Too ugly for my ltr

throwitdownman · 2019-07-18T06:04:39+00:00

Don’t worry. I know a FEW hot women who, when I saw a photo of her boyfriend, me and all my friends (guys and girls) would go “wow, that’s him?”.

SMV is subjective - she’s with you for a reason. If she likes you for whatever reason, go with it EVEN IF it is not ‘traditional’ (ex: handsome, stable).

I know hot girls with a guy with a pretty bad visible skin condition (IMO attracted as he does drugs), another with a fat man (who’s rich and has a IDGAF mentality), and a hot girl who dates a guy a whole head shorter than her.

Call it a kink, or whatever, but the fact that you GOT her while others can’t means you are worth while.

takethedive · 2019-07-18T04:37:09+00:00

"They sound jealous. Did you give them my number?"

razenha · 2019-07-18T14:04:22+00:00

She is clearly using those comments to assert domination over the relationship. It's like she is saying "women in general find you ugly, so you better behave, obey every single thing I say and disregard any wrongdoing or abuse, because if I dump your ass you will be single forever, or at least won't be able to get some 8/10 girl". Be careful.

teveza11 · 2019-07-18T12:28:22+00:00

Most guys can't handle a girl that is significantly hotter than him for the reasons you describe.

It takes BALLS to go out with a hot girl, and that includes everything related to knowing that she is hotter than you are.

I've been where you are. I've had people talk shit about me to my girlfriends behind my back.

Another issue you didn't touch on, is how do you KNOW all of this? Is this based on what she told you? If so, she is looking for your reaction and didn't tell you this by accident. If you appear hurt in the least she is going to see it as weakness and also believe that you are ugly.

BurnieSlander · 2019-07-18T04:59:58+00:00

Sounds like you could increase your effort in the gym and in terms of grooming. “Just a simple dude” doesn’t sound like a guy with a mission.

Metalgear222 · 2019-07-18T13:36:33+00:00

Well you’re fucking her soooo what’s the big deal?

Mikejonz111 · 2019-07-18T12:10:32+00:00

Just know your looks won’t please everyone

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-07-18T16:13:22+00:00

Stop being a whiny faggot - "Wahhh! Some punk called me ugly! Wahhh!"

I have a giant, Slavic head, a broken nose, and I pretty much look like I am made up out of spare dinosaur parts....and yet you never see me here whining about how I can't get no puss. In fact, it amuses me, when I walk down the street with one of my girls and see the quizzical look... "How did He, get HER?" Yah, well I did, MFers, so eat your fucking hearts out.

Do the best you can with what you have. Exercise, eat clean and work on your Game. And kill your ego, it's a liability.

[deleted] · 2019-07-18T09:28:49+00:00

I suggest you keep frame and confidently joke about it like the person below said. “They sounds jealous did you give them my number.”

Also, did she straight up tell you that they though you’re unattractive? If girls are not respecting you all the way they WILL be ruthless.

throwawayycheyeah · 2019-07-18T05:04:37+00:00

I feel your pain honestly... I used to be a much more attractive guy. I was sought after buy girls in highschool and felt good in my body. Up until about 23 Now at 25 I feel like a 3/10 on a good day. Dont know how it got like this but I gotta make changes while I still can.

VigilantSmartbomb · 2019-07-18T10:52:55+00:00

Bro we’re all ugly, we’re bros lmao

Women are hot

You’ll find that whatever traits women adorn on this side of the world, women attest on another side.

Healthy and beauty are linked. Even if you have some deformity (like I do), it can be looked past.

Just eat right for a while my dude, dress nice, pamper yourself (seriously) and get that confidence up.

OverSentient · 2019-07-18T13:47:51+00:00

Be proud of yourself. It’s always impressive to land an LTR with someone more attractive. It means you’re only making up for it in a lot of other departments. No true red pill lifestyle relies on looks alone, it’s about all round development

DiebytheSword666 · 2019-07-18T14:50:32+00:00

It sounds like a test.

Of course, if you said to your girlfriend, "What do you have to gain by telling me this?" or "Yeah, I showed your pic. to my friends and they said you look like a porn star." It would just make you sound weak.

I guess you could say, "But what do YOU think?" and then smack her in the ass.

