A simple but incredibly effective tip

2013-06-25T04:03:02+00:00

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Captain_Unremarkable · 2013-06-25T03:11:11+00:00

TL;DR Strong eye contact conveys confidence, first impressions matter, and, therefore, use both simultaneously.

VirtuosicElevator · 2013-06-25T06:49:19+00:00

I started doing this a while back. It was a lightbulb thing. Just today i was in an elevator, going to the same floor as a beautiful blonde. I said same floor, halfway up I said "this is one slow ass elevator" which made her look back at me and then I gave the killer grin. She smiled back and gave THAT giggle(the one where the joke wasn't funny but you could tell she was attracted). She did it again as she walked off and looked back again....confidence to the max

Vivrant · 2013-06-25T05:11:22+00:00

Do you do this even when they catch you looking at them? I usually don't smile until I catch them looking at me, so I don't have to risk seeming creepy.

kungfutitties · 2013-06-25T06:29:45+00:00

Damn nigga I always do that look away thing because I got it in my head when I was young that seeming disinterested was attractive, when it's not, it's just disqualifying MYSELF.

shit

MYBOSSKNOWS · 2013-06-25T06:46:50+00:00

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I_HAVE_TWO_BALLS · 2013-06-25T07:17:15+00:00

lol this kind of reminds me of a funny story, the last day of school, I was kind of zoning out as I was smiling, and of course, I was zoning out while starting at a hot girl in my class, and then I noticed she was smiling at me.

seymores · 2013-06-25T05:15:14+00:00

It works for everyone. It's natural human response. Works even on bitter bitches on bad days.

gramblenator · 2013-06-25T05:11:28+00:00

Bro's from another mo', brothers from another mother. This is going to sound weird, but practice your grin in the bathroom. Creepy grins will flush this simple tactic down the toilet.

MarsayMarsac · 2013-06-25T07:46:00+00:00

I dared to look into the the eyes of teenage girl(too young for me), afterwards she and her friends followed me around in shopping center and tried to engage conversation in various ways. Maybe I shouldn't send her air kiss, because afterwards she ran behind me, touched my hair and ran away. Later I sat and drank my coffee, she came and seated herself in front of me at my table and started to ask all kind of stupid questions. I had to leave, because this was annoying me already. And all this because I looked into her eyes for a too long period. Be careful. :)

Ra1den · 2013-06-25T03:45:55+00:00

I like it. I'll give it a shot. I tend to stare without smiling. That is pretty stupid, come to think of it.

secr- · 2013-06-25T07:23:08+00:00

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yamehameha · 2013-06-25T11:02:55+00:00

I look like the terminator if i force a smile....

knoekie · 2013-06-25T10:17:14+00:00

As a girl I just have to add that a smile doesn't have to mean that a girl is flirting with you. Whenever I go clubbing I'm always in a good mood (because otherwise I would've stayed at homer), and I'm always smiling and dancing and smiling. And a lot of time it happened that I guy came to me saying "we flirted a bit, do you want a drink", or "I saw you smiling, can I have your number", and that I had totally no clue that I even smiled at him.

That being said, I think it's amazing how you're doing this. If I would catch you looking at me and smiling (and I'm even slightly interested) I would definitely smile back :) This also makes you more easy to approach. I wonder if there are any girls coming to you?? Could you give us an update?

secr- · 2013-06-25T06:30:34+00:00

This basic human 101 contact. Nothing new

Obviously when a girl smiles at you back. Thats a good sign

When she frowning and spraying pepper spray in your face. She not attracted to you

Shmoppy · 2013-06-25T07:21:04+00:00

Why not start it off? Catch a girl's eye, then when she looks at you, smile, hold it for a second then break eye contact and move on. She will remember you.

6mexicans · 2013-06-25T08:57:08+00:00

My go-to move.

incraved · 2013-06-25T11:39:15+00:00

How old are you and is this at college/uni?

Eskimosam · 2013-06-25T15:44:24+00:00

I have this experience all the time. The only difference is I do this with EVERYONE. I was known as the "nicer, more enjoyable, etc" of my two other recently hired colleagues because I greeted everyone with a smile. I don't have to know you but if we locked eyes you get a smile. It works wonders for people's opinion of me.

debrogliewave · 2013-06-25T06:20:19+00:00

Thank you for the reminder. I know exactly what you're talking about.

skcin7 · 2013-06-25T07:18:01+00:00

I do this trick too, all the time! :) I suck at fake smiling, so instead I usually wave and give the head lift as if I was saying "what's up". This simple act usually forces me to smile involuntarily, it gives off the emotion of happiness and good-will, which is an easy way to lead into a conversation, and usually leaves a great first impression of you.

electricumbrella · 2013-06-25T13:42:48+00:00

Confidence is one of those things that lends to itself. So the more you practice it, the more will come to you, the more you have, the more you get.

thumperj · 2013-06-25T16:16:20+00:00

Ok, maybe obvious to some, but let's say you are looking at her and she looks at you. You pause, hold the gaze and then smile. When do you look away?

To those it seems obvious, can you explain the next steps and timing a bit more?

centurijon · 2013-06-25T18:20:05+00:00

Thanks for putting this up, it's good advice. But this is also beginner advice straight out of the sidebar.

maineblackbear · 2013-06-26T00:17:44+00:00

yup. its all eye contact.

i remember (ah, back in the day) a girl who everyone thought was hard to get. because she was beautiful.

but i noticed she kept making eye contact . . . with every one . . .

so, i decided to make a serious effort at returning this eye contact.

Eye contact. Mutually beneficial intercourse.

Yup. true story--both of us happy. 17 years later. (sorry for the insipid ending, but its true)

2013-06-25T13:14:08+00:00

on trick i like is to have my head as if im looking at them but my eyes averted. when out of my peripheral i see them look at me i will turn my eyes and catch them.

john_bears_beats · 2013-06-25T07:29:23+00:00

nice that sounds down

mydailydos3 · 2013-06-25T16:30:30+00:00

I swear every time I do this, I smile and maybe a milliseconds before I do she looks away and I end up smiling at nothing !!! And then feel retarded lol

Gelnn · 2013-06-25T20:22:03+00:00

Isn't eye contact like a sidebar thing? Like a first chapter of the sidebar thing?

fresh1010 · 2013-06-26T01:08:53+00:00

So I do this and wink sometimes. It hasn't worked for me yet but maybe the wink is just a lil to much.

mormreed · 2013-06-25T15:00:01+00:00

Came here expecting to see how single moms in my area save money on car insurance from the title.

SecretAgentZeroNine · 2013-06-25T17:22:09+00:00

Pro Tip: Unless you're in a bar, party, or mardi gras-like scenario, try to avoid staring at women on the street. Personally I say don't waste your time with staring at women outside. Women (especially in NYC) are on their guards expecting the worst.

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peepeeparadise · 2013-06-25T15:32:10+00:00

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Moongrazer · 2013-06-25T14:28:06+00:00

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Title	A simple but incredibly effective tip
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Date	June 25, 2013 2:49 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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