Being average looking really been fucking me in the ass in the dating market!!

zozozie · 2022-05-28T13:54:48+00:00

Bro when you say you are "getting sex, but not with the girls you really want to fuck" aren't you basically judging females on what you don't want to be judged on?

Cause your point is right, that looks do matter, but you are basically insinutating that you want to fuck good looking girls who are higher up the scale of 10? Yet you are quick to judge girls who want good looking guys?

Bro, I completely agree with everything you are saying and your points do make completely make sense, but it seems a tad bit hypocritical, that you are seem to be averse to when girls value good looks more than average looking, yet it seems like you have the same mentality they do?

VeliVoy · 2022-05-28T12:03:21+00:00

Yeah man- I am thankful, but life's still quite unfair... The things that you can never control is what ppl judge you based on.

I earn good money. Got a stable job. Nice car. About to buy a house. But what I get judged on is what I look like. Smh. I'd do what it takes if it was in my control to change what I look like- I have already peaked (Dress well, nice perfume, & haircuts) and my peak is still less attractive than what the good looking guys look like without taking a shower for two days straight.

El0ngatedMan · 2022-05-28T14:21:42+00:00

This just sounds like excuses.

Here’s the deal: less attractive dudes can and do get hot chicks. Everyone has seen this when they’re out and wonder “why is that chick with that dude.”

The point is, looks can help a lot but they are not a hardline requirement to attracting top quality women.

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-05-28T12:42:44+00:00

Everything u said is true but ppl hate it

Kadabrium · 2022-05-28T14:53:40+00:00

go to r/femboy and tell them looks matter

kiramdahanett · 2022-05-28T12:03:45+00:00

seems like you living in your head & influenced by dating roaches , just go to real life.

No-Historian-6391 · 2022-05-28T15:40:57+00:00

Work on your looks then

J33P88 · 2022-05-28T13:42:18+00:00

So you're upset that you're only getting less attractive girls because you're less attractive? I don't see why you'd be complaining about being judged based on your looks when that's obviously how you judge women as well.

Sensitive_Yam_6661 · 2022-05-28T13:59:48+00:00

tbh you just sound like an incel.

Bingo_is_the_man · 2022-05-28T15:50:22+00:00

If you’re a white guy it doesn’t matter though. Basically a white guy 7 does about as good as. 10 if you have pigment. Someone actually published that data a few years ago. If you’re that insecure. Go to a gym and get jacked, get a better haircut, style, etc. it won’t change the fact that you’re ugly but at least it will improve the odds. Cheers m8

willgo-waggins · 2022-05-28T16:24:08+00:00

You sound bitter and like you want shit handed to you.

Get yourself a better education and job to make better money. Have nice stuff, dress well and be stylish. Be clever and funny and social. Make women friends instead of hating them and looking at women as a hole in the mattress like you obviously do from your original post here.

You can do a LOT of things to make up for being an average looking guy to be able to score in those upper ranges. But it takes work and effort not just bitching about losing the genetic lottery.

atomant88 · 2022-05-28T12:21:20+00:00

This rant has nothing to do with game

Looks are a factor, but game is the bigger factor. I'm average looking, no issues with girls. Upgrade your game and stop whining, deflecting, and wallowing in self pity. Take ownership of your own failures, and your own success.

hopesy123 · 2022-05-28T14:21:46+00:00

Game plays a big part, but since you have decided that isn’t working, then there’s only some options left. Simple. You want hotter girls, then you need to be on their level, or at least hotter than you are now. If you aren’t blessed with good looks then pay for it, get plastic surgery, I recommend from Korea, they are famous for good plastic surgery that looks naturally, use steroids to get bigger, idk how tall you are...but obviously all these can come with side effects, but yeah that’s life guess. So get money and pay to get hot.

ParticularAmazing112 · 2022-05-28T17:25:48+00:00

I mean you’re right but not in the way you think. I have a couple super attractive mates myself that seem to get the number of every girl they approach without doing much. I myself have to put in more effort. What I have found though is that although no girl would want me just for my looks, once I win them over with game, it’s over. There are plenty good looking men that approach women all the time, especially good looking women. Very few of those men can keep them on the edge because they’ve always let their looks do the job for them.

The women my attractive mates lend seems to always want to associate with me more than them after a few get together. My friends think it’s just cause I have an accent and I’m a bit charismatic but it’s honestly because I have to rely more on game since I didn’t have the looks and that’s essentially what women want. They want to be seduced, to be impressed.

External_Lifeguard49 · 2022-05-28T15:53:00+00:00

Looks don’t matter. Game is everything. Period.

