Being short

Turlast · 2016-07-13T07:10:11+00:00

It doesn't. The minute I stopped caring was the best thing ever. If you're overly obsessed with height, it'll definitely fuck with you. This isn't to say that short guys aren't at a disadvantage compared to their taller counterparts, but it doesn't matter.

Sometimes I'll wonder if approaching a taller girl is a good idea, but most of them won't care.

Messisfoot · 2016-07-13T13:41:38+00:00

The moment you let something, that you have no control over, influence your game, you've lost.

BTW, what is short? Depending on the country/city I'm in, I'm either tall, average, or short.

VinsTheSpaceDriver · 2016-07-13T09:36:18+00:00

I'm 5'5. I can tell from my experience that for some girls high does matter and for other it does not matter at all. It really depends on the girl and the only way to figure it out is by trying anyway. Most of my exes were taller than me so at the end of the day being short is not a big deal.

zomgitsduke · 2016-07-13T15:56:42+00:00

Things about women that make them just as insecure as you do about height:

Weight
Hair color
Hair style
Small blemishes on their skin
Their height
Shoe size
Big or little butt
Big or small breasts

If some of these things don't matter to you, there exist women where height won't matter to them.

Stop caring. I have a receding hairline, I'm average height, I stutter, I dont dress fashionably, and I don't have a 6-figure salary. Doesn't stop me from living my life and meeting people. Rejection is done by people not worth your time.

ShortyThrowaway87 · 2016-07-13T15:39:44+00:00

IDk if this would be of interest to anyone, but I wrote a post on r/short about how I personally have been very successful with the opposite sex.

You can see it here https://www.reddit.com/r/short/comments/4qet26/hello_alllong_time_lurker_i_want_to_share_with/

Speedz007 · 2016-07-13T11:08:41+00:00

It doesn't matter. And that holds 9 times out of 10 even when the girl explicitly states that she doesn't date shorter guys.

But if it matters to you, personally, then nobody can help you.

newtothelyte · 2016-07-13T08:08:33+00:00

I'm 5'7, it's never really been an issue with me. Even if you get a girl who is, say, 3" taller than you it's not really that big of a difference.

OtterAutisticBadger · 2016-07-13T08:06:30+00:00

just approach short girls if you dont want the big ones. some girls are just huge, but that doesn't mean you can't try. most short guys i know have a really strong build, and they always had girls. Just ask out that cute petite girl and you'll see she responds nicely to it if you're a nice, cunning, confident dude

Borjatone · 2016-07-13T12:38:26+00:00

Being short, my dick looks bigger in proportion to my body ;)

DaygameCoach · 2016-07-13T15:15:02+00:00

It's a self-limiting belief -- If you believe it's a problem, it is. Read the sidebar help on shit tests since you will get them.

Barkingtaco · 2016-07-13T16:04:42+00:00

It doesn't affect my game and it shouldn't affect yours. If you're done growing in height doesn't mean your done growing as a person. Strive to be the best version of yourself, "private victories precede public victories." Don't put so much thought into things that you have no control. Focus on things you can control and if females see that you are on a successful path, they usually like to tag along.

iamthesage · 2016-07-13T16:24:06+00:00

This weekend i slept with a chick taller than me , and I picked her up on the train on my morning commute.

Am I tall? No, average height 5'6". Am I well built? No, average build. Six pack? no, a small beer belly.

Point is nothing matters. I saw her, made eye contact and talked to her. My height was never an issue.

Are there girls who wouldn't want to date guys my height. Yes there are plenty. But I don't want them.

Dont worry about your height. Work on your game . Approach and talk to girls.

notoriousTPG · 2016-07-13T17:28:24+00:00

There is a fetish for everything

GreeceZeus · 2016-07-13T18:01:44+00:00

My first girlfriend was four years older and one head taller - and I didn't even start with pick up!

Silly_Randy · 2016-07-13T18:40:55+00:00

I'm like 5'5...maybe less. When you have real confidence, not the kind where you are putting on a mask. I mean real, inner confidence and you're being flirty and fun. The chick doesn't even realise that shes looking down at you. All shes thinking is man this guy is so fun and before you know it, shes attracted to you.

Height isn't as much of an issue as it is in our minds. If a chick rejects you or doesn't respond to your game, don't automatically blame your lack of height. Your height is done. It's set in stone. But your game and presentation can always be improved.

Have fun man

Lokko24 · 2016-07-13T19:25:37+00:00

Great discussion here guys. A good post to help shed some insight on an area that many of us face. Wish this community had more of these in every aspect of seduction. Keep it up gents!

marsm · 2016-07-13T20:37:19+00:00

Just make the most out of yourself, I suggest starting here: /r/shortfashion

This doesn't even have anything to do with game, it will simply make you look better for everyone around you, including yourself. That should raise your confidence already by some degree just like working out does.

Before the downvotes come raining down. This was one of my faults for many years, I was wearing clothes that made me look even shorter than I already was because I never put any kind of effort towards finding stuff that fits REALLY well (which is hard when you're short).

SexlessNights · 2016-07-13T22:27:06+00:00

I don't consider myself short but I've definitely talked to taller girls. Not a big deal.

2016-08-15T12:24:50+00:00

Being short is one of the things thats an absolute dealbreaker for some, no matter how much "Game" you have

TheJasonSensation · 2016-07-13T13:29:01+00:00

It sucks. This is how most all females feel about short guys: http://thoughtcatalog.com/anne-gus/2014/07/its-time-we-sent-all-short-men-to-the-gas-chambers/

Snazzy_Serval · 2016-07-13T14:08:11+00:00

Without a doubt short men are at a disadvantage with women.

Going just by your looks, almost all women see you the same way you would see a 200 lb woman. Dating is much harder when a woman is not physically attracted to you.

Having good game can change a woman's perception of you and overcome her initial non-attraction.

As a point of reference I'm 34 years old and 5'5. Average looks, fittish body and I've had only one relationship which only lasted six months. At this point I just don't have the game and confidence to make up for my height.

Here's an article I like on short guy game.

Dating as a Short Guy: What to Know and Do

Written by an actual short guy, not some dude who is 5'9 and thinks he's short.

Inerthal · 2016-07-13T12:31:01+00:00

I'm not tall being 5'9 but honestly never had any trouble seducing. That doesn't mean I wasn't rejected and faded on because of my height, pretty sure I have, but that's their problem. Not mine. In fact my longest relationship was with a 6'0 girl.

Title	Being short
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Upvotes	37
Comments	74
Date	July 13, 2016 6:55 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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