24 m. Cannot get a reply back from matches on tinder. Frustrated

double_prong · 2021-07-01T22:15:01+00:00

You don't understand online dating. Those girls have hundreds of guys vying for their attention. They could have 50 guys message them on the same day.

You expect that level of competition to be easy?

IhateTomScott · 2021-07-01T22:26:25+00:00

Here’s my god tier strategy for reply’s. Offer her a choice for the opener. One of these options should be a dirty pickup line. Other 2 don’t matter. Then you have free reign to choose the nastiest pickup line you can think of.

I literally have gotten numbers from the line “are you a fisherwoman, because u would look good holding my rod”

I went from 1 in 6 girls responding to me to almost 4/5 girls responding to me. Good luck

Western-Bite1759 · 2021-07-02T00:12:56+00:00

Online dating is crap for men. It's just the way it is. A good looking girl can be extremely picky if she wants too.

There are far more men than women on dating apps and these men are generally more serious about it. Some women are just there to boost their Instagram numbers for example.

Also if you don't pay for gold or something, the algorithm won't favor you at all.

Just get rid of dating apps honestly. It's not really worth it imo. It just inflates the ego of these girls and brings down your self worth.

focus_flow69 · 2021-07-02T02:54:51+00:00

Go outside and try in the real world. Rejection and/or success on tinder is meaningless As long as you only do tinder, you will be stuck in this frustration cycle.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-07-01T21:58:33+00:00

Texting isn't for getting to know someone..

Texting is for logistics and setting up dates only.

Bring up your "good topics" on the date in person.

BL00DINMYEYES · 2021-07-02T06:32:40+00:00

Not really seeing any good advice so I’ll give you these 3 links which helped me a lot.

Openers

How to talk to girls on tinder

Flirting over text

flennboyd · 2021-07-02T05:28:19+00:00

Do cold approach in real life, you’ll get a quicker response and better engagement in real life. Online dating doesn’t work for a lot of guys.

jwilhelm0618 · 2021-07-01T23:08:48+00:00

It's a joke

kurwarex · 2021-07-02T04:11:50+00:00

Read the “Unplugged Alpha” by Richard Cooper. It’s on Amazon and audiable. It’s a quick read. It will help. OLD is a messed up place. My 20’s was horrible with women overall and there was no OLD.

Particular_Visual531 · 2021-07-01T22:38:05+00:00

So first of all has this happened always or just recently? did you get matches and then go on dates before? But the short answer is 2 parts 1) you're not attractive enough through what little they get from the app to get automatically to dates, 2) you say you are good at texting, yet if its consistently not working then you're not doing it right. Each step should get you to the next step. Understand that everyone accept truly exceptionally attractive guys lose some of their matches along the steps, a portion of matches never text, some text a little and stop, some get to a first date and don't show up, some get to a first date and end it, etc. So if its a normal rate that happens and you have to realize that but you probably need to up your texting game and possibly your dating profile. I'm a big fan of Hinge, you see every match and there are some decent prompts that give you something to flirt about.

REMEMBER: Flirting is always joking and teasing. So always try to connect their profile with a joke/tease and keep about 70% of your texts in those areas. Other things that help in texting are mysteries that they want to know the answer too. So she says "where was you latest vacation?", you can make it more fun with maybe a multiple choice ( I went to Jamaica scuba diving, or Colorado to get in one last snowboarding trip before spring, or i went to Disney because I love star wars, which do you think sounds like me?). Or some questions that lead to a prize (her favorite drink at her favorite bar, etc) or a surprise. This restaurant has the best dessert. We can buy it but you have to promise to not look it up online before we go! Anything that builds mystery and fun.

fvckCrosshairs · 2021-07-02T06:51:32+00:00

its easy, stop relying on dating apps

gstwin89 · 2021-07-02T08:18:13+00:00

Quit online dating and meet woman in person. Thats what I did and am never going back to dating apps.

HorrorJolly1880 · 2021-07-02T16:30:25+00:00

Listen bro, every dating app is full of thirsty guys tryna get laid and women know this too. Don’t think them bitches don’t know so what they do is come on there and use guys for texting buddies, boost their ego and self esteem, and just string guys along. They get hundreds of messages a day and you ain’t special. Next time when you match a girl just flat out as for her number and move the conversation off the app. There’s a 50/60 chance she will decline and never respond good the bitch can go. Saves you the headache instead of you talking to her back and forth and you’re thinking something about to happen then she ghost. These bitches are ruthless and we gotta be even more ruthless cause believe on this, these hoes don’t care about you and you shouldn’t give a fuck about them either

mjshibz · 2021-07-01T21:42:45+00:00

Don’t take it too serious. Including your matches

SpecterHarvy · 2021-07-02T11:59:03+00:00

Didn't know that Tinder was hard for a lot of redditers.

