Are all women like this?

jb3617 · 2021-09-13T15:34:18+00:00

If you aren't exclusive, it shouldn't be any surprise she's doing that. If you had that talk about only seeing each other, then it's an issue.

If it bothers you that much, it seems to me you see her as much more than weekend fun. Sounds like to me your equating sex and hanging out with her as an exclusive relationship.

You have two options: you can accept the fact she's seeing multiple dudes, have fun, and don't expect anything more, or cut her loose and find someone else.

barod2 · 2021-09-13T15:04:42+00:00

To the streets she goes my dude,

And no not all women are like this.

10000ColdNights · 2021-09-13T18:13:00+00:00

Just be a man. You’re the one getting laid lol your cares should be minimal. Beta move going through her phone. If you really wanna know just ask, although you are prob shooting yourself in the foot this early.

j2bbt238 · 2021-09-13T17:20:33+00:00

Sounds like you caught feels for a casual hookup. Either stop seeing her or tell her you snooped thru her tinder so she drops your insecure ass for you.

gmahogany · 2021-09-13T15:39:11+00:00

You’ve been seeing each other for 3 weeks. Yes this is normal. Imagine if you had attractive women asking you out left and right, how long would it take you to go exclusive? When you have the kind of options attractive women have, it doesn’t make sense to go exclusive until you see real relationship potential and you have a conversation about it. Keep dating around.

bigbobperson · 2021-09-13T16:44:18+00:00

What this means is that she will hook up with the next dude the next chance she gets. She's actively looking while being with you.

Ducharbaine · 2021-09-13T19:03:21+00:00

Real question is, why are you NOT doing the same? No one is special til they make themselves special to you. And vice versa.

You are the one who put all your eggs in one basket.

throwwwawayyy187 · 2021-09-14T00:38:20+00:00

As Future says she belongs to the streets.

Just enjoy having fun and the sex with her while it lasts. Don’t get emotionally attached to her because it’s a platonic thing to her

TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-14T01:11:37+00:00

Plate/FWB - no way in hell I'd consider her for an LTR.

Sure she may be open to an LTR - but that doesn't mean she's LTR material for you.

Yeah you're not serious, but if a girl really likes you, she won't be putting herself out there that much.

jankybusinessman · 2021-09-13T16:19:41+00:00

You were the woman in this situation, snooping is beta. You should always have a backup plan, some women(most) are pretty contradictory. Sorry this happened OP are you gonna confront, keep casual or fade? Also not trying to be rude just straight talk, respectfully.

sophist16 · 2021-09-13T15:12:02+00:00

No, not all women will have outside conversations when also talking to you.

My question is why don’t you know how to “act” anymore? Weren’t you being yourself the whole time?…or we’re you “acting?”

If you were being yourself, just continue being yourself. What would yourself do? Would you cut her off and never speak to her again? If so then do that. If it’s ultimately no big deal then keep it moving, have your fun on the weekends and that’s it. Pursue other women etc.

Another question, what exactly is the problem for you?

No-Platform-2184 · 2021-09-13T16:51:20+00:00

Honestly, this is why you don't go snooping. You two are not exclusive so she's just out there doing what she was probably doing long before she met you. Did you meet her on Tinder? If so, you were one of the ones that she actually met with! It might be more frequent than you, but tbh sometimes I match with several people at the same time and it takes 4-5 messages before only one of them even looks like a viable person to date.

I mean it does suck knowing about it -- but you brought that on yourself. You'll have to make a decision if this has soured you on the whole experience.

PoPoChao · 2021-09-13T19:47:41+00:00

She probably shit tested you to see how you reacted to that situation. Here’s the way I see it. Yes, the woman is most likely dating around. But she is spending her most valuable time with you. It sucks that a girl you like is fucking around and flirting. But especially attractive women do this. There’s no reason for you to try and control someone you’re not in a relationship with. I’ve gone through this shit especially lately and it’s a hard pill to swallow but this is the way of the world for a lot of women. You can either keep having sex or cut it off, be alone and then take 6 months to a year to find someone else you connect with unless you are brad Pitt.

appmanga · 2021-09-13T16:29:06+00:00

Like anyone would’ve did I started snooping thru the app and holy shit I was shook.

No, not "like anyone". There's a lot wrong here, and it all has to do with you. Don't be nosy if you can't handle what you find, and getting to have sex with someone doesn't entitle you to nose around. Beyond that, you violated her trust and privacy. Hopefully she'll realize it and shuts you down.

In the future, act like a secure human being and mind your own business.

bigbobperson · 2021-09-13T16:42:55+00:00

False. Her behaviour is wrong.

CurazyDayamondo · 2021-09-13T18:58:04+00:00

Don't waste your time on women like that king, keep on the grindset

2021-09-13T19:03:14+00:00

She hasn’t done anything wrong if you two haven’t discussed exclusivity and you are doing the same thing she is, even if it’s to a lesser degree.

CrabBucketSecurity · 2021-09-14T01:30:15+00:00

She's getting laid, you're getting laid. What's the problem?. The problem is you're not ok with her getting laid with other people. You either keep it going while you also date around or finish it. If you expect girls you met on tinder in 2021 to be exclusive to you without asking them to, you should probably stop using tinder and go meet girls wt church.

Revolutionary_Wind_8 · 2021-09-14T02:11:42+00:00

To the streets she belongs, brother.

2021-09-14T02:53:43+00:00

Welcome to 2021. Women have an endless abundance of simps and dicks to choose from. One for bills, one for dick, and one as an emotional tampon. Just play it smart. Don't get her pregnant and laugh later when she tries to lock you down when her youth is gone.

Nofapdeity · 2021-09-14T05:10:37+00:00

Make it known you’re fucking other women (even if you’re not, just lie) and see how she reacts.

For example maybe next weekend tell her you’re meeting with Sarah and you can’t. Now she’s wondering who Sarah is. Boom, now you’re playing the game

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2021-09-14T08:33:26+00:00

You've only been seeing her for three weeks. It's pretty unreasonable to expect her to be monogamous. If you and her aren't bf/gf you shouldn't be surprised if she's talking to other guys.

Also, maybe she likes you but she's polyamorous. If that's the case, maybe you should ask yourself if that's an avenue you want to pursue as well.

Affectionate-Ad6970 · 2021-09-14T12:39:38+00:00

Bro, The thing is: avoid being invested too much and too fast in someone that you're just seeing casually (in the weekends). If you'll invest more than they deserve, it will be like gambling with your feelings... it might work, it might not. If it won't work, it will hurt...

And if it will work, there is a chance that you'll be putting too much pressure, since you'll probably be far more emotionally invested than she is and it can also end up as it is now

Now, your situation with her is hard to turn (although absolutely possible) and it'd be easier to let her go, seeing other girls in this meanwhile without committing the same mistake

Maybe it wasn't meant to be with her, but she is a good lesson that will make you more "bad ass" to the right one, when she'll come to you

Title	Are all women like this?
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Date	September 13, 2021 2:25 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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