Plate canceled 8th date. Should I call?

svenfromaccounting · 2019-12-20T18:29:53+00:00

nah dude, you'll maybe get to fuck her at a later time. Shes got a different guy in mind for the time being. Don't annoy her.

sharkymcstevenson69 · 2019-12-20T18:21:09+00:00

No. Don’t worry about her, a girl will let you know if she’s interested. The ball is in her court. LIFT, and game at least 10 other women. Preferably, hotter women. She’ll reach out first if she wants you.

Don’t be a needy phaggot.

theUnBannableHulk · 2019-12-20T19:48:50+00:00

Ignoring her is the best thing you can do.

Not letting your Dick think for you is the second best thing you can do.

Everyday the 9 is turning into an 8.

NotBlackPhillip · 2019-12-20T18:57:35+00:00

This is a valuable lesson for all of us in that, if you have to ask this question, you can recognize the oneitis in yourself.

The answer to this question is easy. What makes it hard is that you want it to work with this ONE girl. It makes me question why you called her a “plate” as if there’s others.

This is 101 for guys with plates, PhD for guys with Oneitis

ApdoSenpai · 2019-12-20T19:04:33+00:00

Happens. Plates break. She’s into another guy right now or you failed a comfort test when you met her friends.

Next.

poortrait100 · 2019-12-20T21:57:59+00:00

Her friends confirmed your good beta status, so she’s put you on hold for some carousel riding and will check in with you later for validation and comfort. The question is will you be there? If you will then you will know what you are.

serynada · 2019-12-20T18:23:06+00:00

hit her up like “let’s do X @ Y” to confirm she’s lost attraction and there’s not something going on with her.

if no response, or excuse and no proposal, soft next indefinitely - treat her as if she no longer exists. let her initiate, but most likely she’s gone forever.

always be gaming.

it might help if you described what happened when you met her friends. you need to learn from this.

further note: nothing wrong with finding a girl suitable for your rotation and preferring she remain, but watch yourself. that desire can easily turn into what feels like need, and no matter how good things seem, need is unequivocally repellant to women.

when you need her, you’ve already lost her.

smhfamswag · 2019-12-20T19:58:33+00:00

Why the fuck are you even on an “8th date”

Too much invested, now you got oneitis.

Tell that bitch come over to watch a movie and chill

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-12-21T04:31:48+00:00

Fuck me. I still have no idea why 90% of guys on here give advice.

You don't have to just wait in limbo to see if she hits you up. That's just being passive and living in her frame.

If you've waited a while, it's totally fine to initiate and suggest logistics.

I always give a girl one strike/cancel/flake. I reinitiate later and give her one more chances THEN next. There is a chance she was actually doing something.

The amount of times I've had plates cancel, soft nexted, then reinitiate and been totally fine.

Don't do the whole 'omg, she didn't see me this one time, so she was definitely getting trained by 20 Chads' shit. You'll turn yourself insecure.

Why would a man sit in limbo? POLARIZE and find out if she's fuck yes or no...THEN next if she cancels again.

Be aware 90% of the guys on here have zero experience

Cannock · 2019-12-20T18:43:47+00:00

Next.

Sylvester_Sterone · 2019-12-20T19:15:21+00:00

Hit up your other plates. In a week or two send a message to this plate and invite her somewhere

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-12-20T20:31:42+00:00

Keep it moving. You're the prize because you're on purpose and lifting, right?

2019-12-20T22:09:47+00:00

Why did you meet her friends?

VisiblePlan · 2019-12-20T20:20:04+00:00

She's using you as an emotional tampon for her self esteem. Retreat solider, but hold your head high, there will be more battles.

El_Serpiente_Roja · 2019-12-20T23:36:58+00:00

If she is really a plate then stop worrying and spin another plate

bayareaengineer2019 · 2019-12-20T23:54:40+00:00

Just follow up with her in a week and then again in two weeks. If it doesn’t work then who cares. She’s just a plate after all.

ReaperX44 · 2019-12-21T02:03:13+00:00

Needy much? Call another one.

InsidiousCurve · 2019-12-21T16:09:35+00:00

Could be something going on in her life-where she actually had to postpone it. Give it another try and if it goes nowhere, aka, she ghosts/rejects and give another time, then move on. Sometimes you'll see these bitches give you a text months into the future as if nothing happened, most of it attributed to you not harassing her.

Justin12032000 · 2019-12-24T19:03:13+00:00

Nah, it’s not worth it. Gotta have an abundance mindset so you can make her think that you’re dating other girls so she could step her up her game if she sees you as a high value man.

EdvardMunch · 2019-12-20T22:27:09+00:00

Hard one to learn but if you gotta feed it to make it come together shes losing interest. But hey a lot of women lose interest and get bored because they're boring. Friends liking you is probably a boring factor too. Tension man, tension.

SalporinRP · 2019-12-20T23:39:24+00:00

I don't really get the responses saying to next her. It doesn't look good but men are expected to be the "pursuers" for lack of a better team.

Just text her to set up a time to chill and if she doesn't respond positively then you can next her after.

strainer123 · 2019-12-20T23:53:49+00:00

Its over, after one week of no contact its over.

Ill_mumble_that · 2019-12-20T19:05:28+00:00

This is coming off just meeting her friends for the first time- all of which liked me.

Did you get their numbers? You need more plates.

The ideal number of plates is 28. 1 for every day of the month, and on long months just take a couple days off.

Or just be that guy that doesn't bother calling a girl for 2 months unless its 2am and you want a booty call. It works everytime, as long as your SMV is high and frame is strong.

319Skew · 2019-12-21T00:13:31+00:00

Sounds like a broken plate.

friggandfrayed · 2019-12-21T03:37:25+00:00

Lol are you mate guarding a plate?

Move on, she already has

Title	Plate canceled 8th date. Should I call?
Author	watchguy45
Upvotes	47
Comments	90
Date	December 20, 2019 6:16 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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