VeliVoy · 2022-05-28T12:01:46+00:00

The same girl who would be giving me attitude would be the one staying up late in the night, change her sleep schedule so she could talk to the good looking guy- They text them, they leave all of their work in between and reply to them. I text them, "they were too busy to reply". Not that it has happened with just one girl. Multiple times man.

Handle-me-timber · 2022-05-28T12:16:55+00:00

Hopefully you’re working on improving yourself at the same time. About the time you start making big moves in career and staying fit, all of a sudden you’re banging 7 and 8’s. You won’t get 9’s and 10’s consistently without being a top 10% dude, but you can find one occasionally.

321gumby · 2022-05-28T15:46:35+00:00

So stop being average... I was a skinny-fat dad 4 years ago. Gym, style, attitude and im still like dude I can't believe this girl is hanging out with me....and she be like " you fucking other girls arnt you.... "

Get better or don't...

revente · 2022-05-28T16:09:51+00:00

Don't go after 5s and 6s. Even if you're average, they won't be easier to get. And they are usually much bitchier.

Also it's much easier to pick up a girl that makes you very horny.

Alternative_Eye_2799 · 2022-05-28T16:32:11+00:00

Buddy you are average looks dont for average looking people, looks only matter for people below average

Archyblackcat · 2022-05-28T16:52:13+00:00

Bro the problem is that the girls you wanna fuck are only 1 in 4 .. the top 25% .. so obviously they’re gonna be in more demand.. so just become more attractive to get into the top 25% in looks for men.. this should be easily achievable if you’re a solid 6/10 .. just put on some muscles, wear clothes that showcase your figure (your most attractive asset) and get a cool hair cut and stay well groomed( get a hair cut every 10 days) then you’ll be able to get the girls you can’t get rightnow.. you will still be rejected a lot because good looking men still get rejected by good looking girls but you will be able to land a solid 8 -9 at least sooner or later

Health077 · 2022-05-28T17:06:27+00:00

Oh so your getting anal

Khower · 2022-05-28T17:22:43+00:00

Girls really do care about personality as much or more as looks on average.

Psychological studies prove it, if you think the opposite you probably don't have the personality you think you do and it doesn't translate well to dating

Sure looks make hooking up easier, but for finding a partner... girls won't take the good looking chump seriously.

There's comfort in telling yourself something outside of your control is why you aren't getting anywhere in dating but that's the easy way out. Do the real work and the girls follow.

JoeBeezy123 · 2022-05-28T17:24:36+00:00

sorry to break it to you man, but looks certainly don't matter. You may be telling yourself that to fill the void of whatever self fulfilling prophecy you believe in but its certainly not the case. If that's the attitude you have then maybe you don't deserve the girls that you want. I can tell you first hand, I am a registered nerd, the Harry Potter looking type, I am 135 lb's brown hair and wear glasses. I changed my behaviors and attitude towards everything when I was 20 and (not to toot my own or anything) things have dramatically changed for the better, my haircut, my style in clothes, my attitude and ever since I've never had a problem walking up or talking to women, and even if I do get rejected I love it because its a learning expirience. Am I really gonna compete with a bodybuilder? absolutely not, and that's the reality of life, some people have good genetics, but you can't worry about that and its bullshit if you do, how do you know if that good looking person wasn't ugly at one point when they were younger and actually did something about it ( working out and taking care of themselves and dressing nice) and got to where they are now? I am not a fem-guru but I know first hand that people in general like people who take care of themselves. I already know your gonna say "oh yea I do take care of yourself". Well its not enough, change your attitude, change your personality, because clearly the current one you have isn't working so how's it gonna help you long term down the road? you need to change, you also need to have a I don't give a fuck attitude if you fail with one girl. there's millions of others. If a girl doesn't want my number you know what I do? I smile and laugh politely and say "Its no problem, I totally understand " and walk away..NEXT..it's that simple. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and change, more importantly get those toxic thoughts of looks matter, your breeding more incels by saying that, and I've experienced and met more people who were uglier, shorter and out of the norm not good looking with way more attractive partners than I'll ever dream of having in my life.

rjones416 · 2022-05-28T17:36:40+00:00

when i walk around the city i see average and even ugly guys with hot girls all the time.

YerekYeeter · 2022-05-28T20:53:12+00:00

One of the truest things I've ever heard

If you're attractive the world is alot nicer for you and you don't even notice

Title	Being average looking really been fucking me in the ass in the dating market!!
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Date	May 28, 2022 11:59 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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