Summary: Lost in many ways last night, but still showed signs of improvement.
Set my Friday night up with a reservation at a great Sushi place with a girl I'd been on two dates with. The First, a few tacos and tequila shots followed by bringing her back to my place.(she doesn't stay) The Second, great night out on the town when we go back to hers. I was exhausted from some work travel and friends visiting the night before I didn't perform at my best, but we still had a great time.
Last night rolls around and I don't text or talk to her for about 2 days. She knew our reservation was at 8pm.
7:15pm - Me: "whats your address, I'll pick you up in an Uber at 7:45"
7:35pm - Her- "Nope. I just got out of the shower. I'll be ready like 8:15. Keep ya posted"
I don't respond and take an Uber to a bar down the road to get a drink. I know we are not going to make the reservation. i could call her out on it but I know the shit testing has begun. She's pushing my buttons.
8:20pm - She calls me and says she's outside. I tell her I'm at X bar come have a drink. I don't even mention her being late, missing the reservation. She never apologizes and her body language is already off. I act very casual as if I'm happy as fuck just to be having a beer and enjoying my Friday. At this point what's running through my head is "where did this girl lose respect for me"?
I'm starving and put a quick call into a less crowded Sushi joint to get us a table. I hadn't jacked off in days so I'm bursting with energy and feel her "energy" is off. She was a super sexually charged lady on our second date, and now she's this hot body that's like a cold fish.
We eat...dinner goes well, lots of sex talk and continued escalation from me. After a few drinks she brags about taking a 45 min shower...rubbing it my face that she gave no fucks about the reservation. She keeps up with some shit that I let go in one ear our the other. At some point she drops the bomb that she can't wait to go to sleep in her own bed tonight since she has to work tomorrow(at 10am) Then proceeds to brag about the late nights she had out during the week. This girl fucking sucks.
I don't show that I'm giving in to her shit. She knows my exactly what buttons she is pushing. She knows I am about to burst in my pants and that I'm into her.
I tell her she can get an uber home and that I'm going to meet some friends...she asks to stay and get more drinks...I say, "nah you need to get your rest" and I get in the uber and drive off.
What I felt I did right: not validate her shitty behavior by addressing her being late. Went along with the night like she wasn't going to phase me. When I knew she was playing games and wasn't going home with me...I walked away.
what I felt I did wrong - Showed too much interest early. She probably sensed she was my best option for the night. I had been giving dating a break to focus on saving some money for a trip to Europe. My options were limited and that's my fault. I'm more of a have great sex with 1 person than try and spin 4 plates and that's what I've been wanting to find. She probably picked up on that.
TL;DR - Walked away on a third date - back to the drawing board on understanding what I did wrong.
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