BaronIncognito · 2019-07-18T13:56:11+00:00

You need to get rid of that mindset by any means necessary or sooner or later you’ll convince her of that too.

deluxeDD26 · 2019-07-18T14:38:40+00:00

You are beautiful...and they are the ugly ones. Believe IT

Hace_XVIII · 2019-07-18T15:48:51+00:00

Seriously, we really forgetting the number one rule for women? Focus on what they do not what they say. Besides, when has a lion ever concerned himself with the opinion of sheep?

RedIsBestColour · 2019-07-18T10:03:27+00:00

But incels said ugly guys can't get girlfriends.. something doesn't add up.

SerbianChadnik · 2019-07-18T10:40:00+00:00

This sub has gone downhill

ZeppKfw · 2019-07-18T08:06:48+00:00

IT'S TIME FOR A PUMP BRO

Rimefang · 2019-07-18T12:36:45+00:00

If I called you ugly, would you care?

Think of my opinion the same as theirs.

Ryabemo · 2019-07-18T13:02:21+00:00

I know most people are saying don’t mind them but if you know smt, a woman will never find a man attractive if her friends or most girls don’t. Chances are that she isn’t attracted to you, she’s with you for a reason. Maybe she knows you’ll be faithful, maybe she knows you won’t up her or maybe she knows that she’s has power in the relationship.

I don’t know what to say to you but you either have to learn to live with it or just find a girl on your league.

latinasonly · 2019-07-18T14:18:09+00:00

if I see an ugly man with a hot girl whos attracted to him (not beta bucks ) i think more highly of him than an physically attractive man with the same girl. there must be something special about that ugly man.

MattyAnon · 2019-07-18T21:31:13+00:00

3x girls that she talked to said I was ugly

Did you hear this, or did she tell you they said this? Because it's not normal for girls to say this about the partner of another girl directly to her face... .and it's certainly not normal of a girl to relay this back to you.

I think it's a power play from her...... but any which way: ignore it and enjoy fucking her.

RedPillAlphaBigCock · 2019-07-18T10:46:35+00:00

This is a great complement- you character got her - maybe she is ahead of you but in looks but who gives a fuck - that’s just a bigger compliment

ChemicalGiraffe · 2019-07-18T11:22:04+00:00

Your turn could end anytime, enjoy it. In the meantime work on your finances and status considering you've given up on the looks part, it wont matter that much even to your future relationships.

buddboy · 2019-07-18T12:38:52+00:00

I got you fam.
My first post got removed because I linked to a subreddit. That being said if you spend 5 minutes on a little subreddit called the_wall I don't think you'll care too much about how you look now

1puck · 2019-07-18T15:40:02+00:00

Not one reply has said it yet? Damn

Look at what they DO, not what they SAY

chazthundergut · 2019-07-18T15:59:29+00:00

Dont ever worry that you're not pretty enough for a bitch. Its total nonsense

rattamahatta · 2019-07-18T16:50:18+00:00

You don't give a fuck why she likes you.

sans10__ · 2019-07-18T17:00:33+00:00

To be fair, you may just be interpreting it wrong. There is a possibility you might actually me good looking and they’re just trying to sway your gf by calling you ugly.

It’s the same thing when girls see an attractive guy and say “oh I bet he’s a player”, it’s a game of eliminating competition.

Once again this is just a possibility, but even if they did think you were ugly it wouldn’t matter because you’re LTR is proof that you can still pull.

Lambdal7 · 2019-07-18T17:41:48+00:00

Looks dont matter for men (except youre really ugly) , it’s all about personality.

Just say next time, theyre intimidated by my personality or something ;)

redpilllogin · 2019-07-18T17:45:08+00:00

The only one that needs to be attracted to you is your girl. If she finds you attractive that's all that matters. Do keep spinning plates and increasing your SMV tho.

00chuffer · 2019-07-18T19:47:51+00:00

I have personality and can get surgery if it bothered me. You will be shallow for forever.

Greaterbird · 2019-07-18T21:08:31+00:00

The best thing you could do is be unphased by it and find it funny in a cocky "I know something you don't know" kind of way. As if you've got $10 million bank and a 10 inch cock, or $10 in the bank with a 10 million inch cock.

