-Psychosis · 2016-10-23T22:09:06+00:00

Here's an old classic on the "Stages of Loss" as applied to TRP.

It isn't a 1-2-3, we tend to relive the phases we haven't fully incorporated yet, as we grow and understand more about being a man.

Give it time, it's a life-long journey. Keep reading the sidebar, check out the excellent books recommended in this sub and most important, experiment in real life as you internalize this new knowledge.

Eventually we outgrow and heal from that loss of poisoned boyhood and the benefits are amazing.

The Five Stages of Red Pill, and how to read r/TRP textposts.

Dr_Frogstein · 2016-10-24T03:11:39+00:00

Don't complain, be thankful. I'd give a lot to know then what I know now.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-10-25T02:43:56+00:00

Remember that modern women are mostly ruined shit-human just like most men. That's what happens when everyone turns to hedonism and emotional pursuit. Don't feel bad, this isn't humanities best face.

Become a strong man and fight for the good that's inside people. Even women can be reasonably good if they are held in check, same for men if they are allowed to flourish.

FuckYourNarrative · 2016-10-23T21:03:12+00:00

It was all a lie. The redpill is the young adult's version of finding out that santa isn't real. You gotta buy and wrap your own gifts.

its_meKnightSwolaire · 2016-10-23T19:50:50+00:00

That book that was mentioned on the main sub the other day is truly worth a read: "practical female psychology for the practical man"

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2016-10-24T01:08:00+00:00

Because you're still plugged in. Otherwise you'd already know that a woman isn't supposed to be your "other half". You're supposed to be 100% man and understand that AWALT when it comes to wanting to test you or throw tantrums.

IGoYouStayTwoAutumns · 2016-10-24T07:22:28+00:00

OP here's your starter reading list (aside from the sidebar of course), read in the following order:

-- NO MORE MR NICE GUY by Robert Glover

-- WAY OF THE SUPERIOR MAN by David Deida

-- THE RATIONAL MALE by Rollo Tomassi (Start with BEST OF YEAR 1 and YEAR 2, then check out rest of site, book is worth picking up as well, it's all the greatest hits)

LukeMooney · 2016-10-24T12:33:08+00:00

Read the post stickied today in main sub, find the link the "the five stages of the red pill" obviously you are in stage 1. take aread through and just be aware what you are experiencing is completely normal. You can even look at the other 4 stages and see how you will likely evolve your thinking's as you progress.

All the best

bigk12345 · 2016-10-23T22:11:12+00:00

Read the Book of Pook and Rational Male series by Rollo Tomassi.

These 3 books are life changers.

Pook ultimately tells you that you are the prize.

Rollo takes a more pragmatic approach and connects the dots regarding inter gender dynamics.

NeedsMoreBatman · 2016-10-29T16:37:35+00:00

u remember the first time u were told santa wasn't real? and the day you realized your parents aren't super heroes but humans with their own problems? or maybe the day you realized some people are born in the world who get to be bullies and still live out the rest of their lives in a way that will objectively always be better tha 99% of others'? it's like that. you just stop caring one day after your mind acclimates. you just kind of accept that this is the world we live in and the only thing you can ever do to live happily is to work on improving yourself and surrounding yourself with people who will be there for you through thick and thin just as you would for them, but as best friends and family, not potential mates. the shock will settle given time, but it's up to you to decide how you choose to view the reality of things.

bainbridge_island · 2016-10-23T23:35:05+00:00

Chill the fuck out.

Title	Is this what it's like?
Author	CrownsTalons
Upvotes	82
Comments	71
Date	October 23, 2016 5:27 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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