QUESTION: If I want to get good at game, should I aim to start out not trying to get laid and just approach?

MR_Shigitoshi · 2022-07-19T23:14:08+00:00

Yes, trial and error, learn from your mistakes, practice and get better

mrmarkme · 2022-07-19T23:28:19+00:00

If you’re in college you don’t need to approach. If you have a good circle of friends and get into the parties and shit, then all you need to work on is your social skills. Learn how to flirt and hold a girls attention, if you can’t pull mutual friends then you got a lot of practice to do

burakbenxd · 2022-07-20T03:52:29+00:00

I've been doing cold approaches for like 2 months now, and I'm literally making out with a girl every day now. Just be confident. My girl today told me that she really likes my confidence, etc. Be yourself, confident. Learn some humor too. Before I was on this sub I was a mess, helped a lot. Before this, I literally had one kiss! I'm 25 too. Apparently I can make out well... which I learned today hahaha

wolfbee16 · 2022-07-20T02:09:50+00:00

100%. I never got girls until I adopted the mindset of having fun first. Think about it, if your not good at game, and then you add the pressure on yourself that you HAVE to get laid to have a good night, your setting yourself up for failure!!

I went from 4-55 in a year by not caring at all. That’s not to say not to flirt! Of course flirt, grt better!! But don’t make your sole priority to get laid! I’m telling you, every time I did that I never got laid!! Not once! It put SO much pressure on me and I failed.

Go out, just chat to girls at first. Get to know them. Practice practice practice!! You will fail, 100%. Many many many many times, but that’s how I learned. Eventually you learn and get very good at it.

TLDR: Have a mindset of practicing, not getting laid

My post with over 1.2K upvotes from my hoe phase year where I go in extreme detail on everything I learned about game. It got to the point where I could categorize most girls into 8 types- https://reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/akftv6/from_afraid_to_look_a_girl_in_the_eye_to_getting/

booniedog1 · 2022-07-19T23:23:53+00:00

Great question. I've been watching videos from a guy named Social Animal and it's inspired me to go out and do it.

sidbunch6 · 2022-07-20T08:44:14+00:00

i think work on your look (style, fitness etc) instead of your 'game'. You just need to not be super weird and that's enough game. And of course escalate on the girls who like you.

Live-Ad-6309 · 2022-07-20T09:05:02+00:00

Yeah. Measuring your success by the number of women you sleep with is a recipe for disaster. Since in the beginning you will have a high rate of failure.

grindforthegold · 2022-07-20T15:20:30+00:00

honestly once i started approaching i was surprised by how good girls reacted to me. my biggest issue was actually prematurely ejecting

Professional-Ad676 · 2022-07-19T23:52:18+00:00

i dissagree with this idea, that you shouldn't try to get laid...
how the fuck are you supposed to get laid if it's not even in your intentions, that's like saying you wanna learn to swim but never touch water and when your good enough at swimming on land then you'll get in the water.

NO, you learn to swim by actually atempting to swim, yes it's harder, it's scarier, it's more frustraighting, but it's the only option you have.

either that or you're lying to yourself.

sure in the begging put smaller goals, like maybe just saying hi, then kissing, then pulling etc.. but the ultimate goal should always be in mind

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-07-19T23:16:09+00:00

You should never approach women aiming to get laid.

incognito3107 · 2022-07-20T09:33:05+00:00

Yeah, keeping high expectations is not helping you much, there are many variables concerning girl you approach, circumstances, your mood that can undermine and push your approach into different outcomes. Just get a liking to interacting with women and do it as frequently as you feel, and some of them may turn into romantic ones. Learn from mistakes, improve your social skills and appearance, enjoy your quest.

carlos1973633826 · 2022-07-20T14:55:37+00:00

Changing you behavior is hard. Unless you can endure months of rejection you won’t make it part of who you are.

To gain more confidence improve your looks every way you can. Also go out all the time so your more comfortable in large groups of people, ideally go to the place where you will be approaching.

EARLY20RAG3R · 2022-07-20T16:28:25+00:00

You gotta go through trial and error; do it and fail to find something that works for you and gets you results.

Theres no cookie cutter approaches to seduction.

Title	QUESTION: If I want to get good at game, should I aim to start out not trying to get laid and just approach?
Author	capbassboi
Upvotes	30
Comments	35
Date	July 19, 2022 11:13 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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