I always use the same opener. After I let her laugh a couple of times. Mostly with the same two lines. Then switch to insta or whatsapp. After two messages on Insta or Whatsapp I go for the date. Succes rate around 90%.

Years ago I thought it would pay out to be creative or to put in much effort. What was I wrong. Lol.

Demnian1422 · 2021-07-02T14:09:53+00:00

I know what you mean. It happens to me often as well. I believe that dating apps should add to your dating life and not be the primary way you meet women. It's not to be taken seriously, it's supposed to be fun. That's what it's for. Fun!

Speaking from my point of view and I believe you should adopt the same mindset when it comes to dating apps:

I don't vibe with all women. It's something like 1 in 5 matches, sometimes more, so don't expect anything and don't get frustrated if few women in a row don't put in the effort.
Have fun with it, joke, banter, exchange knowledge about each other, and make fun of yourself and sometimes them. Don't take yourself so seriously.
I tend to have 1 or 2 good chat sessions with them where we have fun and then I suggest that we meet. If they agree, great, if they don't, don't bother with them anymore and focus on other women.
Serious conversations and topics are meant to be had in person and should still be mixed with funny banter. You can't really get to know each other, even if you exchange personal things if it's done via chat. It's just not possible. It kills the mystery about each other and it adds this fake feeling of closeness. The only expectation I believe is if both of you share the same beliefs and even then you shouldn't go too deep via text. Do it in person!
DON'T EXPECT that they ever reply. In all honesty dating apps are for women, not for men (like most things are). It's literally a catalog for women and there is so much choice that if it were you, I bet you'd still swipe on the best. Also, if you talk to 1 girl, she is probably talking to 3 guys, and sometimes there's just not enough time in the day to keep up with 3 conversations, so it happens that they reply in 2 weeks. Also, if she's been chatting with a dude for few days and you match today and have a good convo and the next day both you guys send her a DM, guess who she's gonna prioritize. The other guy, since she knows him better and is already invested some time in him. It's natural. Would you do differently?
REMEMBER - use dating apps as an addition to your life, have fun with it, don't take it seriously, don't take yourself seriously, and don't have any expectations. See what happens and try different things if something doesn't work. There is no right or wrong way. Act in the most possibly authentic for you way. I've seriously tried to re-enact the same AWESOME conversation I had with a different woman, and it didn't work out AT ALL, so it's not one size fits all, and don't look for one proven method that will always work. It doesn't exist, regardless of what PUAs want to make you believe.

I hope this helped.

pitterpatter812 · 2021-07-02T15:45:38+00:00

If she’s attractive, she’s got so many messages.

GarbageMe · 2021-07-02T17:08:07+00:00

First let me say that I am totally against completely misrepresenting yourself to get laid.

That said, there's nothing wrong with a little kidding around to make the whole online dating less painful.

I have a feeling the "nice conversation" you're having is boring. I only say this because most of them are. You don't know this person and they don't know you so you've got to convince a total stranger that you're not only not a serial killer but that you're also someone they wouldn't mind spending an hour with in person. You've got to somehow be interesting or exciting enough to stand apart from all the other shmoes out there trying to meet this same person. I don't know who you are or what your situation is but you might just let it drop that you're working the rodeo circuit this summer to raise some dough before you start astronaut school in the fall. Maybe you are taking some time off fighting fires out west because they want you to pose for the next firefighters' calendar. I don't suggest trying to actually pull off either of these ideas for any length of time (although they may be true, what do I know?) but the idea is to make yourself seem fun and interesting, not just honest and forthright. You don't want to make up little lies that you then have to try to keep alive for the rest of your life but make it clear that you have an imagination and can joke around and have some fun and most importantly that it wouldn't be a waste of time to meet for an hour or so in actual real life and it might actually be fun even if you don't get laid that first night.

ammads94 · 2021-07-02T18:06:05+00:00

The problem that I see here is that you're trying to have a full blown conversation on Tinder instead of spiking her interest to then set up a date irl

redbeast27 · 2021-07-02T19:08:20+00:00

Stop caring and go with the flow...if she wanted you she’d talk to you.

cava99 · 2021-07-02T20:28:57+00:00

Hurtful? No. I'm new to game, what I do know is you shouldn't be hurting, and you need to reset.

Humble-Language1269 · 2021-07-02T21:46:34+00:00

You need to keep the messaging as brief as possible, use the app to set dates not have conversations.

24 m. Cannot get a reply back from matches on tinder. Frustrated

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Title	24 m. Cannot get a reply back from matches on tinder. Frustrated
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Date	July 1, 2021 9:40 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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