1) openers. no "i want to meet you." no "hi my name is". no "hey could i get your opinion". no "you are smoking hot". this is all a waste of time, it can work, but nothing beats situational openers. that means looking at her, read her. what is she doing, what is she thinking, what are her plans, what does she want right now. what is she looking at, what is she holding, what is she doing, etc.

the hardest girls to open are girls who are just standing on their phones. and yet this seems like a popular thing to do, approach girls who are doing nothing whatsoever.

no talk to girls who are doing things. make comments about what they are doing as you walk past, girls will respond to your comments, leverage it as an opener. theres nothing harder than thinking of a good opener for a girl who is texting...stop doing it....

2) asking for phone #'s out of the blue, when your phone is in your pocket. No. either get an app that will give you a fake phone call/text or find some downtime in the interaction and pull out your phone. the first time you pull out your phone instinctively you should ask her what her phone number is. period. you don't ask a girl what her phone number is unless your phone is in your hands anyways. if she gets nervous and reaches for her phone from her purse or something, ask her for her number immediately as well.

3) dont just stand there. make a comment as you walk past, let her say something, then you turn around and sort of let her reel you in. as soon as you feel uncomfortable - get comfortable, take a seat, lean or ask her to walk with you. whatever you do, don't just stand there, find an excuse to lead her "hey lets go check this out" around or get comfortable near her.

4) dont make your first kiss so serious. most girls dont care about their first kiss with you, really. they don't want it to be perfect, they just want it over with. if she likes you and your'e not kissing her you're just making her think of reasons not to kiss you.

5) don't james bond the interaction. if you can make a girl laugh do it. you don't have to be so serious. if you can make a girl laugh before you even open her (i.e. knock something over and blame it on her) then you already have won half teh battle. i know ugly guys that literally laugh girls into bed. use it. it works.

6) if she says something bitchy, make her repeat it. don't treat it like a shit-test, no need. most chicks wont say something bitchy twice. just say "sorry" or "care to repeat that?" or "excuse me?" or "what?" if she says it again -- its definitely a shit-test and treat it accordingly, but most girls you'll find can go to bitchy to polite in a heartbeat if you keep making them repeat what they are saying.

7) if she compliments you. touch her. put your hand on her shoulder and say "thank you" if a girl compliments your shirt, or says "thank you" for you helping her, put your hand on her shoulder and keep the conversation going. i had a girl tell me i had a nice shirt on - i put my hand on her shoulder and told her "thank you"- later she told me that that single movement made her wet.

8) dont take yourself so serious.

9) focus on presence. i know i can make girls nervous and sexual with my presence because i can see their body language morph around me. focus on intensifying this until you can see girls shift around you. too many guys have absolutely 0 presence. when girls talk about love at first sight they are saying that your presence made them feel nervous.

10) if you don't want to do something, but you know it will make you a better person in the end. force yourself to do that thing until you crave it. this includes exercise, approaching. generally it's not until you see the full strength and impact of these things on your life that you begin to crave them. but you'll never get there if you never take the first step, or the second step, or the third step, etc etc. approach until you HAVE to approach or you will feel shitty. exercise until you HAVE to exercise or you will feel shitty.