Your mindset should be irrational confidence, like "wow, these girls want me so bad they're trying to smear me in the eyes of my girlfriend so they can have a go," and they're so transparent you can't help but burst out laughing at their desperation and the absurdity of the whole situation.

Eminencemiddle · 2019-07-18T23:28:51+00:00

She could be lying. Or joking, and she decided not to come clean after she saw your reaction, then, just forgot about it totally.

She could have said it so you wouldn't hit on her friends, or dump her ass.

Distractingyou · 2019-07-19T02:20:59+00:00

People hate you cause they feel they deserve more but they arent willing to put the work that you did, ignore those fuckers you may be ugly but they are only jealous that you are not a conformist person. You were better than them, enjoy that. Most people are sheep, they follow trends and at the end they lower down their spectactions cause they are lazy pussys but you didn't let society lower your spectations, people like you are fighters and thats why i respect you. Most faggots would say don't let the world define you but in reality that's not truth. Faggots, feminist and most girls are actually mindless walking funny stereotypes so that phrase doesn apply to them while for you this actually applys, you are actually a real dude that told himself i deserve better and you got it, society should respect you and because they arent willing to put the work to improve themselves the only thing they can have is envy.

apietroski8 · 2019-07-19T11:10:16+00:00

You are the prize, swallow the pill and accept it. You are putting her on a pedestal.

It sounds like you are insecure and jealous of the attention your gf gets. That is only going to drive her away. If you are lifting, lift harder. Change up your wardrobe, improve your financial situation. Increase your SMV and stop victim puking about your feels getting hurt cause her friends dont want to bone you too.

69XxXCuckboyXxX69 · 2019-07-19T11:58:09+00:00

blackpill hurts.

Kevchenkoo · 2019-08-14T17:08:16+00:00

Keep improving your smv by lifting and eating a clean diet. Also read books on self improvement (and apply it). Trust me, it will take a while for you to really feel like the man but try to keep that frame in your mind that YOU ARE THAT GUY. Don’t be a “simple dude”, become a fucking chad my brother.

rnsbrum · 2019-07-18T10:16:39+00:00

Never had any problems like this after lifting for 3+ years. Once you look like a super hero they throw themselves at you

SerbianChadnik · 2019-07-18T10:39:37+00:00

Cringe

warthundersfw · 2019-07-18T11:54:54+00:00

I used to be so attractive I would wall flower, put my hand on the hottest girls waist, and make out and close. Now I'm not. And I have virtually 0 game, but enough looks and IDGAF to get enough for my apetite. I miss the ol' days though.

For refernce, I still get checked out even though I'm fat, but I am obviously very muscular under a grotesque fat layer. If I was cut again I would slay so fucking hard.

DigitalDragonSlayer · 2019-07-18T20:21:27+00:00

First off, You’re not ugly OP. Coming from a fellow who isn’t white 6 feet or anything like Brad Pitt

Any bitch that says this to me, I next her. I would say verbatim: “ Look, I thought long and hard about the ‘ugly’ comment you made about me. I had to think for a while to see if my next action was coming from a place of insecurity, or if it was something I should ignore and I am fairly sure that my reaction to your comment is simply geared towards me taking care of myself, because I love myself and I should only surround myself with people who love me. I think you’d probably agree and feel the same way about that statement. Anyways, after thinking it through: we are done. have fun in the meat market that is today’s dating culture, if I’m ugly on the outside, you’re hideous on the inside. I’m thankful you said what you did, it showed me who you are. I wish you well, that’s it, I’m done, this is not a conversation.”

And walk the fuck away from her.

The only thing on your shoulders OP, is that from the limited amount of into you shared you don’t sound jacked enough. I know guys that are far from the Brad Pitt spectrum, and the farther you at the stronger, larger, and more intimidating you need to be. That’s the only criticism I have, and I hope it helps. Get a trainer to help you get big, eat clean and hit high caloric goals, use the sadness and hurt to fuel your commitment to the gym, and think of what a dumb cunt she is for having said that to you, as you rip iron.

Get after it. No excuses.

-Fellow “ugly” brother

Title	Too ugly for my ltr
Author	law_of_life
Upvotes	122
Comments	98
Date	July 18, 2019 4:25 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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